What do u think of a guy who has a female friend that he's known for a year sort of flirted with and calls everyday, and after and entire year of friendship and an emotional connection(nothing physical) finally tells her he has a girlfriend, and says he never told her because she didn't ask... then he eventually tells her how doesn't want to be with her no more and blah blah blah... like do u think he's bad news and a liar, or do u think he was just being a stupid guy and that he didn't know what to do because he started to like his female friend and didn't know what to do about his relationship???.... please help what do u think and plus do u think that the female friend should continue to be friends with him even though he kept a big secret from her or forgive and move on and just take things from there???....WHat to DO???
2007-08-01 18:16:16 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The guy doesnt have good character. I would stay away from him.
2007-08-01 18:18:56 · answer #1 · answered by sociald 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if the guy kept it a secret that he has a girlfriend then it means that he wanted something more than a friend or a good friend would share relationship problems as all couples have them. I would say he likes the friend a lot to be with her for a year without physical but he is insecure to leave his girlfriend for her. I would say if they were good friends then be good friends and don't do anything that would taint that relationship. Keep it clean and let him know that they should be friends only.
2007-08-01 18:23:42 · answer #2 · answered by RGK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a girl. Can I answer this? lol niwei, I think the female friend should stay away from this guy. The fact that he never mentioned that he has a gf, that's being a jerk.
If the female friend becomes the gf eventually, maybe the guy wil do the same thing he did with his ex to the femal friend/gf.
2007-08-01 18:20:43 · answer #3 · answered by jen_good girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be mad at him. For every mintue of anger you lose a minute of tranquility.
NOW...it is possible that the guy simply did not know how to handle his new feelings for his female friend while remembering that his heart already belongs to someone else. Granted, it was not cool that he did not tell his friend that he had a girlfriend before they got too close, but he didn't know what to do, probably. He didn't want to hurt anyone nor did he want to get hurt. He SHOULD have told his friend about his girlfriend, though. His friend should still be friends with him, if she wants to.
If the guy is serious about his feelings for his female friend, then that is between the two of them as to whether or not they get together and try to make a relationship out of things. They need to talk about their feelings before trying anything, though. She needs to tell him how she feels about his having kept such a secret from her and he needs to tell her how he feels about her and he should apologize for keeping the secret. He was probably scared to hurt or be hurt.
Things will work themselves out.
Best of luck.
2007-08-01 18:27:49 · answer #4 · answered by tranquilpsycho 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A tough dilemma--but life is tough--this guy got a girl--so what?? Why is that affecting you?? He can see whomever he wants to--you may be shocked but that is life. So start being available and attract a few guys of your own--time to move on and have fun. Sure you can be friends and talk--is that a crime?? NOPE. In a year this will be nothing--have fun, smile, relax and good luck
2007-08-01 18:22:14 · answer #5 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its the second one, where he didnt say because the girl didnt ask. But, seriously us guys are pretty stupid and don't know what to do, when there's another girl we like. But hey, forgivness is the best thing, cause if the grudge is held, the girl would be miserable, because she'd be thinkin about it too much. Believe me I know girls talk so much about that when they don't forgive.
2007-08-01 18:24:17 · answer #6 · answered by Nick W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
initially forget the word factor. in the adventure that your truly centred on him, you mustn't be afraid to tell him the way you sense, yet do no longer do it infron of folk. the way he acts around you need to propose he likes you, yet in my city it somewhat is talked approximately as flirting. confident, flirting would be innocuous and relaxing, yet be serious once you consult with him approximately your thoughts. And if he would not such as you properly a minimum of you will comprehend. The worst thang that should happen is that he would not such as you. yet i think of he does. adult males who smile at a girl constintly has some form of thoughts for her. So tell him the way you sense.
2016-10-13 11:07:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say hes just a guy who made a stupid mistake(im a guy and we do it all the time) but i dont think that the girl should stick around much longer cuz obviously she cared for him since she kept calling and things
2007-08-01 18:19:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might of had this girlfriend for a while and didn't tell you...the friend...because he feels for you, then his girlfriend found out about him talking to this girl all the time and asked (or told) him to stop talking to her, and he did because he didn't want to jeopardize their relationship.
maybe
2007-08-01 18:22:06 · answer #9 · answered by maggot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok.........so she's a "female friend" of his and he says he doesn't want to be with her anymore. why would he tell a "friend" he doesn't want to be with her anymore. sounds like she's more than a friend if he's saying he doesn't want to be with her anymore. he already smells like a star on the Maury Show ("He is the father!"). save yourself a heartbreak get rid of that dude and look for someone else who'll treat you better
2007-08-01 21:25:31 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys are dumb@sses, of course i would know, we dont think things through and whatever happened between the two made him like her, latent attraction... she should forgive if hes willing to admit hes wrong for something... im a guy i dont know what that something is
2007-08-01 18:25:30 · answer #11 · answered by ceesteris 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋