Is it weird, I never had a girlfriend in 19 years and dont want one?

Question

I am about to turn 19 y/o guy and never had a girlfriend or a first kiss or any of that, it use to be because I was shy now I just dont want one. I am not gay just dont want a girlfriend and the baggage that comes with it. I also dont believe in sex before marriage so wont have that for a long time, haha if I even get married. But does it sound weird for a guy that is 19 not to want a girlfriend. I guess its just different cuz all my friends have girlfriends.

haha what if I am not wearing socks ha got u what then. funny but will never happen I already have to many women in my life way to many, my mom and sister damn that sucks

Ya make my own movie The 85 Year Old Virgin

Fat I am built like the saying ford tough damn fat wht the hell if I was fat i would kill myself

Answer 1

Not really each person is different, that sort of thing just kicks on and off, blelive me I know from experiance, and what will probably happen is one day you'll notice someone from across the room or sitting next to you and you'll be feeling exactly the oppisit way than you are now.

Answer 2

Give it time, it is your age... you have plenty of time to become more comfortable with girls, and that will come with time and age. I am just 19, have never had a boyfriend, and I don't drink either. You have to be able to stand up for what you believe and who cares what anyone else thinks. I'm sure that you're a great guy. Your shyness with girls is probably influenced too by going to an all boys school, so you're not around girls as much. My suggestion is to focus primarily on school right now. Someone told me once that just try to say hi to five new people a day and it really helps with building confidence. Try that, maybe don't worry about finding a girlfriend to start, but just build friendships and see where that goes. Good luck hun :)

Answer 3

I don't think its weird at all that you have never had a girlfriend because I know people who are way older than you, their almost in their 30's and 40's and never had a girl/boyfriend because they just don't seem interested. I find it strange that they don't have strong feelings for another person, but definitely not weird. Some people might not find the right person for them, their probably not ready, or just feel like they can live life on their own. So don't feel left out or an outcast just because you never had a girlfriend.

Answer 4

Not really. Before my current relationship, I had pretty much the same thing as you. I never wanted the baggage, or anything else! I was shy, but I didn't care about sex before marriage, however I did care about sex with someone you care about. I wasn't gay either. But no, it's not weird. Eventually I met someone that I cared for enough, and so well... You get the point? It just depends on everyone for their own pace. Eventually you may meet that special someone that does it for you!

Answer 5

My first question before I saw your detail was "are you 19 or 38?" Now that I see you are 19, you just need to go live your life, although you will find that you have to enjoy a solitary life because too often people want your "partner" along and don't like the risks of the solo guy.

Answer 6

My Brother is like this
And the Whole Family bugs him
that he doesnt have a Gf
Hes the same age as you!
But he has kissed someone
[Only a Hook up at a party]

hes shy
doesnt talk much
and kind of fat
are you fat?
lol

and we think hes gay
but dont say anything

but thats what most pople say if you dont have a Gf
haha

soo Get a Gf
haha


;)

Answer 7

first of all, that is awesome that you dont want sex before marriage. how sweet! i love ya for that babe!
second..ok. if you dont want a girlfriend..fine. no big deal. dont worry about what is "weird" or "normal" by other peoples standards. if thats how you feel, thats how you feel. most other guys just want girls because theyre obsessed with sex or whatever..to me, THEY are the ones with something wrong with them.

okay..but i just want to ask you something. you said you were shy and thats why you didnt get a girlfriend at first, right? are you sure that maybe you just didnt get the point where you..kinda gave up...and now your just using this "its okay, because i dont even WANTa girlfriend" attitude, as an excuse for yourself, to make you feel better? and maybe so that you wont have to try anymore, because you know what a hard time youve had in the past trying to get anywhere with girls? do you think that perhaps there could be some subconscience stuff goin on here?
because i know, if your shy, it can feel like..impossible. if you ever DO want a girlfriend..you know what i think you should totally do? i think you should go to match.com or something. because my brother, daniel..oh my gosh..he is soo freaking shy, and it was always so hard for him to meet any girls...so thats what he did, go on match.com...and i mean, over the internet, it is SOO much easier, ya know..to talk to people and find people that you have stuff in common and you like..and daniel found HIS girlfriend there..and..oh my gosh..they are so cute together! =) but i just know that it made it so much easier for him to do when it was online...match.com kicks a-ss. ;)

but yeah anyway..no your not weird. people on here will probably tell ya you are....... but trust me. karrie is the girl to listen to babe. =)

Answer 8

Being in a relationship does not define who you are. If you know what you want, when you want it, why would it be weird? Maybe you just haven't found the right girl and you don't want to settle for anything less. Your friends and your relatives does not constitute the whole world so don't set your standards to theirs. If you're ready to have a girlfriend, then, she will come. Until then, enjoy life :)

Answer 9

im also 19 and its funny how we both are alike, i used to think i was just shy but now i suddenly start to see that i just dont want one, i could easily go and jump to a relationship right now there are many possibilities, but i just dont like to grab it, and i do know for one that i hate the baggage that comes along with it, like i enjoy doing stuff and minding my own busines and that its really hard to share my inner world to another person, so im not really closing doors its jsut that i know deep down inside i know what i want, i used to think i was just insecure with the way i look but whenever i recall i love the way i look and i adore myself too. though i do hope im not narcissistic
its not weird, i mean for me, its normal that you dont want to commit and have a girlfriend.
and suddenly we are being pressured because almost all the people we know are having relationships, starting them or getting out of it
its called peer pressure.
all i know is i wouldnt want to give in to it,
and things will reveal themselves sooner or later.

Answer 10

it's not actually wierd, it's normal -- it depends on the person's priorities and outlook ... if ur friends have gfs, it is not necessary u go ahead and have one when u don't want one -- you'll just hurt her for no reason -- and to tell u the truth this is the reason how most relationships dont work out -- so don't worry, you've got other things to look into :)