i have not been allowed to see my grandchild but maybe every four or five months. she is not allowed to call me or write even though i send her paper,envolopes w/stamps on them.
2007-08-02 02:36:36 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well I wonder in my mind if there was a hidden reason that they don't want you to see her. I notice people want sound advice on here but don't go into details to help answer the question. did you say or do things that the parents feel that they don't want you to see her, I know sometimes grandparents think that their children need sound advice how to raise the kids and sometimes overstep their privileges as grandparents. no matter how you may feel about something your daughter does in the raising of her child you can not overstep the way she wants to raise that kid unless there is some kind of abuse anyway I really don't know what else to say because you did not state why
2007-08-02 08:17:50 · answer #1 · answered by fire sign 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on why the parents do not want the grandparents to see the grandchildren. There are children who had neglectful and/or abusive parents, and understandably they do not want their parents around their children. I don't blame them.
On the other hand, if they have had a spat with their parents and are withholding the grandchildren out of spite, that's another story. If the grandparents are normal and loving people, then this is childish behavior on the part on the parents. It would be in the best interests of all for a neutral party to try and help resolve the issue.
There is always the option of going to court for visitation, but I would think this would be a last resort, as it would obviously cause bad feelings and could drive a permanent wedge between everyone. The parents ARE the parents...and I think the judge will take into account their reasons for withholding visits and decide accordingly.
I think evaluating the situation honestly as to why the parents don't want you to see the grandchild would be the first step.
2007-08-02 03:08:48 · answer #2 · answered by Sally G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the state. A few have passed grandparent rights laws. If not, you will have to get a court order based on the needs of the child. It can be done. At the least, continue to send cards and letters, with return postage guaranteed. If they are returned, save them and give them when the child grows. In most states, the parents have a legal right to control access until set aside by the Courts. Luck
2007-08-02 02:39:09 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most definitely grandparents should have visitation rights! The child (not to mention the grandparents) needs to know all their family. There are so many benefits for the child through the relationship with their grandparents. Too bad the parents haven't figured out that they are hurting the child in the long run.
2007-08-02 02:43:52 · answer #4 · answered by Debi 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would never cut off my parents from my children without very good reason (e.g. abusive).
However, NO, I don't think grandparents should have rights of access to their grandchildren. It should be within in the purview of the parents to decide what is best for their own children. There is already so many difficulties in raising children, worrying about your parents taking your to court should not be one of them.
2007-08-02 02:48:12 · answer #5 · answered by Wundt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that depends on what the situation was that led up to this. My Mom had kidnapped my 2 kids on one of her visitations, so I had to cut off all contact for a while, but if it's not as extreme as that, then I couldn't understand why you wouldn't be allowed visitation. Go to a lawyer if you can afford it and ask the court to give you some kind of visitation.
2007-08-02 02:41:23 · answer #6 · answered by savagegrace 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
basically it relies upon on the specific custody order. the main suitable pastime of the toddler is what ought to be taken in attention. The visitation verify nevertheless has legal rights despite if the actual custody is with the different. inspect the certainly court order if ya can and refer to the two parents approximately your emotions. there is toddler advocates that would help besides. ameliorations to the court order can continually be made. The court ought to hire the toddler his or her own legal expert if mandatory to look on the toddler's maximum suitable pastime. good success
2016-11-11 00:19:29 · answer #7 · answered by vereen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think anyone who feels they are ALMIGHTY by witholding parents or grandparents from seeing their kids HAS SERIOUS IMATURITY ISSUES.
I feel sooooo sorry for you:( You have EVERY right to talk to them!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Some people use their children as weapons BECAUSE THEY ARE COWARDS AND REALLY DON'T LOVE THEIR KIDS.
How sad.....I hope someday it changes for you! I don't like either of my parents, but i would NEVER keep my kids from them! (unfortunately, they have no interest in being grandparents and never call or stop. They even miss birthdays.)
Maybe I could adopt you to be my kids grandma!
Good luck:)
2007-08-02 02:55:49 · answer #8 · answered by The Grand Inquisitor 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Check the laws where you live but in most states in America we have what is called Grand-parents Rights.
2007-08-02 02:40:30 · answer #9 · answered by Bingo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a lawyer.
In the USA grandparents are considered very important....unless there's a safety issue involved.
2007-08-02 02:39:52 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋