I have lost my love forever.Until now i didnt face any problems in my life.Im unable to bare this pain of losing her.Always thinking about her and recollecting our memories.How to overcome this situation.she got married to another guy by her parents force.She wont love him.But she is not feeling the pain as i was.She tells me that i want to adjust with him.But how i have to come out of this situation.I love her a lot.plzz helppp
2007-08-01 15:25:15 · 25 answers · asked by Believe in yourself 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You said you LOST her. Was it something you did to PUSH her away? Obviously she went her own way by choice and even re-married. That would be a MAJOR hint to move on. You need to take care of yourself, forgive yourself and move on with your life. LEARN from it. You can't live in the past.
OH YEAH. STAY BUSY. THAT WILL HELP A LOT. :)
2007-08-01 15:28:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are obsessing over her and your pain which will ONLY bring you more obsession and pain.
You want to obsess and feel pain right now. When you are tired of that, this is what you do.
Think about the good things you had with her, and more importantly, ignore the bad. Then think about the things that you would like to have in addition to what you already had....AND be completely selfish (it is your life and no one else knows your thoughts but you). Then obsess on that, the way you are obsessing on your pain. It will take practice because you have a powerful emotional tie to your loss but it can be done. Promise, the pain will go away...
2007-08-01 15:34:46 · answer #2 · answered by warriorandangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I feel for you. It's always very difficult to get over a lost love, but find something that you like to do...like a hobby to keep you busy. Do you work? Work extra hours. Go to movies with a friend. In other words, stay as busy as you can. In time, the pain will heal.
2007-08-01 15:30:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it one day at a time, my friend. In fact, one minute at a time. It's true that time heals all wounds so don't jump ahead of yourself. Think about what you are doing now and what your next immediate task will be. One hour will lead to the next one and so on until you realize it's no big deal anymore. Good news is you will get over her. Bad news is that you're probably not done getting your heart broken yet.
2007-08-01 15:29:33 · answer #4 · answered by Derek D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is married now. You need to withdraw yourself from this. The best way to start healing is to get her totally out of your life. Stop contacting her, as it just prolongs your withdrawal from her. Every contact gets you going again and prolongs your pain.
Time will help you heal. You WILL recover, your feelings will fade. You will find happiness again and even a new love.
In six months, without contacting her, you will feel much better.
She committed herself to her husband now. Let her go. Let yourself start to move on.
In the mean time, keep yourself busy. Get involved with some activities you enjoy, get lots of exercise as it helps lessen the depression. Avoid drinking to much, as it adds to the depression.
It hurts, but you WILL recover and survive this.
2007-08-01 15:35:16 · answer #5 · answered by joyh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like a arranged marriage, i would like to say that unless you two would leave the place you live far behind, you could just elope together, but that is very dangerous, so go get counseling from your priest or religious scholar and Doctor and find something to keep your mind busy.time heals all wounds. if this person does love you as much as you love her, then it's going to be a tough decision on what the next step is. more information is needed to answer this question.
2007-08-01 15:32:46 · answer #6 · answered by nocateman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes alot of work! Sure you could just sit around and do nothing all day and a time will come that you will move on and you will be over her but... Why do that to yourself!?!?! I was in your shoes about 5 months ago. I was in a relationship for 3 years and one day I went over her house and all my stuff was packed for me ready to go. It really does hurt man but you have to keep your mind busy and try not to think about your ex. The main things that helped me thru it were (In this order):
1. Friends - They really help more then anything!!! If they ask you to go out and do something then just do it! There is no point in spending a Friday night alone...
2. Working out - You are going thru alot I know! This is the ultimate stress reliever. Get any bad thoughts then just hit the gym or run or do something that will help to push yourself physically and ease yourself mentally.
3. Dating - You may not feel up to it. but trust me... This will not only help you get your mind off things but it will also help you to realize there are other people out there.
(BTW It works best if you go out and meet and date new people... Don't go around dating people you know. Part of this is to help boost your confidence by talking to new women)
Also think of something that you always wanted to do but you could never do it with your ex... Then just do it! My big thing was that I always wanted to join the army. My ex would never ever ever ever have stayed with me if I joined so i decided not to... Now that we are apart I get to do what I have always wanted to do! I am in ROTC now and in 2 years I will be a 2nd lieutenant in the U.S. Army. Now I am not telling you to just go out and join the army... That is my dream and it is only an example... But yeah like I said man just think of something you want to do and treat yourself!
Most of all KEEP YOUR HEAD UP!!! The pain will pass I promiss!
I really do hope that I helped you and wish you the best of luck!
2007-08-01 15:28:38 · answer #7 · answered by Grant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what?i already experienced that situation & honestly it's really hard,I know the feeling that i was broken but then I realized that if I'll stay that way I will not gain anything....I just keep my busy all the time, focus my self on other things, enjoy life with my family...coz they are still there..your family wouldn't leave you.You can just go back to your normal life if you open your heart & mind to changes...because their is no permanent thing in this world...keep in mind that all the things that you have now is just borrowed so that if it is or they are gone you won't take forever to recover from any hurt of loss....I know you can do it...Ask God for help & guidance He is just around for you...Goodluk for a new life....
2007-08-01 15:40:02 · answer #8 · answered by lime 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sympathy for your loss.
She has said "I want to adjust with him".
You must step away and move on.
It sounds trite, but you will discover that there
are other girls, and one will be very good.
I say this from an advanced age.
It is hard, but you must move on. Thats life.
It will get better with time.
2007-08-01 15:32:13 · answer #9 · answered by Irv S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the real world. There are 2 tragedy's in life- one is getting what you want, and the other is not getting what you want.
You sound pretty young- want the truth? You shouldn't even consider marriage until you're about 28 or so.
Good Luck
2007-08-01 15:29:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋