What is your view on spanking a child?

Question

I'm NOT saying to beat a child. A spat on the butt, not even hard enough to kill a mosquito.

NOT talking about beating. Not even hard enough to kill a mosquito. Mostly I spank when things could really hurt her, like playing with electrical things, and also it she is real hateful to other people.

Mostly I spank when things could really hurt her, like playing with electrical things, and also it she is real hateful to other people.

Sorry about all the repeats. I guess I clicked the Submit button too many times. lol

Answer 1

A swat or a smack does NOT hurt anyone!!! Children NEED discipline and today's parents are just to 'chicken' to do it - all they want to do is be their child's 'friend' - are you serious......... Step up to the plate and act like parents!!!
Without discipline - children end up in prison because no one ever taught them right from wrong!!!
DISCIPLINE IS NOT ABUSE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

All the people that have firm beliefs in sparing the rod and spoiling the child should be shot. Im not saying abusing your child because I am highly against that. I have seen too many parents refuse to spank there kids and put them in corners and what not, and these kids are up to their heads in trouble. A good firm swat on the behind is not against the law nor does it hurt the child. I have to swat my daughter once and a while. Never swat a child when you are angry, send them to the corner when your angry. Because when you hit a child when your angry, you will end up hurting the child. If a child doesnt want to go to bed give them an option BED or Corner, and you will not have to use your hand. But at the same time you will have to put your child in the corner a couple times after that no more problems.

Answer 3

Spanking only teaches a child to hit back. We have to practice what we preach. Children learn mostly from watching us. We can preach all we want but actions speak louder than words. You say you only spank when she is in danger. I would prefer to watch my child all the time and making my house child proof and safe. Studies show that spanking may stop the behavior for that moment but then the child will forget and do it again later. The child is not being defiant..he just has a short memory which is age appropriate. The child has no idea why you are spanking her so if you spank her because she is touching or getting into dager, she might stop exploring anything for fear of getting spanked. Young children get into things because they are natural explorers. Its important not to kill this. I work with young children 3 to 5 yrs old and when I see a child not wanting to touch the toys on the shelf (which is there for children to play with by self iniciative) or even wanting to explore, I suspect that this child lives in a very restrictive environment. I'm not saying that these children are being abused, I'm just saying that they probobly get in trouble by the parents often to the point that they don't feel free to explore. You say that you spank when your child is being hatefule to others. I think that spanking only tells the child he is "bad". Spanking doesn't solve the problem. I t doesn't teach the child to problem solve. The only thing he is learning is to fear you because you are bigger and more powerful. He is learning to use violence (hit) to solve problems.

Answer 4

a spanking never hurts. We don't spank often at all at our house, however, there are occasions when it's called for, especially for their safety, cause when they get a swat after they do something that may hurt them, then they know that's bad and odds are won't do it again. I'm with you though, not beating them, they could never do anything to ever have that happen, but a spat is definitely ok. The Bible says spare the rod spoil the child....

Answer 5

I think spanking is fine, as long as it's just that-a spank.

My parents spanked me and my siblings when we were young and we turned out fine. We're not prone to violence, like some people are saying and we were also more respectful than most kids.

There is a difference between spanking and beating.

Answer 6

I am a firm believer in a swat to the bottom. I am a mom of 3. Boy 15, girl 6, baby girl 30 days old.

My oldest 2 know when i say no I mean it. I have only spanked them a total of about 5 times each in their lifetime. I did not spank hard, but I did get my point across. I usually take privileges away, use the corner, but f i have to repeat myself over 2 times, I swat the bottom !!!

I do not allow them to mouth off to me, or disrespect me, however that goes both ways, I do not disrespect them either. I love my children with all I am, but they must lean right from wrong. I do not believe spanking scars them.

We were telling kid stories at a reunion last year and my son looked at me and said you know...... I deserved more spankings then i got !!! I said yeah I know .... lol

I never spank when im very angry i calm down first.
I never use a belt or anything eles
I always tell them what they did wrong, and why I'm upset
and i always tell them that i love them more then anything eles in this world.

spanking is not abuse! Its being a parents and teaching your children right from wrong.

I was abused as a child, My mother hit me for no reason. She just was not good with kids. A spanking is not hitting..... I was hit in the head, black eyes, strap marks , anything she would find she used......... I had welts that bled from a belt many times.

So i do know the difference. CPS will tell you spanking is not against the law. Only abusing them is, when you take it more then spanking. I know Im mandated to report because of my job.

Answer 7

I say it depends on the child. With my nephew all you have to do is say 'NO!' sternly and it breaks his heart!

WIth my daughter sometimes I swat her when she's misbehaving. My definition is being ugly and hateful to other kids, or standing on top of the dining room table.

One of the things that I've learned is not to spank when they're misbehaving out of tiredness or sleepiness. That NEVER works.

As they get older the form of discipline changes.

I don't go by the bible for discipline. I've read somewhere that if you have an incorrigible son that you should take him outside and stone him. I can't remember verbatim... but now I'll have to look it up.

No Beatings... but yes to discipline. And use your best judgment for/if/when you are going to spank your child. Never do it out of anger.

Answer 8

I think if more children were spanked these days we'd have a few more disciplined kids out there. It's become so taboo to spank that no one does it and now we have these wild, out of control kids who have no fear of their parents or consequences.

I was spanked growing up as were most of my friends. We all turned out just fine.

I think it's funny all these people who are SOOO against spanking but swatting on the hand is okay.

Answer 9

Spanking rarely works. Time outs and limits usually do. But you have to follow through with them. You can't have a rule one day and not the next. You have to be consistent. I would reserve a spanking (not beating, an open palm pat on the butt) for real emergencies. For instance, if your child repeatedly runs into the street after you have taught them not to. If you don't get their attention, they could hurt or kill themselves. If you reserve if for extreme situations, it can make a difference. But as a rule, spanking? No. Use time outs or taking away privileges. Whatever affects your child the most.

Answer 10

My wife and I chose not to spank our children because we believe there are better alternatives, but I am not militantly anti-spanking. I think anyone who chooses to spank, however, should use it with extreme discretion and should never spank when they are not in complete control of their emotions. Spanking loses all of its effectiveness if it's used as a run of the mill disciplinary tool.

I have given my son a smack--not even a spank--maybe 3 times in his (3-year old) life, and each time it was to convey to him that something he was doing was seriously/imminently dangerous or harmful. The instances I can think of were to keep him from playing with electrical sockets and wires, to keep him from climbing a baby gate, and to react to him biting me.

Answer 11

i spank. i think that when they do something wrong that most times a spanking does more good than talking or time out. that is what is wrong with most kids today. spank them. my parents spanked me and i learned real fast what was and what was not acceptable. there is nothing wrong with spanking your child. and no it is not abuse. we all have our own form of correcting our children. use what works best for you.