My brother is 16, He got arrested for 3 armed robberys (With Guns), Attempted Murder on 2 Child Pedos and GBH. He was sentenced a few weeks ago to 24 years in prison. My family thought he was a very good person. he was starting college and had a long term relatiosnhip with his girlfriend who is pregnant. And he won't even let him visit him in prison, He declines all visits? What can i do? I'm 14. Thank-you
2007-08-02 03:39:24 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
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2007-08-02 03:42:38 · update #1
First of all, if this is the truth, you want to be sure that you do not follow in his footsteps. You say your family thought he was a good person? Either there was not enough supervision of him (and maybe you) or he was never taught right from wrong.
The best thing you can do right now is to vow to live a good and honest life. You can continue to try to visit your brother, but right now he does not want visits. Write to him, that way he will not have to face you right now. Let him know that you still love him, even if you do not approve of what he did.
Keep contact open, but your main priority should be in becoming the good person you want to be!
Good Luck
2007-08-02 03:47:03 · answer #1 · answered by fire4511 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Write to him. No pressure about visits. Keep him up to date on family and neighborhood news. Keep the line of communication open. Let him know you would like to keep him in your life and come visit, but again, no pressure. He needs time to adjust. These were extremely serious offenses. (3 armed robberies!). Please explain attempted murder on 2 child pedos (pedophiles?) and what is a GBH?
Learn from his mistakes and stay out of trouble. It's not worth the devastation to you and your family and friends lives. God bless you and him.
2007-08-02 03:48:44 · answer #2 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. Pray for him and ask that God give him peace in his life and that he make the best of his 24 year prison term - thankfully he's not old and will be released back into the world before he is 40. Most are not that lucky with the number and type of crimes that he has committed - most would get 40 to life.
Live your life - he made his choices - just make better choices for yourself so that your life doesn't go down a similar path.
2007-08-02 03:43:45 · answer #3 · answered by Stefka 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Geez - that's horrible! I'm sorry your family is going through that. Your brother is probably very embarrassed by his actions and just can't face your family. He's afraid they will be mad and reject him forever so he's chosen to reject your family first. Give him some time. Don't let your family turn their backs on him. If I were you, I would write him letters to let him know you still love him. Encourage your family to do this as well. That way, your family can still encourage him. He will read the letters, believe me. He won't tear them up. Then, when he's feeling how much everyone loves him, he will allow the visits.
2007-08-02 04:43:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok. I reckon u and your family must be under alot of stress right now. I think you must really be worried about ur brother, but remember to look after urself too. Support ur family as much as u can, and ask for support aswell (school counsellor, friends etc)
Dont get caught up in the drama, its a crap situation but life MUST go on. You are 14 and have a whole lot of great stuff ahead, dont let this totally distract u from living your life,
Take care mate,
love and prayers from australia
2007-08-02 03:50:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i am really sorry that you are in this situation, it must be a terribly hard thing to be going through. your brother is lucky that he has a caring sibling like you, and i'm sure if you give him some time he will come around. you have to remember he is probably really ashamed and embarrased, and doesn't want to face up to you guys. maybe you could write a letter to him saying that you don't judge him and you still love him all the same and it would mean a lot if you could go and visit, even if it was just quickly. good luck to you, and hang in there!
2007-08-02 03:43:04 · answer #6 · answered by josietheninja 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nobodies perfect and as teenagers we all make mistakes,some are bigger than others but we all make them.
All anyone can do is try and learn from our own mistakes and others mistakes also.
Your brother was other sentenced a few weeks ago you said...Give him sometime...
I am sure in awhile he will want to see you..
I is probably feeling to ashamed of himself at the moment...
Write him a letter and tell him you still love him no matter what he has done...
This is unconditional love ....just as God has given us...
2007-08-02 03:55:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
guilt is a very powerful emotion. sounds like he's ashamed and feels like he let down his family. Don't stop trying to visit!!! He will eventually see how much his family loves him inspite of his falure and he'll want to see you. But Don't stop trying because if you do, he'll probably think that you all gave up on him.
2007-08-02 03:49:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even tho ur bro has messed up a few times im sure you still love him... and im sure he does too but he probably doesnt wanna face you because hes ashamed or guilty. Be there for him and be ready when he is
2007-08-02 03:45:06 · answer #9 · answered by Me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is a very tough situation for you and im sorry...i would suggest writing letters to him and telling him that you would like to be able to visit him in jail if he wants. He is probably ashamed for you to see him the position he is, but it doesnt mean that he doesnt love you and all. It is unfortunate that your brother is in jail, but he does have to be held accountable for his actions.
2007-08-02 03:44:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋