My daughter wants a bigger room. She wants to trade for my master bedroom.?

Question

My kids have gone through a lot in the last 8 months. I have a 3 bedroom 1 1/2 bath home probably about 1200sqft. She keeps asking me to trade rooms which has a 1/2 bath. It's the master bedroom. It's only12x14 her room is 9x10. Her younger brother's room is 12x12.

I have been separated for 8 months now. I have domicile custody. Their mother decided to get a new boyfriend and start with the drugs. She is not a good mother. I thought for this question I needed to throw this in.

My daughter is 10 years old and starting to have friends come over. Sometimes sleep overs too. She is wanting more space because of her small room. And yes, She does have a lot of things.

I am considering since all I have is a bed and dresser in my room to trade with her. It is just the 3 of us. Her 6 year old brother, her and me the dad. She says we are disgusting guys and wants her own bathroom.

Would you trade your master bedroom for a smaller one to please your daughter who is growing up?

Answer 1

She is most likely in her room much more than you are in yours, I would most certainly change rooms with her. My daughter is 12, and she has her room plus the back room where she has a TV, daybed and computer with her desk- she has room to have friends over etc..
Your son has a bigger room, as do you, she has the smallest room and girls need more space- girls also have more stuff.
There is nothing wrong with changing rooms, you will not be spoiling her, just making her more comfortable and happy.
{{you're a good dad}}

Answer 2

I wouldn't switch rooms with her. I would however consider switching the two kids room.

If the bathroom is a problem now is a good time for you to start teaching BOTH of them to clean up after themselves.

Bending the rules (is this actually a rule? hmmm) to make her happy because her life has been crappy is not the way to go. She's only 10. There will be plenty of things she will want that she can't get or shouldn't get. What she needs is consistency; to know that no matter what, you are her dad and will do what is best for her and her brother even if she doesn't like it.

Stay strong.

P.S. It might also be a good way to begin to show her what kind of guy she will want to date/marry when she is of age. A "disgusting" guy? Or a strong, responsible, caring, considerate man who will do what's best no matter what.

Answer 3

NO, I would not give up my master bedroom for my children. YOU as the adult, may end up finding someone to be with and you certainly don't want to be in a small bedroom.

You might want to consider switching the children's rooms where she has the larger bedroom. This is a viable option considering she is older and should have the 12 x 12 bedroom.

Everyone needs to learn to keep the house clean, especially the bathrooms.

Answer 4

You're the adult. I would not give in to this. If you do, then she will expect more compromises and favors as she enters her teens. How many friends does she have coming over at one time? Try to limit them to one or two at a time. Sleeping bags in the living room or a tent in the back yard can be just as much fun. Why don't your son and your daughter trade rooms. You can work together to repaint them and have some good bonding time with both kids doing it.

Answer 5

I wouldn't. Centainly there's another area where she and her friends can hang out that's not her room. We had the reverse in my home. My room was only a tiny bit smaller than the master and my older brother had what amounted to a closet. He used to have his friends over and they took over the living room. I was allowed to go from my bedroom to the bathroom, and that was it. They had space to goof off or do whatever it is boys do, and the privacy to do it.
As for the bathroom, tell her to get over it. If you start giving in now when she's 14 you'll be building her a master suite of her very own. I would however comprimise. I was the only woman in my home, I had a husband and my 2 sons and we had one of his friends living with us for a time, we all shared one bathroom. I will agree that it did get disgusting. Teach your son to wipe the toilet with a lysol wipe EVERY time he uses it, until he is old enough to understand how to keep a bathroom clean. Little boys cause havoc on a clean bathroom.
Set aside 2 cleaning days a week, to just give everything a quick once over, with all the cleaning products out there you don't need to pull out a huge mop and bucket to clean. It will take 15 minutes and she'll thank you for it.

Answer 6

this will not take the pain away from her. maybe your son can go in the smaller room if he does not mind explain to him but that might disrupt him also. i would say no

EDIT I THOUGHT ABOUT THIS SOME MORE AND I WANT TO ADD
Think about it this way if you and your wife were still together you would not even consider it. You are only doing this trying to make her feel better about the divorce and what is going on. Essentially you are trying to buy her love. That is not the way to do it. You are the adult and that is your room i know this is rough but that is how it has to go

Answer 7

How convenient would this be for you? I wouldn't give into a 10 year old's demands just because she is the only female and Mom's not there. You are the parent. If she wants to be seen riding in a fancier car, would you go out and buy one?!!! Like one of the other posts, I'm trying to figure out how the little brother got the larger room. As far as having to share a bathroom with you guys, I can understand her concerns there. I raised two sons and a husband(I was the only female in the house) I can't figure out why men have to "decorate" the surrounding walls and floor, when using the toilet. Is their aim just naturally bad? If she did gain her own bathroom, she would need to be responsible for keeping it clean.

Answer 8

First of all, I'm VERY sorry about their mother. I would hate not to have a mom. And I am very proud you are being a single dad. There are so many guys who are crappy dads & won't take care of their children (Hint: My dad).

Why does her yonger brother have a bigger room then hers?
I think that she & her brother can trade rooms then you having to give up your room. Now, if you like to, it's up to you.

I asked my mom if I could switch her rooms & she said no. But, I only asked because my boyfriend lives with us & we have a full size bed, a weight bench, a small dresser w/ a guinea pig on it, & a T.V/T.V. stand. But, she said no.

But, it's really all up to the parent. I would just make your son & daughter trade rooms.

Answer 9

If you don't need the space you have, I don't see why not. My bonus daughter (16) has the largest room in the house. My husband and I basically just sleep in our room, so as long as there's room for our bed and dressers, we're happy. Our daughter has friends over and spends time in her room, so it just makes sense that her room is bigger. If it doesn't bother you, I don't see anything wrong with it.

Answer 10

Maintain your position as a parent Dad. the master bedroom is for your comfort, and convenience, and not to mention your privacy, which you will need. Don't give into the guilt complex either. If she wants to assure that the bathroom she uses is clean, then she'll just have to make sure that the community bathroom stays clean. If you give into her this time, she try you again later. If her Mom were still with you it would not even come up, she is trying to manipulate you because you feel guilty about the divorce. I'm not saying she is a bad girl but she is at that trying age, and you don't want her to learn she can get her way through manipulation, you want her to know her place and yours as well, maintain your position as the parent.