How can I discipline my spoiled brother?

Question

My sister and I cannot punish him, & my parents are too lenient and easy, so my brother never learn his lesson. Once, he wanted a wii game and my parents got it for him the very next day because he promise he would be good, but that's always a lie, but my parents always yield to him. He never eats food at home but always asked for McDonald, oh and he refused to sleep alone, he'll rather bother my parents in the middle of the night than to sleep in his own room. He also have a bad temper and would get in fights with me and my sis, and even if he gets yelled at, he never learned his lesson. Because of the way my parents treated him, he became a spoiled and selfish brat, and my sister is suffering from it because she's the only one he can bully, so what can we do to make my parents discipline him better? We already tried to explain to them the concept of grounded but they would never stick to it...

Well, it's not me who's concerned about it, this question was meant to help out my lil sister, she's a very caring and mature 12 yr old who gets push around by her younger brother -__- And she just wants some tips on how to make him stop eating fast foods, annoying my parents, and to do things for himself instead of being so spoiled.

Our family do watch nanny 911, but my brother doesn't really care about any of it, as the youngest brother, he likes to be spoiled by everyone (except from me)

My sister is sensitive about this issue so if there is anything she should do, then please help. My brother is also the weakest in health in my family as well (because of his bad eating habit) being a medical student, I already explained to my parents about how the way they spoiled him can make him get sick more often, but they are just too lenient.

His blood pressure is already higher than everyone else in my family, which isn't good...but I know that I should give my parents some advise, they listen because I know alot more about health than they do, but they don't do anything and just let him get his ways.

I know that I can't really change my brother, but how can I make my parents change their raising style? They always promise that they would help prevents him from eating bad food as well as limit new game to his b-day, but after a week, they would be like "oh, just let him eat McDonald, he's hungry" when there are perfectly good food on the stove.

My parents is lenient to ALL of us, and we tried confronting my parents as well as my brother about it, but my parents is too carefree/naive and my brother is too stubborn to listen seriously

Answer 1

You and your sister need to team up and confront your parents and or your little brother. Help your poor sis to stick up for herself. tell your parents that their favortism is hurtfull and wrong. point out that you are their children too and you do not feel they truly care else they would not allow him to bully and harrass you guys or just your lil sis.

Answer 2

I'm sorry for you and your sis, but it's not you guys' job to discipline your brother. I think the best you can do, since your parents won't listen, is talk to your grandparents (if they live close and know the situation well) and tell them how your brother being so spoiled affects you and your sister's lives. Be honest with them and ask them if they would talk to your parents about all this. Besides that I can't think of anything else ...

Answer 3

If your parents are so lenient, they probably will not be open to suggestions about discipline. It sounds like your brother needs to learn a lesson, but not the type that comes with vengeful retaliation. If you really want to get back at the little pain, think about the things that he really likes to do with you and your sister and withhold them from him. Tell him that when he learns to behave, then you'll include him. If you balk about him to your parents, they'll probably stay in denial. Let them see him in all his glory and force them to face what he really is even though you feel like whacking him in the head.

Answer 4

Sounds like you have already tried to reason with your parents and it didn't work. They are weak and looking for the easy way out. Parenting is not easy. It's about preparing your child to face the world. You have already figured out that his eating habits constitute most of his health "problems". I guess you could tell them, they are not doing him any favors by making him think he is the center of the Universe. He will have a rude awaking, when(and IF) he goes looking for a job.

Answer 5

lol, my lil sis is like that, and now she's 15, and a dumb spoiled brat....

she's gotten better lately tho, just doesn't understand why I have a problem with some of the people she chills with, and throws a fit and reminds my dad of a way I've screwed up every time she's about to get in trouble...
enough of that tho...

um, if u wanna change him take care of them when your parents don't, let him know you're not going to cover for him if he actually messes up, and just be really dissappointed in him when he messes up...
other than that, let him know if he gets in fights with u or your lil sis, you'll break it up, or whoop his *** depending on the situation, and let him know u don't really care what you're parents opinion on that is,
eventually he'll respect you, or at least appreciate you're sense of balance when he's older, remember it's not a him vs. you conflict, it's just that he's acting immature and needs to respect other people

Answer 6

This is hard on so many young people. You are not alone, this happens in many families. I imagine he is the youngest, am I right? It is usually the youngest that gets away with this sort of thing.

I know it hurts your feelings, and it saddens you for him to always get his way. But it is not going to change. So do things that make you happy and forget about him getting to do everything he wants to. Help your sister to be happy too. Someday you will all be grown and none of this will matter.

Giant hugs are coming your way.

Answer 7

wow, this should not be your problem at all, but i understand that it does affect you and the way that you feel about your brother. can you maybe explain to your parents that it is hurting your relationship with him and tell them that your not jealous but really concerned that hes only going to get worse as he gets older and that they need to show more control and disciplines. perhaps you can start watching nanny 911 as a family and see if that will help them realize the similarities.

Answer 8

the best thing for your sister to do is to stay away from him for now. your parents need to wake up.my dad spoiled my brother because of the way he was treated from his father. unfortunately he acted the same way because he had no consequences for his actions. in a way this is a form of abuse in the way because he has complete anarchy. my brother wound up in jail countless times. of course my mom bailed him out, he got a woman pregnant who had twins, he used to steal from me and hes still living in mom and dads basement at 29. hes a raging alcoholic and has gotten quite physical with my parents. if they dont get a habndle on him now theyre life will be hell. but they need to make slow tiny changes. you dont want him to think hes being punished for what his parents have done. they unleashed the beast the need to tame him.if they dont do this now they will regret it with TONS of heartache. and tell them to get more involved with the sister too.

Answer 9

you're just the sister...he seems like a spoiled brat. there's not much you can do but wait it out till he matures...which probably won't happen until he's in his mid-30s. If the parents aren't willing to do it, don't waste your childhood trying!

Answer 10

If your parents are ok with the way he is there really is nothing you can or should do about it.