How Important is it to date your own Religion? Also...?

Question

I'm wondering how important it is to date in your own Religion? and what effects does it have if you dont?

Also how many Christians (of all faiths) have sex before marriage? (not had, have)

and please answer my other questions if you can. thanks.

Answer 1

I would date someone of another religion but only if they would respect me enough not to try and push their views on me. I do not mind hearing about it and understanding it that is fine just done try to make me become the same as them. I think a lot of Christians do know I know I have sex, and am not married. Yes it is wrong yet I do sin and have sex. I do wish I could find that one woman who I will love and her me and marry her and only have sex with her. That is what I truly want. The thing is I do not know of a single religion on the earth where people do not have sex before they are married now, and it is a sin in I think all of them.

Answer 2

Not sure how many Christians have sex before marriage, so I can't answer on that issue.

But here is what I can share about what we Christians call "Unequally Yoked". That is the idea of marrying someone who is not also a Christ follower. Here is the dilemma: it may not be that important for dating, but what can happen is that you may decide to marry the person you date. That's when it becomes important.

When you have one religion and your spouse has another, how do you handle religious practices. If religion is important to you, how would you feel if that person cannot share your beliefs with you?
How complete can your marriage be?
What about if you have kids? If you and your spouse have different beliefs what religion will your kids be raised in, especially if the two of you do not agree with certain teachings of the other's faiths?

Let's take this as an example:
Christianity and Judaism. Their beliefs on the Messiah will be very different. For many Christians, the belief in Jesus as a personal Lord and Savior (meaning allowing the Son of God to be involved in your life) is important. How would the Jewish person feel about that issue? In contrast, how would the Christian feel to hear that their child would be raised to believe that Jesus was not the son of God? Would a Jewish person accept the fact that the child would be raised to believe in Jesus as the Messiah? How confusing would this be for a child to hear contrasting viewpoints?

It seems to me that if the religion has any deep meaning for either person in the couple, it would be difficult to compromise on this fact.

Answer 3

Let's ask another question first: How important is your religion to you? Your choices in religion tend to define the person you are. You go to a particular church because you are comfortable there. You agree with those teachings. You like being around those people. If your date goes somewhere else, the more different he is, ( or the church he attends,) the bigger problems you are likely to encounter in your marriage over time.

My wife and I have been very active in the same church all the time we've known each other. We've had lots of other problems to deal with but we share a foundation of faith, family values,reason and politics...We agree on most things to begin with. We tend to be united dealing with the rest.

If the fact that he/ she is a great dancer is more important to you, than this is a silly question and you're too shallow to ever be happy anyway.

Your second question is strange,... twice.
First, Christianity teaches " One Lord, one faith, one baptism.", so there are no "other faiths" within Christianity.
There are, however, a great many different sects claiming to be teaching the truth. As I see it, one true church and over a thousand wanabees that are there to cater to people's weaknesses.
The meat of your question seems to ask about sex before marriage.
Jesus taught loud and clear that fornication, or sex before marriage, was wrong. It's plain as day in all four gospels.
I understand a Christian to be one who chooses to follow Jesus Christ in His teachings, obeying His commandments and modelling his/herself after the Lord. That being said, it can be argued that no real Christians have premarital sex.

Jesus always intended the best for you, what will you do for yourself? I suppose that if you just pretend to be Christian, the Lord will just pretend to bless you for it.

I don't know what your other questions are.

Grins :)

Answer 4

I don't think it's crucial to date your own religion, and in theory I think it's a great idea to date outside your religion, just to bring some new ideas and interesting discussion to the table.
However, having been in a relationship with someone who was far more religious than I, I can say that it can be difficult, particularly when looking to the future (thinking about a wedding, how to raise children, what happens when one of us is in heaven and the other in hell, etc.) It didn't drive us apart (not by itself, at least), but was definitely a tough spot that caused some fights.
As for your second question, I lost my faith before my virginity, so can't speak to that.

Answer 5

People of the world need to understand that Christianity is not a religion, it is a way of life. The second part of your question is not clear. I have had sex before I became a Christian.

Answer 6

I find it pretty important to date people with similar religious beliefs... I am very serious in my atheism and I do not think I would be able to date a person who truly believed that god is real. It's just that I have so many reasons to know that god does not exist... I don't think I would be able to intellectually respect a person who didn't know those reasons. I mean no harm to theists, and I don't mean to call you stupid, because you aren't. It's just that I couldn't get past that in a relationship.

It depends on what you define sex as. If you mean penile-vaginal penetration, that's something around 15-20%. If you mean penile-anal, penile-oral, vaginal-oral, or anal-oral, that number can be as little as 3% (that which involves the anus) or as high as 60% (oral sex).

Answer 7

i don't find it that important. i love my religion, but i wouldn't NOT date anyone because they don't believe what i believe. to me it's kinda like not dating someone that doesn't like the same ice cream flavor as you? but if they have PROBLEMS with my religion, and use that against me, then that's a different story.

if you DON'T date your religion, it might cause some little heated conversations, and maybe conflict depending on the religious schedule, but aside from that it should be okay, i think.

um, i wouldn't have sex before marriage, even if i wasn't christian. (:

Answer 8

religion isn't a big part of my life and doesn't really come up when I date people. If I was dating someone who attended church and wanted me to go with them, sure I would.

When I lost my virginity, I was a Christian. I'm not married, especially not to him lol omg.

Answer 9

I'm usually agnostic, and I've never dated a fundamentalist or a hardcore atheist. I don't think that's random, though I never thought, "Oh, I won't date this person because of their religious beliefs or lack thereof." I think it probably has more to do with personality than any specific belief.

Answer 10

I tried dating out of my religion - I am currently married to one within my religion.

I did not have sex before marriage...