i have this friend who lives in texas and i live in minnesota. well anyway i found out that she is having a baby shower. i had asked her why didnt i get a invintation and she said its because she knew i could not make it becuse we are long distance she also said its because she dosent want me to feel like i have to send a gift. what should i do. im so mad at her for not inviting me
im so sad. should i be stressed
2007-08-01 18:51:51 · 17 answers · asked by mayo_girl_2006 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your friend has been nice enough to consider that you will not be able to attend the shower due to your living so far from her. She is also showing consideration and perfect taste to not expect you to send a gift. If you want to send her a gift anyway, please do so and just say on the card that you wish you lived closer so that you could have been there. Do not be mad at your friend, she is obviously considering your feelings by not making you feel like you have to send a gift. You can be sad because you cannot be there, but do not ruin your friendship over it.
2007-08-06 12:17:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think you should be stressed.
1. You did not receive an invitation to her baby shower.
2. You asked her why. (That's good.)
3. She told you the truth. (That's good too.)
Her reasons sound like she is a very thoughtful and considerate friend and that she has her priorities right. She lovingly spared you the hardship and cost of travel and/or sending a gift.
A baby shower is a small thing when compared to the the honesty and loving concern you both obviously share.
Minnesota to Texas roundtrip aire costs about $600. Maybe after the baby is born a few days spent alone with her and her baby would far surpass any gift or the pleasure of your presence at the shower. Showers are stressful and the mother-to-be needs to share her attention and appreciation with all in attendance.
2007-08-09 11:34:06 · answer #2 · answered by maslo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I am surprised you would be mad at her. She was trying to be considerate of you but you are taking offense. Have you asked yourself why this would bother you so much? Do you often have feelings of rejection that this brought to the surface. The baby shower is about your friend and people wanting to bless her and her baby. I hope you didn't make her feel bad. She isn't the one sending the invitations anyway. Not to sound mean but why waste an invitation and postage on someone that won't be attending anyway. Plus, if she had sent an invitation, would you have huffed and said "I bet she's expecting a gift"? Give her a break and be a vessel of grace. She wasn't trying to hurt your feelings, she was trying to save you money!!!!!
2016-05-20 22:58:44 · answer #3 · answered by jerri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She did you a favor. She was trying to be realistic about the situation. She did not want you to feel that she was sending you an invitation just so that you would feel obligated to send a gift. That is what you call a very considerate person. Why in the world would you be mad at her???? You need to loosen up. You must carry your feelings on your shoulders!!! Don't be that way. You are only hurting yourself.
2007-08-01 18:57:53 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would thank her for her consideration, and send her a gift along with a card saying how much I miss her, and how much I reget not being able to "share" this mile stone in her life. And ask for all the details of the shower. Just like girlfriends share everything.
2007-08-08 16:18:49 · answer #5 · answered by Laura F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty sensitive about things like that too, but I would not stress about that. I'm sure she really was thinking of you and if you really can't or couldn't go, why does it bother you so much? If you want to send a gift, do it. Don't be mad.
2007-08-07 06:36:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your friend was trying to disclude you from the baby shower. She was thinking of your best interest and trying to save you the cost of a flight and gift. I'm sure she would have liked you there if she had known you wanted to go.
2007-08-01 18:56:25 · answer #7 · answered by Wifey73 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her in the future it would be nice to receive the invite. its not much u can do try not to ascribe ill will and believe what she says if it happens in the future you know its something else. just tell her how you feel its in order to stay friends from a distance its important u communicate in keep each other posted on your life happenings, whether or not the other person is there physcically or not.
2007-08-01 19:09:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.
she probably did truely think that you wouldnt be able to come to becasuse of the distance!!
i probably would have done the same thing if i was her!!
unless you two were like best friends; i dont think you should be too upset about!! it sounds more like you guys are just kinda sorta friends!! so yeah!
2007-08-01 18:57:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she probably done it for the best but i know what you mean it doesnt matter if you couldnt make it is the respect of at least giving you a invitation yeah i ken what you mean :) dont be stressed xx
2007-08-09 07:42:51 · answer #10 · answered by kayleigh m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋