How can I get them to stop thinking I am crazy when I am not? Please help?

Question

The past year and a half have been incredibly hard for me.. I lost my mom to cancer, have had a huge responsibilty in doing everything in our home and helping raise my younger sister, had the pressures of senior year and applying for college, had to quit my part time job, our family went through a tough time financially, I lost some long time friends, had a rocky relationship with my boyfriend, and had some problems with my extended family.

That said, I'll admit this has changed me. I worry more, am very cautious and untrusting for fear I will be hurt or betrayed again, and have been a bit depressed at times. I just wasn't your typical easy going teen, but with medication I have gotten out of the despression and am really doing good, I feel that everything has made me stronger...but my problem is people have been calling me crazy. I am constantly watched and criticized. If I ever get upset about anything in public they gossip about it and say I need help. How can I get them to stop

talking about me when I am really fine? The things I get upset about are NORMAL, not related to my losses, and yet people assume they are related to my loss and that I am crazy and not able to cope. I'm sick of it. I need advice, because I am not crazy! I have just had a lot to deal with at one time

Answer 1

You have my heartfelt sympathy on the loss of your mother. Believe in yourself and just ignore them. They obviously do not understand what you are going through (and have endured). Concentrate on doing the things you enjoy, do your best in school and at home, and talk to people you trust. In time you will be less worried. Be kind to yourself as you go through this difficult transitional year.

Best wishes.

Answer 2

No you are not crazy,
As a guy who had to spend some time in a mental ward I know what I am talking about. My medical disability is one that doesn't present itself well so only the doctors of the mental ward would believe I was in constant pain.

Depressed yes; if you weren't then I would call you crazy. Just because you are taking antidepressants doesn't mean you are crazy, it means you are depressed and need some help. I complement you on your sanity because going through a year like that could crack a lot of people.

So who are calling you crazy? If it is your parents then they are in serious need of education by the doctor. If you want to meet real crazy I can show you some horror stories where a guy will take out his own eyes because they offended him.

If it is the people at school who are calling you crazy then ignore them, you will be gone soon and they are just looking for a kink in your armor to attack you.

When a cat chases an insect or a mouse, wounds it and then chases it some more, just for the hunt; we think that is cruel. Compared to high school children that cat should be singing in the choir of angels. The kids at school are trying to make themselves look and feel better by making you feel worse and inferior. It's a cheap way to get a good high and most adults learn it is a self destructive way and not very good. The problem is that children and teenagers don't have the maturity to understand that yet.

Mental health is poorly understood in this country and often ridiculed. Especially if someone is brave enough to ask for help. These people calling you crazy are fools themselves and don't even know what crazy means. Mass Murderers are crazy; you are having a rough patch; men who rape little old women because they are too weak to attack a younger woman; that's crazy.

The best thing to do is to hide the medication and don't let people know you are taking it. If you are asked then tell them you are taking it for an upset stomach. Stress causes stomach pains and depression is a big sign of having too much stress; you aren't going very far from the truth.

Talk about depression hear this: I have an illness that can’t be detected, can’t be cured, and can’t be treated. It features insomnia, depression and chronic pain. So I can look forward to another 40-60 years of constant pain. Since I take fairly good care of myself and stay at home (I can’t work). I will live a long life, I don’t take the daily risks of driving to work or crossing the street that other people do and I am going to live the rest of my life in pain. Now here is the worst part…there are a whole lot of people who are worse off than I am. Believe me you are not crazy; you are not even nearing the tipping edge. You realized you had a problem and you sought help. Just because it came in a pill labeled “antidepressant” doesn’t mean you are any lesser of a person.

The problem with my depression and yours is that it is natural do to the problems that we are going through. They are bad enough for us that we need some help. From long term experience I know that antidepressants don’t help a lot. They take the edge off at best and often fail. So buck up, you are handling it well and those who are calling you crazy are the weaker crowd.

Answer 3

ALl thats happened to you has ofcourse made u reallly strongg andd a better person. You have felt fear and sadness most people w ill never feel so they dont undersatand at all what you are going through. When the y think you're crazy and all i gues they jus relate it to the fact that your still worried sick and scared and sad about all that has happened. I think you should try speacking up. Tell them to literally shutup and leave you alone. Who are they to talk smack about you and what you do. It's for u and your benefit and your life, they have nothing to do with it; so they are wrong. When someone critisez you you tell them.. shutthe F*** up. If u try saying things like you dont know what i go through and stuff...like when itryed that people just laughed and brushed it off as if i was trying to make my life loko sd and hopeless adn stuff. I know it sounds rong to tel them to shu the F*** up buh it will work. Show no sadness anger or any emotion to them and with a scary and flat tone jus those few words... and if htey ask questions u can chose toanswer but in a few words and dont always be too nice people will take advantage of it

Answer 4

Sweatheart, you have been through so much, no wonder you are having problems. It sounds like you are recovering somewhat. You just need to take it one day at a time. Any one who does not understand is not very considerate. Don't worry about them, just do the best you can. Some of your extended family should step in and give you some relief. How is your father and younger sister doing? Hope someone does come to your aid soon. God bless

Answer 5

I'm so sorry that you had to go throught all of that. It's amazing that you were able to deal with, what you have been through.
As for thoughs people that say you're Crazy, or not normal.
Just thank God You're crazy(talking about a good crazy). Because there is no such thing as normal.The people who claim that they're normal. They're the ones you have to worry about. It sounds like you've gotten your life together. And that's great. And the people that wanna talk< they're gonna say things about you, wheather they're true or not. And your real friends, will always be there for you.

Answer 6

I'm sorry you've been through so much and I'm so sorry you lost your mom. That's just not fair. It's good that you are learning to cope. As far as dealing with people, that is really a hard situation. My advice is to just stick with people who care about you and don't treat you poorly for sometimes feeling down. If you don't have any friends who are supportive and kind, then you should consider finding new ones. Not easy, I know, but it's really important to surround yourself with people who are supportive and helpful, especially after what you have been through. Anyone who treats you otherwise is just not worth your time. Consider joining a support group in your area to find friends or look for those in your school who have been through tough times too. Hang in there!

Answer 7

I am so sorry you have to go through this. You didn't say if your Dad is still in the picture or if you have had counseling. Maybe the people calling you crazy are trying to help, but are nervous or ill-equipped to know how to help. Tell someone you can trust to talk about it. Ask someone who calls you crazy exactly why they said that. Do you have anyone who will be honest with you to talk to? A doctor, minister, teacher or any adult outside your family? Good luck, hang in there.

Answer 8

Okay, who is "they"? This is frankness and in no way meant to be rude, but no one would think anything if you kept your personal ordeals to yourself.

I'm assuming of course (since family doesn't gossip) that you are referring to newer people who have entered your life and haven't been around you the last 2 years.

When you meet new people, keep your past to yourself until you're sure it's someone you can really trust. Get to know them for at least a year. No one needs to know everything. If you need someone to talk to, save it for a therapist.

To be cautious and anxious - all of that is perfectly normal considering what you've been through. Of course you'll be affected by it. Anyone who doesn't understand this, is ignorant about depression and trauma. Ignore them.

Answer 9

Everyone of us has to face problem but how to deal with it. Well I know its not easy for you to handle such obligation that you facing of. But the advice that I want you to know is keep on stronger always pray to God I know He listen to your need. Don't problem the people around you the was nothing to do in your life the were all nothing.

Answer 10

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