we've been datin for 7 months. i'm not a virgin but he is. if u see my other question about my boyfriend u will see his problem. im 16 and he's also 16. and please give me reasonable answers
2007-08-01 15:36:52 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ANY doubt in your mind = NO!!!
Virginity is something that CANNOT be given back - so wait until you are BOTH ready for it ;););)
2007-08-01 15:47:05 · answer #1 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you two are too young to be having sex. Not to mention that small fact that the two of you are not married. Losing your virginity might not seem like anything big right now because you're responding to and acting on your hormones, but it can have serious emotional and physical consequences in the future. Sex is not something that should be given away freely for entertainment purposes. It's not meant for that.
Sex, whether you're using a condom or not is the best way to contract AIDS, HEP-C, and other STDs. The AIDS virus, for instance, is about 100x smaller than the pore on a condom, meaning it slips right through. And while you may think your partners are virgins, how can you really know for sure? And, how do you know for sure you haven't contracted a virus from someone else and are now passing it along?
Condoms also are not 100% effective at preventing pregnancy, and at 16 years old, do you really want the responsibility of supporting another life for 9 months?
Please, have some respect for yourself and for others. And I'm not some old Bible thumper that's trying to convert you. I'm only 20, not that much older than you. I'm an EMT and have seen the repercussions suffered by so many because of the choices they make when they're younger.
Just last week I had a 17 year old girl pregnant with her second child. Her life these past few years has been anything but easy. While she deeply loves her children, life is tough. One of my most memorable patients was a gentleman in his forties who was on hospice and dying in a nursing home. He had been irresponsible in his early twenties and contracted AIDS and HEP-C. We spent most of the ambulance ride talking and he told me how if he could go back and change he would.
It's just not worth it. Please, don't keep doing this, and don't drag other people down with you.
2007-08-01 22:57:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Too bad you hadn't waited until later yourself, in general, because you seem to have a taste for dangerous men that aren't good for you. This isn't really enough information though; it sounds as if you're ready and he's not. From my own experiences, as I was a virgin until like 25 the relationship seems to reach a place where you feel as though you need to have sex to push it through to develop closer intimacy. That isn't always the case though, you just have to find creative ways to express yourself.
Even after 7 months, if he's 16 he doesn't honestly know whether or not he's really ready to make that move. He may feel as though he should because it seems like the right thing to do or would just be a natural progression of the relationship, which it normally would be had he already lost his virginity to someone else. Don't pressure him though; if he is the one after you it's still questionable why he is doing it. You still don't know at this early in the relationship, whether or not he is really into you or he just wants to get the sex thing out of the way. If anyone is having doubts about the relationship, as you are, then you two shouldn't be having sex, whether or not one or both of you are virgins.
2007-08-02 08:15:42 · answer #3 · answered by collard greens with hash browns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe that having sex with your boyfriend would help either of you at this time. Is he ready to have a full time job? Because being married is a full time job, if you should get pregnant, how would you raise this child as a single mother?Do you not have plans for college? Do you discuss these topics together? If not maybe you need to rethink your question . good luck
2007-08-01 22:51:25 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa V 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not being a virgin does not mean that you cannot tell your bf you don't want to anymore. If you are undecided, I think it is best you wait. There is absolutely nothing wrong with doing so.
2007-08-01 22:42:28 · answer #5 · answered by jayp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so trying to have a baby by 17 are you... stop this period until you know for a fact that you want to be a mother... It only takes one time to get pregnant and unless your tubes are tied then you can still get pregnant... you should really think about how horrible and painful it would be to push a baby out of your vagina the next time you wanna have s.ex....
2007-08-01 22:43:51 · answer #6 · answered by I Heart 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
wow, I have to tell you
Yahoo! answers is NOT the place to make this decision. Really this is only between you two.
But this is not the kind of element you want in your life. Look at it this way. You get pregnant and have a kid. Is that the kind of father you want?
2007-08-01 22:39:23 · answer #7 · answered by ricky ross 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
onlyy do it if u both feel ur ready and u kno enough about sex to have it in a very safe but very enjoyable way....herpes is everywhere! haha
2007-08-01 22:43:38 · answer #8 · answered by sdogg_41 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u already done it...one more time isnt goin g to do anything specially since u both really like each other
2007-08-01 22:45:19 · answer #9 · answered by aceofhearts 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes , go for it .. 7 months ? too long ..
and life is really too short ..
good luck..
2007-08-01 22:47:52 · answer #10 · answered by more m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋