im confused?
:( my boyfs had plans to come with me to my uncles 60th bday, its been planned for months!
now hes saying a few of the lads r going to have a lapdance that night etc and he really wants to go.
i duno how i feel about it, should i be upset about it??i dont wana say well actually u had plans with me first!!!
i mean if a girl see's a male stripper its like nothing just fun and think nothing of it,
bt other people tell me that wen a male goes to see a lapdancer usually its more than nothing, an i duno whether i quite want a naked girl all over him HA am i bad to think that? wen i dont even know what lapdancers actually do to them???xxx
2007-08-01 21:58:20 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah i'd be pissed, and I wouldn't stand for it.
if you pay them enough they will have sex with you. Illegal or not.
2007-08-01 22:00:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is very disrespectful to tell you he wants to see a lapdancer. I would never do that to my girlfriend out of respect and mostly love. If he sais he loves you, then why does he want a girl rubbing her privates all over him, that don't make sense to me. It's up to you but you should tell him how you feel cause that's just not right by any means, and trust me it's not just in good fun. Guys get lapdances because they are horndogs and just want a different womans privates on them. Don't let him tell you that you are overreacting or that it is no big deal, cause it is and you have the right to be angry, hurt, and jealous.
2007-08-02 05:05:43 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be. I mean, he is just saying he would rather be with some other girl and let her rub herself all over him than be with you. I don't know. Are you ok with it? Some people are. I like the "look but don't touch" rule in a steady relationship, and lapdancing definitely involves lots of touching. Anyway, I can't imagine him saying this unless he was really trying to make you mad. Sounds like he is dropping a major hint. Maybe he's not that into you.
2007-08-02 05:01:39 · answer #3 · answered by zz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That kind of stuff upsets me too, but I honestly think that guys don't see it the same way (and if its just a lap dance, they don't actually touch you).
Anyway, the reason he probably wants to go is because its a boys night more than that he wants a lap dance. I would try and compromise and say that he can go but not get a lap dance himself. Ask how he would feel if you had a naked man dancing all over you.
The above is under normal circumstances, however, because he already made plans with you then I think it is unfair for him to change them because he got a better offer. He can reschedule his boys night for another night. Good luck :)
2007-08-02 05:03:44 · answer #4 · answered by Justme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is letting you down in a big way. I would be seriously thinking through your long term future if you remain with someone that would put lapdancing ahead of a family 60th (which by most peoples opinion is an important birthday).
2007-08-02 05:03:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
, they are mechanical so no matter how hard u try to get with them they are just doing their job but then again money can buy anything if the girls up for it, its not right that he's ditching u for a lapdance, who does that , its just shows that he is not yet a man + plus its stupid because he could probabaly get more than a lapdance from u
2007-08-02 05:07:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should be angry and yes, you should ditch him immediately. Why on earth would you want to be with someone who 'really wants' to go and see some naked woman? Oh, and by the way, I disagree about male strippers not being the same. It's all degrading and has no place in a loving relationship.
2007-08-02 05:04:13 · answer #7 · answered by retro_girl34 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lapdance a girl pretty much all over ur bf while being a pretty much hoe but its ok because she gets paied UGH! i cant stand it lol it might be because im jealous but i would kill my bf if he wanted to get a lapdance he knows if he wants one he can get it from me he dont want any other girls and ur man should feel the same!
2007-08-02 05:02:05 · answer #8 · answered by southern_babe6984 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They dance in front of them.
Dont be upset, these girls are not hookers, he will not be allowed to sleep with them, he will be coming home to you. I would just gently remind him that although he had plans already made with you, you wont be upset if he goes, but if he does go your going to buy a vibrator :o) No!! only joking
Its quite an enjoyable experience going to see a lapdancer, she makes you feel erotic and tingly and then he can bring that on home for you!
2007-08-02 05:05:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
he made plans with you first so he should skip out on the lapdancer. and he's a jerk and I wouldn't trust him since some stripper places offer other extras.
2007-08-02 05:03:28 · answer #10 · answered by Sweeney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
xJanx,
Your jealousy is getting the better of you. If he loves you, you got nothing to worry about. Of course I'm a cynic and firmly believe that no matter who you are your mate will eventually become tired of you. People always seek variety. Anyway, you seem pretty well-meaning and a nice person so don't let it bother you; just remember life is too short to endure torments if you find yourself depressed.
2007-08-02 05:04:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋