I fell in love with a man who has major depression, he is very sweet, thoughtful and romantic but on the other side he is a liar and disrespectful, is that part of the depression?
2007-08-01 22:38:47 · 14 answers · asked by emily 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
kindly take him to a counsellor n then decide on the basis of the progress, marriage is a major decision, u see
2007-08-01 22:41:45 · answer #1 · answered by swati_chhavi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suffer from depression and I am not a liar nor am I disrespectful. My husband has mental health problems due to he was in a war years ago. It is hard living with a mentally ill person.I know I have been living in hell with him for years, due to his illness. If they are on the CORRECT meds things should be find, but finding the right meds may take years.
If he is lying to you now he will lie when you are married and same rule applies to disrespectful.
Stop and ask yourself do you want a liar and disrespectful husand?
9 out of 10 they don't change their ways. Point if he is doing it now he will continue.
I would think about this.
If I knew my husband had all these problems was this way I would never step a foot into it.'
2007-08-01 22:46:23 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Angalz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, lying and disrespect are just plain and simple bad behaviors. These are not aspects of being depressed as I have been depressed myself at times. I have never lied or been disrespectful to others just because I was feeling bad. I would give your boyfriend time to figure out his life because he does not sound like he is ready for marriage. He could easily use his depression as an excuse to cheat and lie about it. Has he done this in the past? I would move on and find someone else. Be his friend, but do not marry him because it will only hurt you in the end. My best friend was married to a gentleman who lied, was controlling, and there was no excuse for his behavior. Bad behavior is just bad behavior pure and simple.
2007-08-01 22:44:44 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him, bottom line. "Depression" is not an excuse for being a disrespectful liar.
As a side-note, "post partum" depression is ALSO not an excuse for chasing one's kids around the house and drowning them in the bathtub (even though some say that it's an excuse).
2007-08-01 22:41:14 · answer #4 · answered by Joseph C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats a tough one...I also have depression and can be a nightmare to my partner. Just remember that it lasts or can be on and off for a really long time, maybe hold off on the marriage thing for a while.
2007-08-01 22:46:23 · answer #5 · answered by julie d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your description is a complete oxy-moron. How can someone be thoughtful and sweet, yet at the same time be disrespectful. I would say he probably suffers from multiple personalities then, and it is up to you if you want to marry him, I personally would say no.
2007-08-01 22:42:13 · answer #6 · answered by ellen d 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe you are even asking......NO. Plus being a liar and disrespectful isn't part of depression.
2007-08-01 22:42:28 · answer #7 · answered by jcampwick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, its very hard to deal with. People under great depression often hard to work with.How big is the trouble? If that will affect your ever longing marriage this will result to unhappy life.Deal first his personality.
2007-08-02 00:50:16 · answer #8 · answered by SorrowArtist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I would think marriage. Depression that is not successfully treated can reak havoc on your relationship. Just be his supportive friend and enjoy his company for now.
2007-08-01 22:42:28 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs.Blessed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a no-go, depression like that sounds like drugs, and that means debt, quit while your ahead. even if you find him romantic sometimes, he might be a nasty pig the rest of the time, I wouldnt want to hang around THAT all day, would you?
2007-08-01 22:41:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋