My stepbrother is horrible(but my stepmom constantly says "oh thats his personality type and he will be SOO succesful in life because everything is all about him" *snore*, and sometimes i feel like my parents ask me to do things because they know he won't do them. So I'm cleaning the kitchen twice a day picking up after people and you know i partially understand because my step mom is stressed out with her new job and everything. But it's summer and i really needed this summer to relax and wind down. Is it selfish for me to think that my relaxation takes precedence over doing my brothers chores so my step mom doesn't have to deal with him?
2007-08-02 04:02:45 · 5 answers · asked by Brandon J 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
It is not selfish whatsoever. Everybody needs their own special time on their own sometimes and summer is the best time to do it. Just speak quietly to your step mom when you are both alone and calmly tell her that you are absolutely worn out and see how she reacts. If she doesn't say anything, then just say that maybe it is time your step brother does some of the chores too. If she over-reacts, walk away and have another think. It is her with the problem. Stop cleaning up after everyone else in the household and only start cleaning up for yourself. if she starts blaming you for the mess, then tell her that it's not your mess, it's your step brothers (if it was actually him that left the mess around). Hopefully she will realise the situation properly. I hope this helped you.. ~H
2007-08-02 04:09:35 · answer #1 · answered by ♥H] ッ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
omg! that is so unfair (on u that is!)u right this is ur summer as much as anybosy else, i take it ur in skool, so this is the holiday where ur supposed to have fun! not stuck in the house becoz ur lazzy step brother cant b botherd to get up of his a*s. i no ur mum maybe stressed n what ever, n its nice that ur doin somethin to help her, bt ur brother shud help her as well!!!!!!! man, doesnt her no how to take the responsibility, this attitude will get him NO WHERE IN LIFE!!! people will look down on him n see him as lazy and aragont who looks down on others, u on the other hand will do so much better, because u are hard workin, consciensous, determind, open minded n focused. try to find a suitable time n talk to ur mum, tel her that ur tryin ur best to help around the house n that ur tryin to help her bt at the same time u want to have a summer which u quite rightly deserve!!! say that it wud be better foe EVERYBODY if u and ur brother shared the responsibilities around the house, honestly it sounds like cinderella, where u do all the hard work n everybody else swans off! if i was u i wouldnt stand for it no way!!! i really hope things work out, be remember even if they dnt n u still feel in despire, just remember that is is u that has the skills an employer will want not a lazy bone iddle person that r brother sounds like, i mean as soon as ur old enough u can leave home n wave good bye to them, so do ur best to sort things out, n even if they do i still feel ur the better person,
BEST OF LUCK!! STRENGTH BE WITH YOU!!! JUST HOLD ON IN THERE!
2007-08-02 11:16:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry im 12 and ive been having a really hard time latly my parents think that wen i tell them somehing that i just want attention all my life at some point in time ive been "in the corner" like wen i was little and my bro was first born my parent found me in the corner crying and i told them i felt neglected ever since my brother was born like i dont matter anymore. my dad just started talking about how thats not true and to go up stairs and play w/ something. now ive gotten bad enough to were i pretty much live in my corner (diffrent corner cant fit in to my other one) my parents havent even noticed i only go to corners wen i feel like no one sees me so if i go to the corner its like theres no diffrence no one notice that im in the corner like they never noticed me standing there and the sad thing they never do notice my summer and especialy last school year were hard enough and now my dad packed on 2 jobs one is a kinda major one were i have to answer fones all day and then he expects his messed up little 12 yr old girl who is exahsted from work to come home clean up after a puppy take care of the pool and make shure all of the appointments for every one in the house are all right in my head and alot of the ties i have to clean up after my brother. last time i checked wen ur daughter tells u she's suicidal u should listen wen she is showing signs of major stress and depression u lighten up on her nt making every thing harder i already had trouble keeping my grades up so now i have to almost everything while my little brother is at the ae wen my dad started to crack down and instead he gets to do everything early thats good and then wen it comes to working he gets to play video games all day and wen he breaks dads rule of how long he can play my dad lets him play more! were wen something due to nature messes up my dads little floaties i get blamed!. so dont feel like ur alone i was expecting a normal summer not a summer fit for a 40 yr. old
2007-08-02 11:27:42 · answer #3 · answered by just ME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could encourage him to help you when yuo're working around the house?
ask him!
i don't know why she babies him.. maybe it's because he's a WIMP!?
seems YOU are very responsible. that's great.
2007-08-02 11:08:39 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats just rong u shouldwent be doin that how rude of them
2007-08-02 11:08:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋