I worry to much about my actions, how can I overcome this?

Question

I'm a really nice guy, and I really like this girl, but everytime I hang out with her when I drop her off I think about what I could have done differently or better or what I did wrong, and the next day I'm just a little depressed because it feels as though when we hang out we could have had more fun. I'm kind of shy, and it really bugs me that I can't open up more and be more outgoing around her. I know I think too much, but its hard not too because I don't want to screw up when I'm around her, because I feel as though If I do then she won't want to hang out with me anymore/as much. Last night I hung out with her and we had a good time, but this morning I sent her text, a dumb move by me, saying that Tommorrow night I will have my dads house to myself (He is going out of town), so if she wanted to chill or if she got kicked out again and needed a place to stay for the night to let me know. Now that I think about that text the more I hate myself for sending it because it sounds bad.

I didn't mean for it to sound weird or anything I was just trying to be nice, because I know she got kicked out before and couldn't find a place too stay so I was just offering her a place to stay for the night I honestly didn't mean for it to sound bad. I keep screwing up with this girl! BTW I'm 19 years old and she is soon to be 18 years old. We have been friends for about a year now. She knows I'm a nice guy and I have told her a few times that I would NEVER hurt her because I like her a lot. I have done a lot for her like pick her up from parties at like 2am and drop her back home, and I bought her flowers on valentines day, etc.

I'm terrible as you can see with girls, and I feel like just giving up and hoping a girl will come and find me.

thanks

Answer 1

Natural way to feel considering your not being COMPETELY honest with her about the way you feel. The reason I know. Because you asked this question. See what is at the heart of every good relationship is a friendship. And your treating her like a stranger!!! Why because you pretend like you don't know what makes her happy, what keeps her with you, why she loves you, why you love her, basically you act like you don't understand her. If you don't this is exactly what going to happen. But of course the reason you don't understand her, is because you don't understand yourself. Now your choices are pretty strait forward, ether you start talking more honestly about these little grips with yourself you got with her. That way you can come to better terms with how to feel good about being in a relatioship with her. Or you cut it off, because eventually if you don't get past this, your going to hurt her, much, much more. So just talk to the lady thats why we get into relatioships! "RELATE" ships are based on our ability to honestly speck our minds, feelings, and desires. Get on the job buddy or I'm afriad your forced to give up and spend some more time just getting comfrontable with you. Shoot just from the words you type wouldn't be a hard job.