and then today i went to see his family cause they invited me over to see everyone while he was at football camp.. and ever since the break up i have been depressed beyond belief (nothing was making me happy not even going out with my girls and family on road trips) but today while i was there i was happy and everything and his sister told me that he has or had my picture on his cellphone background with a banner saying i miss her so much.. and i looking in his room and he still had all of the gifts haning up on his wall and on his computer center..
my questions is do u think he still loves me and 2 do u thinkhe would take me back ? all of my friends sya if i get back with him they wont talk to me but i miss being happpy and i was happiest when i was with him!!!!
HELP
i need a good answer before sunday when he gets home
i already emailed him saying i want to talk to him and that i mis him
2007-08-01 18:56:19 · 16 answers · asked by Caitlin S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we were togethr for 6 months
i felt unappricated because i always Had to pay for everything i went to all of his football scrimages even when i wasn't supposed to go... i would do his chores for him and i would ask him to go swimming with me and lil things like that but he chose video games instead...thas how i felt unappriciated... other than that we were good... ummmm my friends didn't know him really we go to different schools.. so non of our friends knew eachother except my best friend met him once and " hated him since that day "
so thats more background
oh yeah he never got me anything for valentines day or out 6 month ann i probably spent over 300 on him
2007-08-01 19:12:33 · update #1
sounds like he loves you and would prob take you back but why did you break up? Will that change or can you be happy if it doesn't?
How do you feel like you need to be appreciated? Have you shared that with him? sometimes we aske for things that people either aren't capable of doing to our satisfaction or that they don't know about. maybe he thought he wasa showing appreciation. I used to get mad at my hubby for the same reasons and he didn't know why cuz in his way, he was showing me appreciation...i just couldn't se it because i wasn't my version.
what will really make you happy? and why won't your friends talk to you? Was he mentally or physically hurting you? sometimes your friends may see things that you don't. ask them. if their reasons are silly, well, sometimes you need to prune the friendship tree of dead branches. But maybe there are valid reasons. It doesn't hurt to listen, but make your own decision regardless. sometimes a break up shakes things up and gets things going right. Makes them realize what they are losing.
Hope you find your happiness sister cuz goodness knows we all need some!!! Good luck with the right choice!
2007-08-01 19:09:18 · answer #1 · answered by emtalex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
COMMUNICATE--it is the biggest part of a healthy relationship. Men and women are different. somehow you are emotionally needy and want some gratification somewhere for something---He is a man and doesn't quite do any of that. You need to talk that over. Not right away--but at a convenient time when he can listen to you. Football Camp??? High School?? Young men like sports, food, cars, boobs, sex, sleep, beer----girly emotions are just not a part of that guys life. Why all the kiddy drama--don't you thinkl you are a little young for all that?? I mean you both have college and futures to care about. Can't you go to the games and have fun and go to school and get an education?? he won't be worrying about you--not with football and school to care about. Just not enough involvement yet....so don't expect much soothing girl stuff. You can drive this guy away with the emotional needy act. Think it over and relax...good luck
2007-08-01 19:05:30 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why does it have to matter that he loves you back , if you love him it wouldnt matter whether he loves you or not, the point is that you love him and i dont think you should get back together just because you feel depressed and sad and you want a pillow , a man to carry you through, you only give this a chance when you know you love him and that you want to be able to contribute something worthwhile in his life, cause even if you get back at him with youre kind of thinking it will end again that way, and why are your friends against him? have you started asking that, and arent you going to hurt him by just wanting him back but not really sure if you love him anuyway.
2007-08-01 19:03:11 · answer #3 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you still love him and you are supposed he still thinks about you too , then why dont u just give both a chance for ur love ? about your friends , they doesnt matter , just tell them how u feel they will understand or they have no ideas to get stick their nose on ur relation , in my opinions , he still think and love u as much as u do , his family loves u too , come on ! Well , honestly , i dont know if he get you back , it is hard to predict something like that , but if he doesnt then you should be the one who asks to , do what you think is right and never regret just try ur best , Good luck !
2007-08-01 19:02:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friends would disown you for going out with this guy i doubt they're good friends. What does who you go out with have to do with them?
If you really love if then give him another chance. Your friends will come around. A chance to be with someone you love who loves you back comes once in a blue moon.
Don't worry. If he really loves you he'll take you back in a second.
2007-08-01 19:13:53 · answer #5 · answered by Just Moni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He really could of moved on depending on how serious you two were. Also, do NOT let your friends dictate your love life. If they won't talk to you over a guy then they are not friends at all. If my friends said that to me they would no longer be friends. Even saying that would make me mad....sheesh.
2007-08-01 19:00:25 · answer #6 · answered by ArachnidDemon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and get back together with him. Sounds like he still wants you. You gave him enough of a scare by leaving him that he will hopefully treat you better. If they are your real friends, they will support you. Make sure they know that.
2007-08-01 18:59:46 · answer #7 · answered by Dorphinoct 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you go back to him, it'll be more of the same.
When you talk to him, let HIM do the talking. You reached out and said you missed him. Let him say he wants you back.
2007-08-01 18:59:57 · answer #8 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...depends on what u mean by unappreciated -- if he not being there for u was a one time thing, then go back, he will surely take u back -- and dont worry about ur friends, they won't leave u
2007-08-01 19:00:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him how you felt, and why you felt that you had to leave him. If he loves you, he will try to do better. You need to help him, however. He can not read your mind.
2007-08-01 19:00:13 · answer #10 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋