Do long distance relationships work?

Question

my girlfriend of 10 months is going to college in illinois we live in alabama she is going for 2 years what do i do?

Answer 1

I'm from West Virginia and I met my ex in high school - she was a foreign exchange student from Berlin, Germany and at the end of the school year she went back and we stayed together and true to each other through email and visited each other once or twice a year. Eventually, after high school, we attended the same college in WV. All in all, we dated for 6 years, 4 of which were long-distance (and REALLY long distance, too!)

If you love her and trust her and really believe that you can be faithful and she can, too, a long distance relationship can work. If you or her are the jealous, suspicious type, I wouldn't recommend a long-distance relationship. Mine only worked because I'm really picky with girls and so was my girlfriend, and because we had total faith that the other would not go see someone else.
One of the keys is to keep in touch and updated about what is going on with each other's lives on a regular basis, so that you can carry on a conversation and genuinely know what your girl is going through or dealing with at any given time. You and your girlfriend need to be able to think about the other person and know what they are probably doing or thinking at the moment. You want to be able to say to yourself "She is probably very stressed with school right now" or "She is probably having fun at a party" or "She must be upset about what her friend did the other night" and the key to being able to be confident in such things is consistent communication. In my relationship with the German girl, we used email most of the time and talked on the phone once a week or so. Email is a great tool for long-distance relationships - more so than a phone call, a letter/email is kind of permanant portrait of a moment in your life, and it is something you or your girlfriend can look back at and read over and over during times when you really miss each other.

So, as someone who has been in a long-distance relationship, my advice is this: it can work if you trust each other enough to stay faithful, and if you stay in constant communication. A person can change a lot in 2 years - especially at college - and if you don't stay in constant communication, you might feel like you don't know the person anymore when they come home to visit. With lots of emails and phone calls, you can be up-to-date with those kinds of changes and not be surprised if the person you see during the holidays is not exactly the same person you've always known.
My relationship with the German girl actually just ended about 4 months ago and was largely due to one intense conflict that really wasn't a result of long-distance dating for 3 years. But, hell, I got two trips to Europe out of it!

Answer 2

they can work --- you just need to trust be faithful keep in communications and see each other as much as possible --- i dont know how far apart you are in distance and time but it does not matter --- maybe you should consider moving closer to her???

Answer 3

They can work. You just have to have the ability to trust her....keep in touch as much as you can.

Answer 4

if you truly love her...then it can work out...make sure you guys talk all the time...and sends lots of emails or messages!!!