everyones input would be nice?

Question

when you're with a guy for almost 3 years, and the first half of the relationship was good, neither of you complained, but then jealousy kicked in like the ***** it is and caused you two to feel the need to spend every single moment together every day.. how do you go about getting him back when he dumped you over two months ago? he gives mixed signals which makes it so easy to hang on and hope you get back together, so you bug him about it, and he gets frustrated and says stupid things like he doesnt think it's gonna work out right now- just so he can push you away and get the space he wants and needs.. what do you do when you know it can work between the two of you and you want to forget all the bad fights you had and start again

Answer 1

Find out why u two broke up. But I dont think he wants to get back together with you.

Answer 2

This has become an unhealthy obsession. If you want it to work you should both seek counseling. Ask the counselor to teach you how to fight fair. Most importantly, the counselor should work on the obsession problem. Jealousy is a need to control someone else and is based on an insecure ego. You can't cure this by yourself. He has to recognize that he has the problem and wants to improve. Improvement will be slow and involve the two step shuffle: two steps forward, and one back slide. Good luck. Maythe goddess be with you.

Answer 3

How many trucks have to hit you before you realize that it's not going to work? You're too neurotic for him and he's too lazy for you. Leave the guy alone. That spending every moment together is what killed your relationship. That and the lack of trust that motivated it. You said jealousy but you never said over what. Did you cheat? Were you flirting with someone else? Or was he the one with the wandering eye?

Move on.

Answer 4

You need to be straight forward with him. Tell him that you still love him and you see hope for your relationship. Say you'd like to work on things and try again. Ask him if he honestly sees this happening. If he says yes, ask him what sort of time frame he's referring to. If he says no, all you can do is drop it and move on.

3 years is a long time and I know its hard to let that go. But imagine how much harder it'll be if you waste 4 years and then have to move forward. You need to just have a very straight conversation with him and let him know that he's worth going through the effort, but that you need to know if he's wanting the same thing as you. If not, then you owe it to yourself to try to start healing and look towards new things.

Answer 5

You just move on and forget about him (not as easy as it sounds) but if he really love you or want to continue what y'all once had he will come back, and it will be up to u to take him back or not. The more you harass him the further you gonna push him away and he's gonna use that in order to play with your emotions to keep you waiting while he's out doing what he do. Focus on you first and let what happens later happen

Answer 6

if he is resisting the relationship and doesn't want it... you can't force his feelings for you.

he either wants to be with you, or he doesn't. seems he already told you he needs his "space".

bugging him is only going to push him further away. perhaps concentrate on YOU and do things which make you happy.

if you are feeling "jealous" you might consider working on this. there is no room for jealousy in relationships. it's a very destructive thing.

take care of YOU... let him go if that is what he wants. no use prolonging the agony. sending hugs.