can someone please tell me what is wrong with me?

Question

I am an attractive woman,and i am scared to go out and meet people. Whenever i get close to being with someone i run fast. i like safe attraction where i know that nothing will ever happen. I am shy and really anxious around people i don't know.especially men. I am scared that i am going to be alone forever. what can i do.

Answer 1

well uv probably been hurt in the past so ur afraid that ur going 2 get hurt agian so u run away from something that could work u up but then could hurt u really bad so u run away from the relationship b4 anything happens next time deal with the pain cause that guy was so not for u

Answer 2

Is sounds like something in your past has caused you to run in the opposite direction when it comes to a relationship? I don't know if you've been hurt very badly by some of your friends or a guy friend, but you can't run away from love all of your life. Give yourself time to heal from whatever has hurt you. Then, practice conversating with people. The easiest way to conquer fear is to face it. I may be in the grocery market, I practice being friendly and smiling which makes me more approachable. You also have to move at your own pace. Don't think that you are going to be alone forever and don't say that. The words you say are very powerful. Don't think that every relationship you get in will be problem-free because if so that would be a perfect relationship and nothing or no one is perfect. The best advice I can give you is to pray about it.

Answer 3

You need to build confidence in yourself a little at a time but at the same time, make sure that you don't get to where you settle for someone you can feel confortable around because that may prevent you from continuing to grow stronger.
Church was a good idea because you may find someone there who will help you build that confidence. You might also try volunteering at a woman's shelter or hospital where you will find others with less confidence than yourself which will help them and help you feel more confident.

Good Luck!!

Answer 4

It may help to let the guy know you're nervous of realtionships and if he's a good guy he'll understand. Or if that isn't an option just keep in mind that if it does turn out bad, that's ok because now you learned from it. I suggest going out and meeting lots of people and getting comfortable first before getting in a relationship. Hope this helps =)

Answer 5

You will be alone for ever if you don't relax. Try no giving a s@%$# what people think and let yourself have fun and you will see you will open right up. Don't open up too much just relax and have fun, and when you hook up with some one let them know what YOU like to do, so when you go out you are in your element and you will feel more comfortable. Just be happy and don't worry what others think, you will be fine.Someone will appreciate you either way, give it time.

Answer 6

maybe you're afraid what ppl will think of you or being rejected
but im sur not since ur confident about yourself
all u hav to do is take a chance and see what happens with someone
trying is better than just running away

Answer 7

You need help! Is there a close friend or family member who can help?
If you trust them, go out with them, first to restaurants, then movies, etc.
Start going to a church, where you'll feel welcome.
Get your friend to help you meet people safely.

Answer 8

thing is you HAVE to MAKE yourself be outgoing and social, it's not easy and you need to have one strogn character to do that but it's possible... I did it :) I was shy and quiet but you have to believe in yuorself and not be scared, conquer your fears I guess, go out at night when yuo are scared of darkness...