We never grew up together but we are close, Shes been staying with my mom & i was raised by my gran. I heard the other night she came home @ 3am, Shes only 17, has a child, doing grade 11. Do u think I must try n talk to her. It seems like she was never affected by my mom's death. Do u thinkdats her way of healing (turning to alcohol)
2007-08-02 00:59:36 · 8 answers · asked by silky-butterfly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Thanx guys a lot, It was just her & mom in living in the house. My family suggested that she go stay by her granfather's house cause she was staying ther all by herself & sometimes her boy4nd will come over & stuff And none of us knew bout it. My other uncle stays there Just to look after da house now. Da 2 dnt get along completely(uncle & sis) This thing is really stressing me Im trying in every way that I can to make her happy Whn Im around she acts all innocent. Shes so stubborn. she hardly listen to any1 I really want whts best for her,me & her babyboy. She once claimed dat my mom never gave her love.....so yeah im a bit worried bout her health 2. Im saving every single month for her tertiary education I hardly do things for myself anymore Im only 21. Im currently staying with my aunty.
2007-08-02 01:49:07 · update #1
She is still a minor...with a child! Who is she living with now that your mom is gone? She needs adult supervision. Being 17, having a child, still going to school and staying out till 3 in the morning, is a fast road to self destruction. For the baby's sake, get involved. I have my doubts that "talking" is going to straighten her out. You might have to get social services involved and get her into a parenting/treatment program. Do it before she hits 18. By that time, you can do little(legally) to help your sister.
2007-08-02 01:20:40 · answer #1 · answered by janice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she hasnt fully let it out.It sounds like a real touchy situation.You could try to talk to her.Just be very careful on how you approach it.
Maybe the next time you are there.Find something that reminds you of your mother that has memories associated with it.Mainly memories for her or something both of you remember.
Talk about it.Then just say man I miss her.You never know she might open up.Then if you get her to.Keep it going by telling her you are worried about her.
Be honest with her.The main thing right now I think is to be her friend.
2007-08-02 07:11:50 · answer #2 · answered by kenneth h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like she's self-medicating and yes, it needs to stop. She needs to talk to a professional to get out the feelings she isn't dealing with. If she keeps up her current behavior, at some point she'll do something to lose her child.
2007-08-02 01:10:07 · answer #3 · answered by Lady G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she needs a lot of help handling with things. It just doesn't seem like at the moment her life is going in the right direction.
Maybe you should ask your grandmother to talk to her.
2007-08-02 01:18:52 · answer #4 · answered by Alice_d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her, stop her now before it's too late. My mother-in-law is dying from alcoholism right now and my husband is distraught. She needs to take care of her child and an adult needs to stop her from going out and partying. She is probably doing these things because of your mom's death.
2007-08-02 01:46:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thing is with grief hun people find diffrent ways to cope or block it out,, some people getting angry that they loved one left them and they lash out to others without thinking some just turn to drugs and alchol to block it out for bit its no-good grief evetually catches up like on birthdays and christmas holidays photos etc you carnt ever escape from it really,,, the thing i reckon you should all do is try and ger her help and support from your locla centre or doctors these are great people and will hopefully get her talking about it idoes help it does take time too,, its always better getting the help as early as you can :) good luck hun tgcxx sorry for you loss
2007-08-02 01:10:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
alcohol doesn't heal people, hon. i'm realy sorry for your loss.
if your sister isn't handling mom's death well, perhaps she could get involved in grief counseling?
someone needs to talk with her, and let her know there are better ways to deal with grief, besides drinking. perhaps you and your grandmother could talk with her.
meanwhile, there are many resources for GRIEF on line. maybe you can do a search.
i sure hope you get some good answers here. i know your sister means a lot to you.... let HER know too, ok?
hugs to all
2007-08-02 01:19:54 · answer #7 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
needs help yup
2007-08-02 08:47:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋