im 19 ive been with my first boyfriend for 6 months now and im so crazy i love with him...
im so happy when im with him and when we are not in good terms i feel like i cant even breath... like today he was planning on seeing me but then something came up.. and he cant now and i understand but i still feel anxious and this knot in my throat and stomach... and i just dont feel good.. knowing that he could have been spending time with me right now... or i dont no what it is... and now i cant think straight.. i want to call him and tell him all my depressing thoughts but i wont because i dont want to push him away... i was talking to my mom she says that i need to get anti depressants because i shouldnt depend on him to be happy.. shes says that if i take them i might realize i dont actually love him and it was just insecurity and depression that made me think i nEEDED him to live a happy life... any thoughts?
i wish i could just work this all out naturally i dont want sideeffects.. any thoughts?
2007-08-01 19:01:47 · 8 answers · asked by not happy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i only see him once a week.. so i really miss him....
but yes.. im going to look into pills.. thanks people who werent too harsh..god...
2007-08-01 19:11:37 · update #1
You are Extremely attached to him.
What would happen to you if he died?
You have to get yourself in check. You may be smothering him and not even know it. When you think you're being cool, that stuff has a way of showing.
Maybe a/d's are a good idea. There may be something more wrong with you. There MAY be. Look into it. Couldn't hurt.
2007-08-01 19:07:09 · answer #1 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think anti-depressants is the answer. Maybe you're just way too anxious because he's your first boyfriend. You are you not because of him so don't center your happiness on just him. Be yourself, enjoy life and remember who you were before you two started going out. When you're together, make the most of your time, do things together, bond, know each other, listen. He and your relationship with him is only part of the whole you that he loves so don't change because he fell for you just the way you are :)
Goodluck on your relationship!
P.S. too much obsessing on your guy might drive him away instead. Trust him and live your life :)
2007-08-02 02:12:32 · answer #2 · answered by earthangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one else can come into your life and make you happy all of the time. It is unfair and ridiculous to put that kind of burden on anyone. You need to be happy with yourself, and you are obviously not. You will only smother other people with your insecurity. Get a hold of yourself and start realizing that everyone needs space to breathe. You can not have someone with you 24 hrs. a day--not even if you are married to them. Eventually you will run him away. You definitely need some therapy.
2007-08-02 02:08:53 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no no no. anti-depressants wont help. my friend took those because she was sad and she became crazy. she does drugs and turns to all those bad things. Just dont do it. Just know that he loves and cares for you. Dont depend on him for your happiness. you CAN live without him. Be strong. And hes still with you, so be happy at that. Keep yourself busy. Go running or take up a hobby of some sort.
2007-08-02 02:13:14 · answer #4 · answered by bite the dust 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you don't need anti-depressants, if you're crazy in love with him and he feels the same way, then continue the relationship, it's just that you want your boyfriend to return your feelings.
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2007-08-02 02:08:24 · answer #5 · answered by Jose G 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would say talk this out with someone
u may be in love with this person but u have to find a way to control the feelings and not let the feelings control you
2007-08-02 02:08:22 · answer #6 · answered by cowboy76360 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i cannot BELIEVE your mother suggested pills,,,,and ^ is right,,,you need to get some friends to do stuff with and RELAX
2007-08-02 02:08:58 · answer #7 · answered by vanessa c 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need friends - you sound scary...
2007-08-02 02:05:47 · answer #8 · answered by ♥michele♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋