I'm 20. The boyfriend is 21. We've been dating for 7 mos. We dated in the past for 2 yrs. He becomes infatuated with his friends every summer because they're home from college! This started in the beginning of the summer. He wanted more friend time; I respected that completely. We had been hanging out on Friday and Saturday only. Recently, he "put his foot down" and said he wanted either Friday or Saturday to hangout with friends. I said fine. He said he feared telling me this because he thought he would hurt my feelings.
He had gone on a trip to Cancun for a week with his 2 friends. He comes back. The following weekend he wants to go to his friend's party. I felt awful that day because I was in the hospital all day with my very ill grandma. I called him to see if he would come over to comfort me. He was angry! He came over and started crying that he had missed out on this party. He said he just doesn't care that I feel sad about my grandma. He "tries, but just can't care."
2007-08-01 14:43:02 · 15 answers · asked by SuperFox 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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Now, we hangout twice a week. He sees his friends about four times a week. We don't talk on the phone every night; more like twice a week. I would like to see him more, but he doesn't want to see me more. Am I being unreasonable? Should he want to see his friends more than he sees me?
Oh! He also goes out with his friends all over the place. When it comes time to us hanging out, he just wants to relax because he's ran around so much. We just sit in my house or his house. Ugh. Help! Any advice? Input?
2007-08-01 14:45:46 · update #1
ok sounds to me you need to dumb his ***. he is completely inconsiderate of your feelings. and hes in his 20's now he needs to grow up. life isnt all About party's and friends. maybe he should be going to college too. he needs to spend more time with you. obviously yall have some real deep feelings for eachother to be seeing eachother on and off for 7 years. yall sound like you just need to work somthings out. and this is the major! you need to say to him. look if i matter to you you need to be considerate of my feelings, wether you understand how i feel or not, support me, comfort me! be there for me. me and my i'll family is more important than some dumb party. and if your not willing to do that, and spend more time with me and only see your friends on the weekends than im not going to beable to work things out. and taking a trip with friends only! thats not good. he's just still in that party bad boy stage. and he doesnt sound that serious. when i got with my mad he was involved in bad things and hanging with his friends like this too. and once you show that you'll mean it and he really does care and really want you to be a part of his life. he'll straighten up his act real quick!!!!! believe me. my man was addicted to some serious drugs for like years before i met him, and now he quit completely. and he doesnt hang out with any of his friends that brought that in his life. and he is so much better. he even quit smoking ciggerates and i didnt tell him too. and we spend time together all the time. he takes me out and if we dont go anywhere we go swiming or stay in and watch movies, cuddle upand bond. tell him that. you just want to cuddle and bond and it be about you guys now. so its his choice straighten up and treat me right and be god, or your not worth it. im not going to let us get real serious and you do some dumb s*it and break my heart. he may not be ready. but good luck. and talk to him. tell him how you feel. and how hes been treating you. maybe he doesnt realize how harsh hes being. guy do say bad/mean things and act bad like somthing and not know how there rubbing off. so good luck. and if he doesnt change for good. then dumb his sorry loser butt. you deserve better. if he's not ready to be a real man he aint ready for you!
2007-08-01 14:58:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That doesn't make him a narcissist... that makes him a jerk.
I'm not much older than you (24) and guys at your age just want to have fun. It's all about self exploration and having a great time. Don't be so hard on him because at least he's there with you. Don't double whammy him by getting mad at him for not being more caring because he also didn't get to go to this "AWESOME PARTY".
Some people might get mad at my answer, but I'm just trying to see it from both point of views.
2007-08-01 14:47:11 · answer #2 · answered by Natsumi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-13 10:37:23 · answer #3 · answered by mayben 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a mutherfucker, you need to seriously lose this guy. Narcissism pisses me off. Thats horrible about youre grandma btw. Truly sry. good luck in future relationships
2007-08-01 14:47:31 · answer #4 · answered by Seth F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is a serious loser/pansy for crying about not being able to go to a party!! i don't care how great a party is, i'd never cry that i couldn't go!!!
there shouldn't be any reason why you can't hang out with his friends too. this guy sounds like a real douche.
2007-08-01 14:47:12 · answer #5 · answered by laurie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a jacka$$... you can do better,gf! he doesnt really love you... if he did he would CARE about your feelings. women should be cherished.... not pushed aside like he is doing to you. youve been very understanding to him but he cant just not be there for you at all! i think you should call it quits with him and spend some time with your firneds. have a girls night and forget about that loser...
best of luck!!
2007-08-01 14:49:53 · answer #6 · answered by Seanyy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he said he tried to care but he can't, he's probably telling the truth there. Maybe his interest in you is fading a little or something. Try something to spice it up a bit, do something new and exciting.
2007-08-01 14:47:56 · answer #7 · answered by Matt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i believe that you guys should be together because it seems he only cares to be around his friend and he doesnt care for you and you dont need to deal with him you have more important things to deal with like your grandma
2007-08-01 14:48:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What input do you want? You know how he is, so you have 2 choices: put up with him or find someone else.
2007-08-01 14:46:11 · answer #9 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea.... i think he might be cheating on you.
thats what it sounds like at least.
and if he cant care then why are you with him?
you can do so much better.
he should be your support and be there for you when you have no one else.
wake him up, break up with him.
he will probly come crawling back.. but if your planning on taking him back make sure that he proves himself before that.
2007-08-01 14:47:37 · answer #10 · answered by poets_loss 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋