I also had a baby by my brother or my uncle (not sure which). There does not seem to be any thing genetically wrong with my son, so far.
I recently had a birthday, but i am still a teenager.
What should I do???
2007-08-02 01:27:26 · 32 answers · asked by Denise B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I was expecting a few rude responses, so I see that a few uncaring people decided not to disappointment me. For the others, who seem sincere, I offer my heartfelt thanks!
2007-08-04 10:11:35 · update #1
File sexual assault charges against your brother and uncle. Get a DNA test to see who the father really is, so you can get the child support in motion. Let your family know what happened if they don't already know. Let them all know the truth and what happened. It isn't your fault. This was against your will. This is rape. Your brother and uncle should be the ones to feel shame, etc. They will have to answer to God for their evil ways.
Turn your life around, and seek the Lord with all your heart. Ask God for forgiveness and ask the Lord to give you peace and guidance. May your son grow up to know the Lord. God will take care of you and your son. May the Lord keep you both safe. When you have a chance, read the (NIV) Bible if you have one. If not, you can access the Bible online at www.biblegateway.com
Please look at this site: www.fathersloveletter.com
It is the Lord's promise and love for you.
-God Bless
2007-08-09 13:16:35 · answer #1 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing that should have been done is to report to the proper authorities.If your afraid just imagine how much trouble you will have trying to explain this pain to your child.So don't let this problem continue because the longer the harder it's going to be on you and your child.Next there are places you can go to like a rape crisis center getting out of that house before you become pregnant again and cause yourself to go into depression where you might be able to care for yourself or your baby.Get HELP NOW.Even though I don't know you I'll keep you in my prayers.God bless you & your child.Ps, you can call the child protection yourself ,or if you are in school your counselor will help you.Don't be embarrased about this you are not alone.
2007-08-09 09:45:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get help. Although it's tough, the best thing to do would probably be to turn the people in. It will be difficult, but think about the other people you would be saving from hurt because you know that they're not going to just stop acting that way. Seek psychological counsel and they can tell you where to go from there. I'm not a professional and I'm really hesitant to give out any advice on this. Happy Birthday, and best of luck.
2007-08-08 07:09:52 · answer #3 · answered by LC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously need help from others in authority who can deal with this situation properly. You have an obligation to yourself and your baby to stop the drinking and the porn. You do not want to pass along such sadness to your child do you?
So, get help for yourself, take care of yourself, in doing that you are taking the first steps to ensuring your child has a chance and a better life. But you still have a lot of life ahead too, don't give up on yourself.
God Bless you and your child. I'll say a prayer for you tonight.
2007-08-09 17:11:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just hope you're being sincere, because I really do feel bad for you. You definitely need professional help and AA. If you have kept your son and you are going to raise him, then you do have to do something to get your life on the right track, or he will be abused too and you need to stop this cycle. I wish you would have told the police if you didn't. Where is your mother in all of this?
2007-08-07 06:40:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of what you are saying is classic symptoms of the abuse you have faced in the past. Talk to someone a professional. Or look up books on toxic behavior. This will hopefully help you. It is perfectly normal to think that this is all your fault and start to treat yourself badly. Call your local rape crisis line. They can help you out in ways that you might not have thought about. Don't get to down on yourself and keep telling yourself that you are a victim and didn't do anything wrong. I hope this helps.
2007-08-02 03:00:23 · answer #6 · answered by Tricia C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say.Press charges on all them people.If you truly want to get away from them.
Then either get counseling.Although I believe if you are honest with yourself about everything and truly want help.You can help yourself better than any shrink.
If you have someone you can talk to outside of family.Someone none of them know.
I hope you get out because if your baby is next in line.I know he is a boy.But listen darling.Sexual predators dont care about that.They will be messing with him as soon as they can.Pack your stuff take your baby and go get help.
There are all sorts of places for people in your situation.Call your local police department and they will point you in the right direction.That is what you do first.Then go press charges on all of those people who messed with you.That is the only way you will get help.Good luck
2007-08-02 01:41:10 · answer #7 · answered by kenneth h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are places that will give you help while you get a job and independent on your own....they will help with your child, teach you what you need to know, etc. and you need to get out of there...for your sake, and for your child's.
What chance is your child going to have if you don't get your life straightened out? So ask some questions....call some groups that help teen-agers....there are Catholic groups, or other ones that do this....if you just do some inquiring, you will find them.
And realize....they may have caused your problems, but you are in control of your own behavior now. No one else is to blame for what happens when you can make choices....so start looking...there are people out there that will help you....
2007-08-07 21:36:25 · answer #8 · answered by samantha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a mandated reporter by the state of California. What you are saying here is a crime, I am reporting it. YOUR URL numbers will be reported to Yahoo and the police will be contacted. I wish you the best of luck NO child should have a life like this.....
Yahoo Guidelines states in DO NOT POSTS~ 8.Post content that violates federal, state, or local law.
2007-08-06 20:02:54 · answer #9 · answered by MissChatea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel very sorry for you and your situation. I think you need to report this and your son's DNA is proof of this.
I don't want to judge you in anyway but if I was you I would rather live in a group home with my baby then live in this dysfunction.
I pray for you and your situation. Stay strong and I hope you get the help you need to be a successful adult.
2007-08-07 09:09:19 · answer #10 · answered by My Three 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋