A little over a year ago I fell in love with a girl. A few months ago i asked her out. She rejected me, blah, blah you know. I fell oput of love with her just a while back after a period of not seeing her for an entire month. But just today I saw her at church and I just couldnt help falling in love with her again. I know its a stupid self-destructive habit but I dont know what to do and I cant help but think why is God doing this to me?
Im just mad and rambling, but Id still like help.
2007-08-01 16:25:07 · 23 answers · asked by goatman 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Why do so many people think I cant tell between love and lust?
I lusted for this girl for two weeks out of. Im not a shallow person, so I stopped liking her, but when I went on a trip with her I fell in love with her personality.
2007-08-01 17:17:23 · update #1
If you are in love with someone and can't be with them, usually you will repress your feelings so the emotional pain doesn't ebb away at you. Obviously seeing her again brought back a wave of emotions that you didn't realize you still felt.
My advice is to not repress it and deal with the psychological and emotional pain because it will manifest itself into vices...or sins. I am speaking from experience. See this love/infatuation through, even if it's by yourself. Not only will you become a stronger person by accepting this, but you will more likely not be crippled by love in the future.
For me, love can be the most wonderful feeling in the world...and also the most terrible. Love can make you do things that normally you wouldn't. It can also fester inside you like a disease if you ignore it.
You don't have to profess your love if you don't want to, but for God's sake, don't pretend you don't feel it...
Best wishes...
Justine
Santa Cruz, Ca
(21/females)
2007-08-01 16:37:36 · answer #1 · answered by Justine M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off, I'm a Christian. I don't see how this is self-destructive. The only thing that might be wrong with this situation is that she may not be the right girl for you. However, I don't see how your feelings for a girl are self-destructive. I wouldn't even call it lust; by the way you described it, it seems like normal emotions to me.
I would try actually conversing with her a little bit. If you see he at church, why not talk to her after the service. Now, remember, church is suppose to be about you growing in your faith. So, if she's a distraction, it's best to deal with it now. I wouldn't sit on this opportunity. Find out what's going on with her. She may simply be dating somebody else right now, or she just might be interested in someone else. It never hurts to show her your interest, you know. Just be yourself and talk to her for a few minutes.
Remember, God isn't necessarily 'doing this' to you. You choose to react to your feelings. That's a choice you make. But because I don't see it as self-destructive, I wouldn't worry about it. Just continue praying on this matter, like you would any other issue in your life. God will help you to talk to her and help you to develop this relationship or at least deal with it so it is no longer a problem for you. You can do it!
2007-08-01 16:59:30 · answer #2 · answered by Thardus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes chritianity is a very important factor and from a personal experience if you both do not share Jesus in your lives you will never be able to understand how God can take a relationship and make the two of you feel as one. Further more if God controls your life and the world controls the other persons life ther will always be a constant battle fighting off the devil because he will not want Jesus's works in his overcomings. Remember we have a choice but we must only choose one way. We can't have it both ways or try to be nuetral. Good Luck
2016-05-20 22:20:51 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God isn't doing this to you. You don't fall in and fall out of love with people like that. You are basing your actions on pure emotions. Love isn't an emotion. It's not some funny feeling you get when you see someone you like. It's not finding someone you think is cute and being nervous around them. Love is an action. It's a command that Christ gave to us in two laws -- to love God (Mark 12:28) and love others (John 13:34). God isn't doing this to you. You are feeling some infatuation with this woman, but you need to just go on with your life. Focus your desire on God and pleasing Him. Psalm 37:4 says that God will grant you the desires of your heart if you delight in him. So, take your time to learn to delight in him.
2007-08-01 17:04:01 · answer #4 · answered by One Odd Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't fall out of love. It's impossible. If you do fall out of love, then you know that it wasn't love to begin with.
The attraction you have to her is just your natural instincts kicking in. It's not God punishing you. I'm an Atheist, but that much should be clear to even the most fundamentally religious. You do sound pretty reasonable though. I suspect you know all this. Still, sometimes you can know something intellectually, but feel the complete opposite. The best I can tell you to help is, take comfort in the fact that it will pass.
2007-08-01 16:32:02 · answer #5 · answered by A 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
God's not the one who makes you fall in love with her -- it's all you! God's presence in a person is displayed within the conscience -- is your conscience telling you to love her? I would bet it's just natural to do so, a different part of yourself that wants to love.
So, I don't think this is a religious matter, nor something to pin on God -- if you've fallen in love with her, but you know she doesn't feel the same way, you ought not to push it. Beyond that, it's up to you! Best of luck.
2007-08-01 16:33:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God isn't doing this to you, but be glad it's happening evry experience you have makes you a better person I think you just really like her if you fall in and out of love for her that quickly! Find someone else who's intrested
2007-08-01 16:33:10 · answer #7 · answered by Trezdons Mommy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you are in love with love friend. We all find someone out there who is very attractive to us and someone who we will build our fantasies around...but that relationship is not real even though it seems very real to us at the time.
It is sometimes easier to live a life of a pleasant fantasy than to face reality but I would advise you to allow yourself to be open to meeting someone new. Some day, this young lady may change her mind about you...but until she does....be open to other options. You can't see the beautiful bloom of a real flower....if you are spending your time looking at a picture of one instead.
God Bless and have faith. God knows what and who you need in your life. Perhaps he has something better in mind for you.
2007-08-01 16:33:03 · answer #8 · answered by Poohcat1 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
God is not doing this to you, you are doing this to you, don't blame God for the things you do. If you still like her ask her out but it sounds to me like you got some growing up to do and don't understand a whole lot about girls, talk to a girl for some advise on how to treat girls.
2007-08-01 16:29:04 · answer #9 · answered by LaptopJesus 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. You do not know what love is, if you are able to fall in and out of it that easily.
2. God doesn't exist, but I highly doubt that he would waste his time meddling with your petty personal affairs if he did.
2007-08-01 17:05:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋