We are supposed to forgive and forget when a guy messes around on us. But, let some guy find out his girl cheated on him and he's destroyed. What gives?
2007-08-01 14:36:05 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You'd have to ask a guy that question and a few will respond so you will be able to get their insight but my guess would be that it hurts them the same way it hurts women.
Loose change is right though...many of us women wouldn't be able to just forgive and forget...maybe you have never felt this emotion and I truly hope you never do, but it is just awful having to imagine your significant other sharing themselves with someone else...not cool
2007-08-01 14:38:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
I guess for the same reason we get so devastated when they do it to us. It hurts painfully to find out that someone you care about cheats on you and they act like if they stay mad the pain would go away. Many people say that we are supposed to forgive and forget when your man cheats but sometimes we can't do it either. I think its best to talk about the problem and try top solve it but DON'T FORGET because you don't want it to happen again.
2007-08-01 14:44:31 · answer #2 · answered by ~*lovin' my life*~ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well no matter if you are guy or a girl when someone cheates on you, you feel devastated, and there is that thing of forgive and forget for girl well that is because it is steriotype that the guy that does the cheating but that is not true because girls and guys cheat all the time but i guess girls know how to hit it more than guys
2007-08-01 14:41:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The sound rather archaic, but I think there is some truth to it. And please note that I am speaking generally - this doesn't apply to every possible scenario.
Men value females for their physical beauty while women value men for the ability to provide resources. So when a man cheats on a woman, he is in effect giving away resources that are supposed to be spent on his primary object of affection - you. This is why guy BUY stuff for their women when they cheat - showing you that they indeed have enough resources to go around.
But, if you are cheating on you man, they you are giving away something that cannot be recovered - yourself.
2007-08-01 14:45:05 · answer #4 · answered by scilletta 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Women are not suppose to forgive and forget if they are cheated on. It is a break of trust.
BTW sounds like you may have just "devastated" someone...
2007-08-01 14:41:00 · answer #5 · answered by Manny M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Both sexes get devastated. Guys do not commit as soon as we do. Whey they do, and there gf cheats it cuts to the bone. To be honest with you I always wonder when either sex wants to see someone else just break up with that person first. Cheating becomes a habit.
2007-08-01 14:52:04 · answer #6 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Men like to have a strong sense of manhood. The way they are brought up, they are suppose to (in the eyes of others) be as much of a man as they can be. If they have a girl, and they cheat on them, depending on how much they love them, they can be crushed for various reasons just like women can. The only difference is, he may feel he wasn't man enough to hold on to her. Breaking up with him is one thing, he can pass it off as the womans problem or something wrong with the world, whatever he likes, but if a girl cheats on him with another man, he has to face it. There is no spin to put on it. "She chose that guy instead of me, why was I not good enough for her" is usually what goes through their heads. They feel they have been replaced, and it kills them. I'm not only speaking from experience, but from seeing it happen before. I'm not a "manly man" and I try not to act to ego strong, and keep the "men are superior" mentality. However; even I felt like I wasn't man enough, when my Girlfriend did this to me years back. Regardless of what anyone could tell me, or how I chose to believe against being like alot of men today, I was still crushed, and I still felt stripped of my manhood, if not for just a moment. I don't know if this helps you, but it's about as honest as I can get with you. Cheating sucks ;) good question though.. love is confusing.
2007-08-01 14:45:11 · answer #7 · answered by Bliss in Ignorance 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is not cheat. Woman does not cheat on men. They just keep a distance to men. If you forgive you are devastating yourself. Women are men's pride.
2007-08-01 14:43:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Guys have big egos, but little self-esteem. They are very sensitive when they think someone is hurting them. Some think it is okay for them to mess around, but that if a girl does it she is a tramp. Some do not want the girl, but if they think some other guy wants her, then they want her. Realize that our society has a double standard for boys and girls.
2007-08-01 14:40:39 · answer #9 · answered by lestermount 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't matter if someone is a guy or woman. If you cheat, it's wrong. You devastate the other person and violate their trust in you. No one has to forgive or forget if they don't want, including you.
2007-08-01 14:40:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
For the same reason girls are destroyed when a guy cheats on them. Women are supposed to forgive an forget? Sounds like your cheating boyfriend has been spoonfeeding you alotta bullshit and you love it.
2007-08-01 14:39:24 · answer #11 · answered by yepp 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋