SORRY ITs REALLY LONG!
ok, i have known this guy since we were little kids, our moms work together,they're best friends. we both help out a lot at their shop so we see each other a lot, specially during holidays, like Valentine's day.
we both get a long with each others parents really well, his parents love me and my mom likes him so much she once offered him to help him out (lot of problems w/ his parents).
he's always joking that he's gonna take me out one night and you know, bring me home early & stuff & he asked my mom she said that he could, he could keep me out all night, trusts him.
one day outta the blue, he asks me out he wasnt joking. i had plans, but he thinks i was lying to not go out with him, but i was not. he got real sad, even his cuz noticed after i told her. i felt real bad for turning him down, but i'm worried that he would like to take things to far too quick. he's 17 & im 15, and he's not a virgin, I am. i do like him, & he does too.Should i go out w/ him, or not?
2007-08-01 19:24:50 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah, i dont feel like i owe him something
and he know i'm not going to sleep with him, i told him that and he said he knew..and he was good with that
and i think my mom was joking about the all nighter...now that i think about it
thanks!
2007-08-01 19:55:15 · update #1
Let`s see 17 years old and being pouty about getting turned down,..sounds like dudes hormones are raging and he`s trying to get a little (yummy-yummy),.Look just because he knows mom and you and it`s fun time at the shop, don`t think he does`nt want you to be a notch on his bed post,..If he has problems with his parents he certainly does not care if he has them with you.DONT put yourself on an emotional roller-coaster,.. stay friends if he excepts it ,.OK,.. if not you know he was up to no good.....From now until you leave this earth you are in control of YOU,. not anyone else, don`t let someones feelings sway your RIGHT decisions,..remember you ARE a virgin,..he is not.....save it until you and only you think it`s right to give!!!!!!!
2007-08-01 20:12:34 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Goodnight. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Answer this question: Do you like him? As in the way a single girl likes a single guy? If your answer to that is yes, then by all means, take the chance, gou out and have fun. And on a sidenote, relationships don't have to mean having sex so don't worry about virginity and stuff, you guys are young so just spend time and relax :)
If you only like him as a friend, tell him because I think the guy likes you somehow. If you made it clear that you only want to be friends and he still wants for you guys to go out, then there's nothing wrong with that :) Enjoy each other's company as friends :)
2007-08-01 19:35:27 · answer #2 · answered by earthangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with your mom. Everyone really needs to be on the same wavelength here. Your instincts are probably right on that he will probably try to push an advantage with you, and try to manipulate you into something you are simply not ready for.
Personally, I think 15 is too young to date. Your mom needs to back you up on that with him instead of giving blanket permission without consulting you. You will date a person when YOU feel you are correctly ready.
I will also recommend that you have your mom take you to the Planned Parenthood sex-education class. Maybe she needs the refresher course on what you may be embarking on. Heck, she might decide to enroll you in a karate course!
At your age, one year in age difference is a LARGE difference... light years. It doesn't become a non-issue until you are out of college. After age 25 it is all relative.
When this guy turns 18, he will not be able to hang out with you. When a person turns 18, they must hang out with people 18 and UP, or you can get into serious legal trouble by hanging out with underage kids.
You can be friends and hang out. Dating? That is a serious judgement call.
2007-08-01 19:39:31 · answer #3 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi dear! Well I say if you really like him, go for it. You know each other, and your parents know each other more or less, so it should be safe enough. About him being a virgin or not, don`t worry abut it. Remember, you are always the boss when it comes to how far You want it to go! Every boy that is worth saving, respect a girl/woman when they say no! Don`t you forget that, you are the one making the rules, always. So don`t worry, be happy! have a great summer, good luck, peace and love from Norway
2007-08-01 19:35:45 · answer #4 · answered by thefallen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just tell him when your not busy. Then ask him if he still wants to go out with you. Start with going out to the movies first. You don't have to have sex with him because you went to the movies together. Take it one step at a time. Don't have sex with someone because you feel you owe him or what ever. Wait until you are ready.
2007-08-01 19:32:10 · answer #5 · answered by loumamma 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just set him straight from the beginning. Tell him that you are a virgin and want to remain one until you get married. If he goes for that one, its probably okay to date him, but NOT to stay out all night.
2007-08-01 19:32:15 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go out with him but tell him your opinion and tell him how you feel about sex and other things. Let him know how you feel and in return you will get a great relationship if you can be honest !!
2007-08-01 19:31:18 · answer #7 · answered by *Oreo* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say , "yes"....go out with him, and see how things turn out...if things start getting hot....just tell him to take you home..lol
2007-08-01 19:30:49 · answer #8 · answered by Roberto D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋