so yeah my boyfriend looks at porn and he saves the girls in folders. Sometimes its not even nude. I cant stand it I hate It just pisses me off to no end. I ask him why andh e says he wants to. I want to it end it sometimes but I love him a lot I dunno what I wana do I dont wana leave him but sometimes I dont wana be with him. I dont care if it's "natural" for guys to look at porn. I cant stand it and i tried talking to him about it and I guess he wont stop.
2007-08-02 00:49:31 · 15 answers · asked by Jessa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He never always looked at it either thats makes me really mad
2007-08-02 00:50:58 · update #1
Yeah im inscure but maybe I wouldnt be if he didnt look at that stuff
2007-08-02 00:55:04 · update #2
yes I am jealous that he looks @ it
2007-08-02 00:58:42 · update #3
lol its not 3 some porn and its just young girls
2007-08-02 01:08:22 · update #4
15-17 yrs i mean not like pedo stuff
2007-08-02 01:08:39 · update #5
I told you before, he doesn't want you, he just used and abused you, thats what you get for "having sex with him often". Why do you have sex with him often? TO KEEP HIM INTERESTED IN YOU, if you stop, he leaves you, HE IS A GUY, A YOUNG GUY, NOT EVEN 16 YET. When will you young girls realize your just preparing yourselfs for early motherhood? GO TO SCHOOL, STAY IN SCHOOL, sick a..s..s little kids these days.
2007-08-04 11:31:45 · answer #1 · answered by Yaher S. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but it sounds to me like YOU are the one with the problem, not your bf. So long as his occasional looks at porn don't interfere with his relationship with you, let him look.
The fact that you get so upset over inanimate objects reeks of insecurity and jealousy. You may want to talk with a therapist about these issues. It could help. Especially since you claim to love him a lot, yet sometimes you don't want to be with him. This is a definite relationship killer.
Or, if this is something you are unwilling to talk to a therapist about, then break up with him. No sense living your life with such anger inside of you.
2007-08-02 07:54:14 · answer #2 · answered by kja63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend does the same thing.
I used to get really pissed off.. and I even told him.. he would stop for a little while. but going through the computer, I found out that he's still watching porn.
I told him that if he respects me, then he wouldnt watch it. Porn makes women feel inadequate. At least some of us.
He says that he watches porn, just to watch, but its something that I don't believe. And I know that he doesnt watch porn to learn stuff from it, because he's been with a few girls before me, he's not inexperienced.
I suggest asking him to watch it with you, if he declines, then I would question the relationship.
People do say that "its natural" for men to watch porn, but thats bullcrap. I know a ton of guys who don't watch porn because they say its not something they like to do, especially if they are in a relationship.
Respect. Its what you want, and if he can't give it to you, then I would leave him. It would show him how much it hurts you that you feel he likes to watch other women with breast implants and various other implants being naked or performing sexual activities.
I am an insecure female also... I dont like anything about myself and it hurts because he rarely compliments me and it feels like he's degrading me by looking at other bustful beautiful women.
I finally had to talk to his mom and ask her why guys watch porn in order to understand. But he has never watched it again. lol.
2007-08-02 07:56:07 · answer #3 · answered by Mami 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Porn is very enticing for men to look at. We are visual creatures and its a simple way of fantisizing. Its also very destructive to us and our relationship whether we are aware of it or not. The root word of porno is actually more than what most of us would imagine.
Five Greek words form the word family that describes fornication. It consists of three nouns and two verbs. In alphabetical order the terms are:
ekporneu, porneia, porneu, porn, and pornos. The lexicon definition of the noun porneia is
“prostitution, unchastity, fornication, of every kind of unlawful sexual intercourse.”
I hope this helps and shows just how bad porn really is.
2007-08-02 08:05:47 · answer #4 · answered by The Wižard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is like a soap opera. LOL. Just like Lily and Daniel on Y & R. Lily was in the boat as you. Where she loves Daniel but hates that he does look at other women. I think if you love the person you have to think about, will he do it again? will he lie again if I ask him to stay off? You want a boyfriend who is trusting enough and loyal or do you want a boyfriend that looks at porn and lies. I think you should help him to get help and if he says he doesn't need it, leave him until he comes to his senses.
2007-08-02 07:57:32 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"He never always looked at it either thats makes me really mad" ha ha ha... really... ^_^
i went offshore to work and came back with a 1TB of porn... thats a 1000GB baby!! Im the king of porn!!!
look if your willing to take it from the rear, get jizzed on your face and hair, be handcuffed to the bed, deep throat him, have a 3some/4some/+some (all women and him), whip him with a riding crop, dress up in any outfit (including a PVC catsuit), and do this whenever and where-ever he want but also force him to aswell (being dominated is quite fun!) then i see no reason for porn... but until i get that i'll let my fanasies through the POWAH of PORN.
there ive said it ^_^
2007-08-02 08:05:14 · answer #6 · answered by dark_massiah 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ALL guys look at porn so get used to it. Its their nature. also I sense u could possibly feel jealous when he looks at porn. am i right? well if i am remember this , the chances of him ever running into one of them are slim to none so relax and just watch them with him. you never know what kind of freaky things might happen and you`ll prolly like it!!!
2007-08-02 07:57:35 · answer #7 · answered by dana.allen@sbcglobal.net 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well... if you ask my opinion, i say that you should let him look at it. i mean... even though he looks at porn aparently he really loves you an you don't have to worry bout anything. i get the sense that you feel if he looks at porn a lot he's gonna leave you. Don't worry!! if you really want him to stop sit him down an tell him your concerns. you have to watch wat you say to him an how you say it. if you just tell him that you don't want him to look at porn because it makes you madd, well thats fine. but you have to sit him down and go further than that, tell him not only does it make you mad but tell him how it makes you feel as his girlfriend to have her boyfriend drool ova random naked girls like that. then see what the response is.
2007-08-02 07:58:34 · answer #8 · answered by Squeeze 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. Talk to him upfront that it bothers you, and if he refuses to stop, then you can decide whether he is worth staying together with. Personally, if a man continued behavior that bothered me and I let him know of it, he would be out of my life if he didn't respect my opinion. Good luck! <3
2007-08-02 07:56:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should learn to not be so angry..
learn to pick your battles.. if you argue over something as silly as porn.. than he's not going to take you to seriously for more important matters..
if it bothers you that much than break up with him and find some catholic relgious guy who thinks porn is the sign of the devil
2007-08-02 07:53:42 · answer #10 · answered by steph 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋