ok so my friend has a boyfriend whom she "met" through her ex boyfriend . She's only known this kid a good 3 1/2 days. Well yesterday she calls me freaking out because she can't get ahold of him and her ex boyfriend told her he was hanging out with two other girls and she was pissed her "boyfriend" didn't tell her he would be hanging out with two other girls. Mind you, her and this dude have never even met before, just talked on the phone. Personally, I thought she was overreacting WAY too much, but instead I just told her to calm down and listed other scenarios and stuff, but when I told her she was being a little clingy w/ some1 she hardly knew she got mad at me & said I wouldn't know anything about this because I've never had a boyfriend. Was I rude or something? Should I really be the one apologizing?
2007-08-01 19:22:02 · 24 answers · asked by Hannah_X5 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
apparently she's met him ONCE a long long long time ago. Ugh this is so annoying because I know I'm right, but maybe I came off as like jealous or something of her. IDK. But if I did have a boyfriend I would NOT act like that.
2007-08-01 19:39:31 · update #1
Hell No you shouldn't be apologizing. You need to stop being her friend quick because she sounds psycho to me and apparently the only reason she even has a boyfriend is because she goes for the 1st person she talks to. Start hanging out with new people, people with as much common sense as you.
2007-08-01 19:27:15 · answer #1 · answered by A-Town Soulja 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She is being possessive of someone she doesn't know?
I'd hate to see her in a real relationship. She is very immature
and needs to realize how foolish she is.
You were right to admonish her about her behavior before
she makes a fool of herself. Which she might do anyway. She
will only realize this, when he admonishes her or ignores her
in time to come. That attitude would scare any boy off. She
doesn't own him for goodness sake. Why would she think
she could make any claim on him or what he does or whom
he sees? She needs to find more to keep her busy and
stop focusing on the one boy. If she continues to be rude to
you, drop her. She's no friend. And friends often do tell others
they care about, the truth about themselves. Whether or not,
they care to hear it.
2007-08-02 02:30:14 · answer #2 · answered by Lynn 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No.. you should not be apologizing. Real friends are the types of friends that offer suggestions, comments and advice honestly, even if they won't want to hear it.
It's true. That girl is mad trippin' over a guy she's never even met face to face- which is why she needst o meet people before trying to feel 'committed'. (Because that dude was most likely getting cute with the girls he HAS met.)
Tell her to stop trippin', and don't apologize for telling her the truth.
2007-08-02 02:26:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do think she was over reacting. They aren't together sheesh! I don't think you need to apologize..if she says you do then say I'm sorry for caring and would she rather you lie to her about her actions or tell it how it is? If she can't handle the truth then tough crap. She needs to grow up. (obviously cuz she cannot handle the thought of her guy friend hanging out with other girls )
2007-08-02 02:27:53 · answer #4 · answered by Jen22 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it sounds like she totally overreacted. But you are reading too much into it. Just leave her alone, she is blinded by feelings and is not thinking straight, so anything you tell her she won't really listen to. Just tell her how you feel and if she doesn't get it, oh well. Sit back and wait until she comes around (which she will).
2007-08-02 02:26:47 · answer #5 · answered by MrsKat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your friend is beginning to like this guy, and sure, it can be overwhelming, especially hearing they're off with someone that isn't you. However, I think maybe the way you put it made her become defensive. She will get over it in time, and when she one day finds out her and this guy actually AREN'T a couple, she'll be dumbfounded, and wonder why she didn't listen.
2007-08-02 02:26:07 · answer #6 · answered by stormy.! 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't sweat it. From the looks of things they're break up in a few days... a couple of weeks being the longest. After that, life will go back to normal. Give her some space while she gets over this little fling of hers.
2007-08-02 02:25:27 · answer #7 · answered by Lover Girl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You were probably right, but no one likes to hear that they're wrong...you don't have to apologize for telling her what you thought as true, and good advice, but let her know that you're still there to listen and sympathize with her...what are friends for?
2007-08-02 02:28:48 · answer #8 · answered by k 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
-women-youre a woman you know
you shouldnt apologize for no reason to a friend, to a girlfriend... eh... but shes just having a fit, probably things seem a little thrown out of proportion to her so shes just keeping up with her mind
2007-08-02 02:34:24 · answer #9 · answered by ceesteris 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you were just letting her know to calm down. If shes going to freak out about that and you try to tell her not to worry she shouldnt get mad at you. Your just trying to help and she doesnt see that.
2007-08-02 02:26:04 · answer #10 · answered by imsmartkid 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋