2007-08-02 01:13:08 · 7 answers · asked by Maryyy 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
jealousy is in the eye of the beholder.
2007-08-02 01:35:01 · answer #1 · answered by kissybertha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mary, the first thing, NOBODY can make you anything....if you are jealous, it is your choosing to be that way. If you are Angry, mad, happy or sad, no person can take the credit for that but you!
If the slug is doing things to make you jealous, tell him cut it out, how would he like it if you did the same to him.
Some people are jealous out of their own insecurities, for example, when I gained some weight, I got very jealous of my husband working around skinny women. HE did not make me jealous, my own inferior feelings made me jealous. He never wavered or changed his attitude or behaviour towards me or the other women.
Another reason of jealous behaviour is called transference of guilt. Example, you have been flirting with a guy at work, or have talked to an old boyfriend, something you know your man would not like if he knew, so your OWN guilt feelings will cause you to accuse the innocent person....I have always said when a partner in a relationship starts getting real jealous, there is more fire than the smoke....
So stop blaming your man, unless he is a real dog, in that case dump his ***, life is too short to be worrying about some horndog man.
Then,work on your own self and get some backbone and confidence in yourself, the jealous thing will cease, unless you are just mentally unable to have trust in anyone, then you need to seek professional help....
2007-08-02 08:48:14 · answer #2 · answered by Ozark Woman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hon, no one can make you feel something you don't want to.
if you are jealous, perhaps you could take inventory of your self-esteem?
jealousy isn't necessary. if someone is acting stupid and being insulting, are they really worth your time? i would think not.
2007-08-02 10:49:42 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
person above me is right your allowing him too so he is men and their control issues, make him jealous as well see how he likes it.
2007-08-02 08:32:23 · answer #4 · answered by anonomous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys don't make girls jealous, your just paranoid and borderline crazy. Be honest with him, tell him how he makes you feel.
2007-08-02 08:19:46 · answer #5 · answered by Matt H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you teach people how to treat you... stand up for yourself and show him what you're made of.
2007-08-02 08:38:22 · answer #6 · answered by Casually Blonde 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you let him.
2007-08-02 08:23:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋