I am a 25 year old born again Christian but I am not a virgin, and I have chosen to abstain from sex until I'm married. I find it hard not to think about guys, and want to mess around with one in particular. I don't plan on having sex but I want so bad to do more than make out. It's hard not to want to do more since I already know how it feels. How do you prevent yourself from going too far? What advice do you have about remain faithful to God? ((Serious answers only please))!! Thank you!
2007-08-02 04:10:07 · 18 answers · asked by Sandy Beach 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
There is no question of remaining faithful to God - only to your own beliefs and strength of character.
You are young, healthy and in the company of young health males. You are at an ideal age for child-bearing. Of course your hormones are going through the roof! Mother nature is telling you to go forth and multiply!
To keep yourself in balance, just remember that these feelings of lust are very fleeting - the passion wears off in relationships very quickly.
What is important is to remember you are looking for Marriage - a long term partnership - you are looking for a longer lasting, better relationship that mere coupling can ever achieve. Recognise the feelings you have are simple, ordinary, healthy urges. You also have a mind. The mind is always stronger. The benefits you will feel when you eventually find the right man for you will be worth whatever discomforts you are feeling now.
2007-08-02 04:21:10 · answer #1 · answered by emmax2304 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think some people here are not respecting her decision to abstain or are just not listening.
My advice is not to spend time alone with this guy. You are just tempting yourself.
It's only natural to want sex because God made it, but he only intended it for married couples. I would pray about it and ask God for His guidance and strength. He is always faithful. When the right man finally comes along you will be happy you waited.
As far as the comment goes about not enjoying it and and getting a divorce, that is just silly! It was be fun learning together and teaching one another what you like, and if you would divorce because lack of experience in sex or not enjoying it than you are not very smart. You can always learn!
2007-08-02 04:26:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nowhere in the bible does it say that Sex is a sin. If it were, we wouldn't have been created man and woman, nor would the creator have made sex such a wonderful experience.
The only caution that God gives, is that sex taken to extremes is a sin. Thinking about sex is normal, a guy does it every 10 seconds or so, and I'm betting that women do the same.
Sex, inside of a loving relationship is a good thing, and doing it when married is even better.
If you made a promise to God not to have sex, then you've promised to master a part of your life that was leading you astray (maybe.) It is more of a sin to break a promise to God, (Even though he understands human nature,) than it is to have sex before marriage.
All I can say, is this is between you and God, and not you and us.
In my personal opinion, if your guy is a good guy, he'll understand and will wait till your married to "Know:" you.
2007-08-02 04:52:39 · answer #3 · answered by josephwiess 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know exactly how you feel. I don't know how close you are to Chicago, IL but there is an awesome ministry here taught by a very dynamic woman of God called "Singles Pleasing the Lord." She has taught from the bible so many ways on how to live sex free, pleasing God, wait until marriage, and what to look for in a mate. I can only tell you that God created marriage for His purpose alone, which is Kingdom purpose! If you can not make any of her meetings you can go to the website and order some of the teachings. I'm telling you it is the only thing that is keeping me sane, sex free (going on six years now), and pleasing to God. God bless!
www.singlespleasingthelord.com
PS: I strongly recommend her book "Becoming Marriage Material and How To Believe God For A Marriage Partner"
By Debbie Adebayo
PPS: Please whatever you do, ignore the posts here that suggest you go ahead and have sex. Remember the bible says that the world loves its own! That means that those who do not believe or accept God's truth will support each other's opinions and lies. Don't do anything that goes against your faith! Without faith it is impossible to please God (Hebrews 11:6). The bible also says that to make a friend (adopt the opinions, ways, etc) of the world is to become an enemy with God (James 4:4). Remain faithful to God and He will help you control your human urges for His glory, which is to BLESS you with a happy, God ordained and secure marriage. Trust in Him and I promise you He will lead you to His peace, love, and joy!!!
2007-08-02 04:20:23 · answer #4 · answered by drivn2excelchery 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Honey, if you want to fool around with him, do it. And if you don't want to have sex, don't. It's actually all about will power. If you only want things to go so far between the two of you make it clear to him in the beginning and don't be afraid to say the word NO if he happens to "forget".
However, if you want to have sex with him and are getting grief from others about how it is a "sin", etc. I can only give you this advice: It is your life. You choose how to live it, not them. If having a sexual relationship with him is what will make YOU happy, then take it slow and live your life. Please use protection though.
Blessed Be. Hope you find what you're looking for.
2007-08-02 04:22:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Oh just do it. Use protection. Your god will forgive you anyways. Just thinking about sex is technically a sin. You probably commit a dozen or more sins a day why draw the line at this one? There's nothing wrong with sex before marriage.
2007-08-02 04:20:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
I'm a guy whos not a virgin and ya I think about it all the time but honestly I dont literaly think about it all the time but ya its normal for GUYS to think about it a lot. honestly I would just say do it, why not? also HM HM I could help you with this problem.
2016-05-21 00:36:06 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honor God. He knows what is the best for us. You can also get married and enjoy.
2007-08-02 23:37:56 · answer #8 · answered by Nina, BaC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's human nature to want sex. But to remain faithful to God, I'd just reccomend waiting until marriage, but if you need help, ask Him, pray about it, and he'll help you through it.
2007-08-02 04:14:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Stay too busy to think about it.
Personally I don't think sex is a sin, but if you do then you should try to fill your life with so much that you don't have time to be horny.
2007-08-02 04:15:21 · answer #10 · answered by hypno_toad1 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋