I feel stupid and used. When I spoke with my ex-boyfriend (who I thought I was back together with) on Sunday night he said we were just "close friends".
Yet whenever he comes back home (he's in the military & has been stationed 800 miles away for the last two months) the only people he visits are me first, then we go see his Mom.
He calls/instant messages me whenever he's got a free moment and two weeks ago he paid for me to fly down & visit him for the weekend. Everyone he introducted me to treated me like I was his girlfriend.
I'm really angry, not just at him, but at myself. If you were me, would you cut him off completely or try to work on actually being friends?
2007-08-02 02:14:04 · 4 answers · asked by Original_Syn 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he told you that he felt better about you as FRIENDS, then that's what he meant.
Sometimes, people value friendships more than girlfriend/boyfriend relationships. Perhaps he is an EX boyfriend for a good reason, and you two mesh better as friends?
It's food for thought.
You obviously want more than a friendship... so you're beating yourself up by being angry.
It's not like he lead you on, he DID SAY he wanted to be friends.
You must be a very important part of his life, hon... otherwise he'd never bother to contact you at all.
I hope you will find a way to cherish the relationship you have, and realize at least he's not "using" you for sex or leading you on... perhaps at this time in his life (since he is away a lot, etc), he might feel it's not fair to have a girlfriend... because he can't give the time and effort while he's gone.
take care of YOU in the meantime, ok?
2007-08-02 02:21:05 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know your angry but maybe hes confused. Talk to him about that before you do cut him off for being a jerk. He wanted to show you off knowing that you were close friends. Communication is key. But in the even that he really is just being a jerk you have nothing to lose.
2007-08-02 09:18:32 · answer #2 · answered by SiCnGaged 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Military life is hard...especially for the young men & women who choose to serve... I'm sure he isn't real sure where the next fews years will take him...So by calling you his "Close Friend" it is his way of not commiting you to the same commitments he has made for his self...live your life... be his "friend"... who knows what will happen, thats the beauty of life...But don't waste time & energy being angry...Good Luck!
2007-08-02 09:26:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should not be with him as often, tell him no and i chill with you this time your hanging out with other friends. do that a couple times you will slowly break away form that feeling
2007-08-02 09:17:52 · answer #4 · answered by big H 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋