Why do women attract bad boys......and cant get enough of them?

Question

I always seem to attract the bad boys and end up with the shitty end. I am an attractive women and have no problem no turning heads, but i always wind up with guys that are self absorbed, materialistic or emotinally draining. Why is this, and what can i do to reinforce a positive energy to attract guys with good intentions?

oh, by the way, i am in my early 30's and have always had these kind of realtionships, but now i am ready to settle down. Serious answers only please.

Answer 1

I hear ya loud and clear! Wow...that was the scenario for me for a looong time! I pursued these guys that were your typical "bad boys" and wound up feeling abandoned, and double-crossed! It was not good--at all! Once I realized that those guys were not actually my type--but rather, bringing the excitement factor into my life, it was then--that if I truly wanted a guy that is capable of having a mature relationship where the love is reciprocated...I needed to change my preferences. Now I go for the "nice" guys! They seem way more stable, and they treat me better!

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Answer 2

because it makes women feel more free when they are with the bad boy type instead of having a lover that you can predict what they are going to be and be correct with a bad boy type they always do things out of the blue and it can be fun at first been then it gets tiring so its like a ride but you cant get off. and when you do it ends the relationship try to get a man that works at some good paying job yet it isnt to big because usually if it is the man will be self absorbed. materialistic guys usually will bring with them one of there things on a date and wont let you mess with it expecially if he wont let you fool with it too long that means he will think you will break it and if he does that with something like that then he will be the same with every thing he has worth touching. as for emotionally draining try to get to know the guy before you go out. ( like a couple of dates) wel i hope i helped if you have anything you want me to awnser just im me or something

Answer 3

I almost thought I asked this question hahahahaha it is a hard hard habit to break sweetie. It took me 2 yrs of doing stupid stuff and finally becoming a recluse, I strayed from everyone and stayed home and watched videos and got self absorbed. I finally met a great man who is so so good. I told him I have a hard time with nice. I always attracted to the bad boys. He knows I find it hard to deal with someone being so nice and he still stays around and has made me realize, it is possible to actually be treated wonderfully and enjoy it. Give it time and try to find you, a good man will come along when u least expect him.

Answer 4

If you look good then you probably attract everyone but just choose to be with bad boys because usually they are the ones that have the balls to come up to you and introduce themselves. If you want a nice guy, you'll probably have to bring him out of his shell coz a lot of nice guys are pu$$ies. That's not exactly attractive either though. I'm sure you'll have no problem finding what you are looking for if you look as good as you say you do.

I dunno though, what women say they want is usually different from what they really want. Good luck and have fun looking for that Mr. Right. You might as well have fun until you find his @ss coz you'll definitely have to do some looking!

Answer 5

Probably an esteem issue--somewhere you have the notion that you can't do any better. They are better than nothing and you seem to feel that you DESERVE the crappy results. You can change this--NOTICE I SAID YOU---it is up to you to change this--evaluate the relationship criteria HONESTLY. You must think that all you can attract is the easy guy who will settle for anything--and treat any woman like crap. Have some self respect and go for the best. Good luck

Answer 6

I wish I knew, I'm desparately attracted to bad boys. Tattoes, abs and attitude usually get me into trouble, but somehow I find myself addicted.
I think maybe I have to alter my ideas of what I find attractive in a man. God knows I've been burned often enough.
Hang in there girl. Be more selective, get some background info before getting involved, and don't let the good looks fool you.

Answer 7

Funny, talkative, kind serious men like me. As a Gemini I do all that with consummate ease, as my red-haired lover will tell you, and a number of GS users will, too. Women like a man who is intelligent, witty, charming, and sweet, but also can think and care deeply over issues and things, and also be very tender and sensitive to them personally. What is amazing is to meet a woman who can accept and appreciate someone who is all of those things and more all at once...

Answer 8

Most of the time it's because women are attracted to confident men, not pathetic groveling boys.

"Nice guys" are rarely confident, outgoing, or capable.

There is nothing you can do to change what you are attracted to.

So you either:
1. Hold out for the guy that doesn't exist.
2. Settle for the jerk who you are attracted to or the nice guy who you aren't.

Answer 9

Thats the biggest question you will hear guys who are decent guys wonder about also

I have had guys talk about some of the biggest complaints you will hear from women...

He never calls... he just wants sex.... he doesnt open doors for me... he is rude..
And guys will say hey I do all the things right and they go for the jerk.

I have been on both sides of this myself. after a bad relationship when I was about 20 I went on a spree of being the bad boy and ... well it works. its pretty pathetic but women respond to brazen bold guys with attitude who treat them like crap.
And I have had many women admit this to to me and then lament about it like you are now.

I am not like that now as its not a fullfilling way to lead your life.
The only thing to do to change it is... change yourself.

Answer 10

Good boys do not go around searching for their prey... the way the bad boys do...
this is not the only way of life... better change to something new... more contented...