so I have been with the same guy for 2 years. We became each others lives. His friends were into the wrong things and if he followed them he would have just gotten into alot of trouble. So within the two years he realized I was the only one that was truely there for him. We were each others lives and were with each other all the time. It got to the point where we needed space and were arguing all the time (we were in high school) so, 8 months passed, and we just got back together. During those eight months he got into some really bad things, (DUI, tickets,drinking,drugs) but he claims he missed me so much. So I agreed to try again with him, but we both are going to make sure we dont ditch our friends this time.When he is with his friends,he does things I think are not smart(drinking,drugs)and hes just going to get into trouble.He will not do any of it around me,and he wont even mention it because he knows it bothers me.Should I just let it go? I do kno I do love him when were together.
2007-08-02 03:49:10 · 10 answers · asked by Lindsay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girl, let him go... He is bad news, and will one day pull you down with him. Tough love is the only thing that guys like him will understand.
2007-08-07 19:36:52 · answer #1 · answered by Rav 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I UNDERSTAND YOU ....i had the same problem about 4 months ago even i posted a question here, my ex was the same drinking , having a lot of time away from me so i did what it was the best.... let go...... tht is what you should do . 4 me 4 months down the line and i am doing great and i do miss him sometimes but you have to remember tht if he loves you he would not do tht.
and if you do decide to let go .... be strong i know is hard .. don't be ashamed to cry and feel low for a while it is normal cause you tought he was your life ........ just talk a lot about how u feel with your family and friends if u can don't keep your feelings and pain inside bottled up. take care
2007-08-09 21:44:49 · answer #2 · answered by deea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly where you're coming from. My boyfriend was the same way, unfocused on academics, into drugs, alcohol, and random girls. But I slowly opened his eyes to a new world, minus his disgusting friends. Together we realized that life is so much better sober. But I always swore to myself that if he ever goes back to that life, I'll leave him.
This boy does not deserve you. If he can't give up his loser friends for his best friend then it's not worth it. You gave up everything for him so now he should be able to do the same, it's only fair that way. Just let him know that the reason why you don't want him with them is because you want to see him grow up and be someone, and not a loser like his other friends will be.
Hope things work out!
2007-08-02 04:17:10 · answer #3 · answered by Ava 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not ignore that fact that your boyfriend is still doing bad things. You need to be strong and let him know that if he does drugs and gets into trouble you will not be there for him. You won't be happy. You can't ignore this and push it to the back of your mind. Wake up, Girlfriend!!!
2007-08-10 02:37:16 · answer #4 · answered by The pink panther 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look for others who share your hopes and dreams. If this guy does not care enough then, say adios.
2007-08-09 07:27:46 · answer #5 · answered by txpainthorse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like to say stay with him as long as he doesn't drag you into that part of his life. I feel like that will probably happen anyway..Maybe you should call it quits.
2007-08-09 21:44:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not his keeper. If he can't be responsible on his own how can he be responsible in your realtionship.
2007-08-10 02:45:13 · answer #7 · answered by ~ ♥ ~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never care for someone who doesn't care about u, ur feelings are precious, don't waste them on someone who doesn't deserve them
2007-08-09 22:30:16 · answer #8 · answered by dolciy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only you can decide if his antics will be worth the cost
2007-08-09 23:41:13 · answer #9 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he really loves you then he will follow you if you tell him to STOP. . .
2007-08-10 00:41:22 · answer #10 · answered by empress_marie88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋