hi, me and my boy friend have been going out for 3 years we have a beautiful 2 yr old son.in the last few months we have started renting a house money is tight as we have loans and payments to try sort every week, lately i feel like i have no life any more i never really see my friends, we dont go out much either i suggest going to the cinema but he couldnt be bothered the two of us get so moody obviously there is strain on money worries and all but i suggested moving to his parents big house for a few months but he wont make up his mind he barely ever cuddles me or touches me anymore i love him but i dont know how much longer i can put up with ths misery maybe he doesnt feel same way any more i dunno,has any one got any suggestions please!!
2007-08-01 22:51:29 · 19 answers · asked by lynners 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hey iynner....well dear i can understand u. You love ur boyfrnd rite n he behaving in a strange way is pretty obvious..nyone wud be under so much debt. Try to understand him n help him instead of cursing the situation..time wil solve ur problem. if u truly love him then dont expect nything in return but only lend ur hand when he needs ur help. If sppose he wud hav been the most richest n handsome guy on earth wud u hav left him in case of troubles. Dont just see wht makes u happy...just feel wht makes him n ur child happy abt. Time is not always the same...things wil change definitely n u wil again hav a peaceful life. Just mak him realise that YOU are his real strength n nothing in this world is more imp for u than him. He wil surely come back to u...motivate him, be a gud listener, encourage him, be his emotional support..............WHAT U NEED IS TO BE VERY PATIENT UNTIL ALL THE THINGS COME BACK TO THE TRACK. last but not the least teach urself the ART OF LIVING.
2007-08-01 23:02:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money issues can create tension between couples, and with children involved, it can be even tougher. Do you think you could get a loan of some money from family to tie you over until you fiure things out. i'm assuming you do work. if not, then a part-time job would be an option. Taking some courses for another career could be an idea (I realize you already have loans) There are many ways to save money if you sit down and figure out how to save here and there. For example, set a figure for your grocery bill and cut coupons. try to save on energy bills by installing fans. Give your bf some time, I know it's very stressful and I know some men feel less of a man when they can't support their family. Hopefully he'll come around and just keep trying. If he's still acting this way after some time, then you need to talk to him. invite your friends over for a dinner ( pot-luck is good)
2007-08-01 23:03:04 · answer #2 · answered by pussnboots333 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just as others suggest the answer is not on a make over, a special date, or any other activity but TALK. The most obvious reasons why he is so upset are not clear until you both talk about it. He is probably very upset because he is afraid of losing you and the baby. He rejects you because he doesn't want to let his guard down and show his true feelings. But if you talk about it all and make plans together on how to solve your lives problems (don't pressure him) not only you'll find solutions, you will find a stronger more loving relationship and better parents for your child.
2007-08-01 23:07:54 · answer #3 · answered by guruware 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl friend my heart is bleeding for you. i really admire the fact that you are so calm about this. you know sometimes we as women feel the strain especially when it come to money matters. i wont say that moving to his parents "big" house is a good idea. you guys have a future as grown yp and you are only going to dirupt your childs life by moving backwards. you need to stay strong for the sake of your baby. i have all the faith in you both and i beleive that you can sort this out dont give up.I am a cristian so i think it is say to say that i'll be praying for you guys. you have something beautiful going don't throw it away because of this misshap. life will hit you at times but you need to be strong sit with your man and talk to him about what's bothering you and you will see at some point something will come right. srongs i'll be thinking of you.
2007-08-01 23:11:28 · answer #4 · answered by Moby'g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
money problems can be a big big thing to men,they are stressed because of being unable to support their family and embarrassed.right now probably doesn't feel-like much of a man, so i wouldst push any thing that cost money, that just puts more pressure on him-and moving home,may make him feel even worse, like a loser or failure. just keep encouraging him, and try to be more uplifting instead of whining you never get to go anywhere,I'm sure hes trying,but times are really tough right now. sit down and talk, tell him-you love him and your standing by him,but you need alittle encouragement from him to. don't keep on him,give him some breathing room,but let him know your there and love him.hey, if you an get through these hard times, you an get through just about anything,just hang in there. good luck and god bless
2007-08-01 23:06:11 · answer #5 · answered by debbie d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
o.k i have been with my partner for 8 years and every now and then he goes like this over money but this gives me a good chance to give the house a good clean over do the gardens or take the kids somewhere when he goes like this i suggest you do this leave him alone for a little while (good time to go see your friends) come home make him give you a cuddle that is what he wants he might try and say im not in the mood for cuddling or something but be persistant he will give in tell him you love him and reassure him everything will be ok put your son to bed and make him lay with you and watch a movie remember to always be persistant and try not to fight just walk away. it will be ok.
2007-08-01 23:13:57 · answer #6 · answered by kellie c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money problems give many relationships problems...have you ever gone to the library to rent a movie..perhaps a night when your son is asleep, you both can watch a movie, have some popcorn etc...if this does not work...perhaps his feelings may have changed and you first should go back to the time before you started renting the house.
2007-08-01 22:58:46 · answer #7 · answered by faceeternity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is this are some relationships risky? if so specific, of course. Being in a relationship with a murderer, rapist, a violent guy or woman or a psychological abuser as an occasion. no longer possibly specific if thats what you elect for...oh properly
2016-10-09 01:12:16 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess u boyfriend is not beoing fair to u i think with money ptoblems da best thing to do is just to move into his parents house and live 4 some time until u are able to solve ur money issues. for live u have alot to live for and friends true i will always think abt u.all da best
2007-08-01 23:03:12 · answer #9 · answered by naaoyoq 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a concern answerer i may suggest that take your time and talk to him..tell him if is there any problem??dont let the day pass through talk your problems and think about the solution to that problem...is just like a math if both of you is both positive then the result maybe be positive..
2007-08-01 22:59:00 · answer #10 · answered by michael e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋