every time im out with me boyfriend he threatens to punch any guy who advances on me but is smug when women chat him up. Going to bars are a nightmare. My last boyfriend was like this and told me i had to confess how many men id been with (2) yet he wouldnt reply back to the same question! Also every guy ive been with says theyll protect me, i dont know what from! Even men looking at me irritates them even their friends, normal?
2007-08-01 15:31:44 · 9 answers · asked by janeysmithster 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Guys want don't want to share their girl. Since he knows what goes through a guys head, he knows what the guys that talk to you are thinking. He doesn't want you to be near people that want to get with you. I know it sounds irrational, but that's how it is. It's natural for guys to want to protect the girl they are with. It makes us feel like a better man.
2007-08-01 15:37:09 · answer #1 · answered by Dorphinoct 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there, your question is a simple one and that answer would be yes. Men are simple beings, they have their egos and their pride. It is these two elements that prompts them to behave this way. Men likes to feel that he's in command over everything, his life, his mate and his own family. They will like to use their authority to push their way through in their family. Although some man don't behave this way, they still like to think that their mate is theirs alone. There is some solutions to this but it will not be easy.
Firstly, you have to learn to make your man trust you. Once the trust is established, you can then start communicating with him about your male friends. If you have built enough trust with him, you need not worry about guys looking at you when you go out with him. The problem with men is that the trust is hard to build and easy to destroy. This will be a challenge to you. However, you can also vex your anger at him occasionally to show him that he is being too sensitive. Show him that you do love him and ask him to stop being too sensitive over every guy that comes along. It only shows that he is not confident of your relationship with him.
A final advice, try to understand from his point of view and see how best to communicate with him about this problem. Good Luck!
2007-08-01 22:46:55 · answer #2 · answered by Mr Vertuz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are accepting these men that you are complaining about. Find someone new. It is easy to go for men whom have the same pattern as you've dated before. Mainly because you know what to expect no matter what the nightmare being. By attracting yourself to the same type of men you are somehow playing into the drama of the relationship. In some subliminal way it excites you. Otherwise I can't imagine why you would continually date the same type of man.
2007-08-01 22:37:24 · answer #3 · answered by Carrie C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on the bloke, but it does sound pretty normal to me. That doesn't make it right, however, and you shouldn't accept it. Us blokes are just as emotionally messed up as anyone, and much of our behaviour in relationships will be determined by our own sense of self-worth. For example, perhaps you are a particularly attractive girl, whom attracts a fair amount of attention. Nothing wrong with that. But, if the guy you are with is quite insecure, then you might have problems, especially if he is the jealous type. Try talking to him though, as he might not even realise that his behaviour is getting to you. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying, that you should look at the guy as a 'project', but I think it shows intelligence as a human being to be able to understand people's emotional needs, and try to accommodate them. If the guy you are with doesn't do this for you however, then he just ain't worth it!
2007-08-01 23:06:37 · answer #4 · answered by bob6575 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not normal at all and in fact can be viewed as a form of abuse. Nobody has the right to threaten you for any reason and as for trying to control who you can and cannot converse with this is not cool at all. If he is like this at this stage of the relationship, I can only see getting worse and him more controlling as time passes on. Do yourself a favour and give him the travel card and go out and find someone who is comfortable with who you are and what you are all about. Someone who will put trust in you and not threaten you over anything. Best of luck.
2007-08-01 22:41:15 · answer #5 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
very normal, it doesn't mean they wanna own you though, but men are like that, some say they're different, but it all comes down to a lack of trust and a lot of jealousy.
2007-08-01 22:37:51 · answer #6 · answered by doomsdayjeezuz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no - never
perhaps a lot of this insecurity in your bf comes from the way you dress ?
[i notice how you mention men looking at you]
2007-08-02 00:54:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Not since the slave trade was abolished.
2007-08-01 22:37:09 · answer #8 · answered by Jack 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your english sucks!
let me guess!
your a dumb blond?
2007-08-01 22:37:23 · answer #9 · answered by HERBS 2 · 0⤊ 5⤋