The other guy, he's only went down on me. Anyways...their both really nice guys. And people keep bothering me, telling me I need to make a decision and choose to be with one and one only of these guys. II just dont know who to choose. The first guy is a kind of boring, but I've been with him for a while. And I know he really does love me. The second guy, has red hair & is a total sweetheart. But he likes to drink a lot and I dont know if he cares about me as much as the other guy. Help?
2007-08-01 18:09:56 · 15 answers · asked by Pam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ahh..wow...thats great...Seriously, umm ok. Im just trying to settle down with one of them because I feel the sooner I make a decision the better you know?? But yeah...The red head is probably about 5 times funner than the other guy..but the other guy, lets call him "BJ" is completely crazy about me. He even switched colleges so he would be closer to me. But the red head, gosh, we have everything in common and can talk for literally hours and not get bored. Like I said, its a pickle.
2007-08-01 18:21:20 · update #1
I dont have any STD's b****....thats for the one girl who makes assumptions about me. I wasnt sure if Im allowed to swear on here so well..yeah. But for the other people who actually are being understanding of the situation..Thank you. And yeah, your probably right, neither of them are probably the right one for me.
2007-08-01 18:25:48 · update #2
Aha....Yeah they actually do know about eachother. The red head thinks that I quit talking to other boy. Because I actually did for a while, so I was being honest about it. And the other guy, thinks I've stopped seeing the red head. Yeah....its dumb. I know Im not being fair to them.
2007-08-01 18:30:00 · update #3
What?? Why do you have to pick if you don't want to. If you are just dating then you are suppose to be able to date as you please.
2007-08-01 18:31:59 · answer #1 · answered by Strike2? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm. hard predicament. but you should definitely make a decision asap! both of them have cons- one may not like you as much while the other is boring, and that's just as worse. you really need to decide which one you seem to connect with more, and which one you think will fit the kind of relationship you want. want a fun,casual relationship? go with the red head. want a long one? you can go with the boring one, but realize, you dont want to be stuck with someone boring! i say, if you cant make a decision, date both of them (not exclusively) and keep looking for other fishes in the sea! seems like you're good with guys, so if you keep looking you might be able to find mr. right (or mr. right now)!
2007-08-02 01:15:04 · answer #2 · answered by noname 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you mean. im in a pickle too...with my bf that i love SO MUCH but feel like he's confused about me sometimes. the second guy is the 2nd guy i ever had sex with and we've been friends for so long but lives far away... the problem is i've had sex with both of them! during the same time! and it breaks my heart because i know i want my boyfriend but i want him to actually want me FOR SURE...so thats why i have a backup. Just dont do what i did: DONT LET THEM FIND OUT ABOUT EACH OTHER
2007-08-02 01:24:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It definitely doesn't sound like either is the "one" for you, since you're having such a hard time deciding. You could decide to pick one, if you just want to be in a relationship that isn't really that special. Or you could leave them both and keep on searching. OR you could continue to stay with them both, and make no decision and be a slut.
2007-08-02 01:19:35 · answer #4 · answered by Gornographic Headache Machine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that you feel you have to make a decision..yet neither of them sound like your really ready for either guy..I think you should continue to just date...but not give them your body..you should wait till it's the right guy..you sound so young..learn more about what Love is all about...the guy that is boring isn't the one for you...and the other drinks alot..Remember who would you pick to be the father of your kids...think of this...before you decide..happiness to you..
2007-08-02 01:19:16 · answer #5 · answered by qdrama1956 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personaly iv been in a sort of same situtaton not with red hair lol though. but i tihnk the first one is better
you never wnana be with someone who desnt feel te same way u do towards him, if the guy loves u and is shy thats sweeeet ; the other one drinks a lot and as fun as that can be....... on top of it, he doesnt truyely lovve you. the first guy is better
good luck!!<3
2007-08-02 01:14:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're nasty and the reason why STDs spread so easily. You could easily give the "nice guy" oral herpes or any other STD that can be contracted by mouth. I'm going to pray that the nice guy find a nice girl and leaves you, because you don't love him!!
2007-08-02 01:19:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should have never put yourself in that position in the first place. Never get involved with more than one person at a time as this kind of thing always happens. Cut it off now until you know yourself and love yourself.
2007-08-02 01:14:08 · answer #8 · answered by Kathy R 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
who says you have to settle down yet and only date one of them? Sounds like maybe neither one of them is "the one" for you. Play the field...don't settle just because he's there...don't use sex to decide who's right for you...
2007-08-02 01:14:13 · answer #9 · answered by lil_angel64 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
find a third thats best of both worlds.
2007-08-02 01:20:49 · answer #10 · answered by skrilla gorrilla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋