I was raised by my sister and her husband after our mother died. And their 36 yrs old i am 20. For the past 10 years i have been living with people that made me feel uncomfterable and unwelcome. My brother in law is such a gerk that yelled at me, threatened me, a couple times threw glass cups at me. And my sister is a real b**** that complains about anything and everything. When i was a young teenager they would make me watch there kids, do the dishes, feed the dog, clean the bathroom, vaccum, And never said thank you never appretiated anything i did. And when i did somthing wrong they would yell and scream at me call me useless and made me go to my room. They lowered my self esteem and now im finally moving out. Im not sure i can speak to my sister after i move out unless i tell her how i feel about her husband. Would it be appropriate to tell her threw an email? How i never liked the guy and i truly hate him?
2007-08-01 23:55:15 · 5 answers · asked by jenn n 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My other sister Katie who is 30 stayed in the house years ago and he did the same to her except couldnt send her to her room or make her do chores since i was doing them. She stayed with them for one summer and had anxiety attack. I finally had a real conversation with her the other day and she told me everything. She had her gaulbladder removed because of stress and it was from my house.
2007-08-01 23:58:07 · update #1
I use to cry and cry all the time about how he and she spoke to me calling me lazy useless, and if i ever spoke back they wouldnt let me speak back or even debate with them, they were always right
2007-08-02 00:00:18 · update #2
I know nothing is to be gained but i feel like if i dont tell them how i feel and how they made me feel and my self esteem lowered im never going to feel whole
2007-08-02 00:05:47 · update #3
Let me tell you - there was many a time in my life where someone hurt me or did something wrong against me and I really felt like talking to them about it and telling them how it upset me would change it or somehow clear it up, even in my mind. I even thought at times that the other person may not realize they hurt me so I should tell them. But I realize now that everytime I did stand up and let them know that they hurt me, (and I did it through email a lot because I didn't want to face them) it just backfired. I had to have this huge talk with them and then presented all these things they hated about me that simply were bizarre and even more hurtful. And truthfully I still get the same feelings and actions from these people regardless of how nice we pretend to be to each other. In the end there are people who are completely different than you and will never see things the way you see them. You had the unfortunate situation of being around people who saw screaming and yelling as a way of communication. I grew up like this too. In my experience it has never helped to take my problems to the person. They deny it and the situation just gets messier. I'm now 2 weeks from getting married, own a house and am about to experience what you're experiencing as well. And I think there is no point in me saying anything to anyone else when the hurt me or treat me wrong. I realize now that they will be judged for their actions one day, not by me but by God. He sees what's happening and he will judge. I have studied that very hard. In the bible one of God's many names is "El Roi." It means the God who sees. No matter what happens, God is seeing and he will fix the problems. He doesn't need our help. Believe it or not your sister and brother in-law probably have a lot of problems that they have to face because of the lifestyle they lead. You just be thankful that you can move on and live your own life and treat people the way you want to be treated. You will see that in your quest to be kind and giving and to do the right thing, God will give you blessings :) Good luck to you!
2007-08-02 01:58:45 · answer #1 · answered by curleeyq922 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is move on. Forget him n her. They will soon realise what they did is wrong. Never contact or keep-in-touch with them. I knoe u r very independent, u don't need them. Its them who obviously need u for their house chores. So leave permanently. Its for your own good. Built up a new life which is full of happiness :) Good luck!
2007-08-02 07:15:16 · answer #2 · answered by farizah_t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sure your sister knows how you feel already... i'll bet you she doesn't much like her husband's attitude, either.
if you have something to say, say it to your brother in law after you move out... but i do think that some things are best left unsaid,
it's your decision whether you want to associate with them or not after you have moved out. if i were in your shoes, i probably wouldn't want to see them any more, either.
take care.. hugs
2007-08-02 08:22:36 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out quietly and inform them if they decide to visit you and start any **** with you, you have cups with their names on it and will not hesitate to hurl the cups their way.
2007-08-02 09:24:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is best just to leave , there is nothing to be gained by saying anything
2007-08-02 07:03:55 · answer #5 · answered by txcatwoman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋