My friend proposed to her beau....with a ring...
how do you men feel about a women proposing to you...please answer honestly....
2007-08-02 03:52:25 · 10 answers · asked by ready 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
A friend of mine did and I thought it was pretty cool of her to do. I think having a woman propose is as fair as letting a man do it.
Just because something is a "tradition" doesn't make it right or fair. Why should the lady have to wait??
I think how the man reacts to a proposal, shows what kind of man he really is. If he says "no" then he probably would've kept his lady waiting for a long time to propose, if ever actually.
2007-08-02 05:37:03 · answer #1 · answered by niubutterfly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didn't propose with a ring or anything, but I did ask my guy if he wanted to get married. After being head-over-feet in love with each other for the past three years, we were having a discussion about what we wanted for our relationship. We decided that we definitely wanted to stay together long term, so I just asked him if he wanted to get married sometime soon. He responded with a big hug and a kiss! It wasn't the most romantic conversation ever, but hey - it worked for us! :-)
He said that he though it was really sexy for me to ask him, although he was a teeny bit disappointed that I beat him to it!
I really don't mean to offend anyone who is more traditional than myself, but I wanted to express my viewpoint on this issue. We live in a society that is becoming increasingly more equal-opportunity in many respects, so why not with relationships? I feel that if you're adult enough to be in a serious long-term relationship, you're adult enough to be proactive and take some responsibility in initiating important conversations about your future. I love the fact that my SO and I truly feel like we're equal partners.
EDIT: Tradition in and of itself is neither good nor bad. But you need to think about whether or not it makes sense. Tradition just for the sake of tradition is kind of silly. Besides - why on earth should one gender feel like they have to wait on the other to make all the big decisions? If the man proposes and the woman isn't ready, she can say so. If the woman proposes and the man isn't ready, he can say so too. There are two people in a relationship, and the two people together should determine the course of that relationship.
2007-08-02 12:42:06 · answer #2 · answered by SE 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My friend's gf proposed to him a few weeks ago. He lives across the country so I haven't seen him and haven't asked yet if he got a ring or what really happened.
Anyway, I think it's fine if someone wants to do this but I would never do it. I think there's a reason if the guy hasn't proposed yet. If and when he's ready, he'll do it himself.
2007-08-02 11:31:24 · answer #3 · answered by tink 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm traditional. I would want the man to propose to me.
2007-08-02 10:58:24 · answer #4 · answered by melouofs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My friend proposed...and got turned down by a guy she'd been seeing for several years. He's 40 and still not ready. She broke up with him.
2007-08-02 10:59:55 · answer #5 · answered by jenni 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't accept. Either I wouldn't ready to propose or I was planning to do it myself. Either way she would have to wait for me. If I wasn't ready, there would be a chance I would break up.
Whether right or wrong there are certain traditions that are burned into my mind.
I am married and I proposed.
2007-08-02 11:29:29 · answer #6 · answered by no_frills 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think the man would be floored! However, if he had planned on proposing someday, he might be offended, and hurt that he didn't get to do it.
but be prepared ladies, he's more likely to say no... or he's not ready.
2007-08-02 11:00:52 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Silac 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would be happy to be proposed
2007-08-02 10:56:22 · answer #8 · answered by Rana 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I kind of proposed to my husband.
It was more of a "so are you going to ask me to marry you or not?" kind of thing.
He did.
2007-08-02 10:59:03 · answer #9 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ugh.. tacky tacky. maybe im old fashioned but geesh... i want my future husband to make me feel like a princess and propose to me. If i proposed to him i would never be sure that HE really wanted it.. b/c if he didnt.. why didnt he propose?
Yuck.. that would suck. but hey, to each their own i suppose. just seems trashy.
2007-08-02 11:10:47 · answer #10 · answered by la428282 6 · 1⤊ 5⤋