My bf and i have been together a few months, he and i were friends before that for a year or so. Yesterday we were together and just watching tv and hanging out and he seemed kind of bothered by something, so i asked him what was wrong and then he told me he was feeling depressed and then he was saying he didn't know why and then he got upset and started to cry. I just sort of listened and rubbed his back and stuff. He was treated for depression before, but i don't know what to do about it. I feel like there really isn't anything i can say because i have limited experience with this sort of thing and i'm not sure what else to do to be supportive. He also says he likes when we spend time together,and it makes him happy. but i don't want him to use me a crutch for his problem, i'm just not sure what to do.
2007-08-02 04:01:30 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
lighten him
2007-08-02 04:05:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once he gets better, he should take you out to eat. I'm being serious because you really sound concerned. So, I hope that I can shed some light on this issue since I suffered from depression. There are different levels of depression, and I must say that I think the worst level you can get to is feeling suicidal. I got to that level. If he is not seeing a counselor or psychiatrist, he needs to get some appointments set up with them so he can have support from proffesionals who have been trained in that area. You need to ask him questions like how are you feeling, what are you thinking about, what matters to you right now? See, those questions will help you to see what his mind is on. His parents do need to be informed of what is going on in his life. I know this may be hard for you, but you need to ask him if he has thought about killing himself. Do things with him that you know he likes to do. Usually, a person that is depressed has lost interest in the things that matters most to them. All of this will help you and his parents get a better knowledge of what he is going through. I am not saying start acting like a counselor around him because that will make him uncomfortable. You continue to be yourself but be more inquisitive. Depression makes you want to be alone. From the sounds of it, I don't think he is at a very serious level because if he was he wouldn't have said he likes when you are around. That is a good thing. I wish you and him the best. Take care.
2007-08-02 04:18:24 · answer #2 · answered by Lost4Words 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suffer from depression as well, and when the feeling hits you there is nothing you can do about it, you just have to be patient and in a day or two hopefully it will pass.
Is he old enough to be on medication?
I am taking Cymbalta and it works very well, I still get depressed every once in awhile, but not as much. Just please understand that there is nothing he can do to make it go away, it just takes time.
2007-08-02 04:06:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy needs serious counseling and you need to step away from the picture a little bit.
My friend is dealing with one of these guys and she's only 22 yrs. old...ever since they met, 5 years ago, he has been using drugs and threatening to do harm to himself. If she tries to leave he threatens her.
But when they are together he gets abusive and pushes her around. It's a horrible thing to watch and I have tried to explain to her to leave him and move out.
Honestly, you have to get away from that relationship. As like my friend she thinks she will get him better, she can't and neither can you!!! He can only make himself happy and until then you need to step back and let him realize what makes him happy!
2007-08-02 04:12:35 · answer #4 · answered by Bird Questions 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to go to the doctor and get on medication immediately and that you are not going to watch a grown man cry like a baby for no reason.
2007-08-02 04:05:21 · answer #5 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my bf went thro this and all u have 2 do is stay by them . If he does say ur there 4 him but u cant use me as a crutch for it .
2007-08-02 04:07:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him then be there for him. He will get over it but there is not a lot anyone can do expect listen to him and show him love. Good Luck it can be easy for you either.
2007-08-02 04:12:18 · answer #7 · answered by KT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask a doctor !
2007-08-02 04:07:04 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs.Leonardo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spice up your sex life
2007-08-02 04:07:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋