Should I just move out?

Question

For the past 5 months ever since my uncle and his family came from China, my mom has changed. There's never one good day or week we haven't fought are argued and I;m getting so sick of it. She beats me and screams at me because she's like giving away everything to them and I really missed those things. She's gotten psycho and she beat me with a stick and now my leg is all bruised up. I really can't take it anymore. She said that I've changed but the real deal is she's the whole who's changed into a psycho b****. There's not one week that I haven't cried at all. She wasn't like this before I'm so sick of fighting with her and all the things that made me really depressed, I just wanna move in with my aunts. What should I do? Please help

I'm 15 years old and I'm Asian. I think mostly, getting beat is like a cultural thing

Answer 1

Hi....I'm so sorry you are going through some major changes with your mom. I know you have heard this cliche but 'everything happens for a reason' it may not be a good reason but there is a reason for everything that happens in ones life. Now I'm assuming by what you had stated that these fights and beatings just started with your mom since your uncle and his family moved here from China. Correct? If this is so then it looks to me as if someone in your uncle's family has been 'talking' to your mom on how she should raise you. I'm not liking this picture. If you are able, and I hate to say this because this is your 'mom. I would say talk to your aunts about this concern of yours and if no other resolution can be found then I would definitely move in with your aunts. If your mom can't sit down and have a reasonable mature conversation with her daughter about this issue and concerns then I would move and live with your Aunts. Good luck and I wish you the best. Take care.

Answer 2

If I were to guess, I would think your relatives are influencing your Mom...they don't understand the life your Mom and you had, and want her to use the ways of their own culture and country...and probably are telling her she is too lenient with you, etc.

If things get too bad, you are just about old enough to declare yourself independent ...I think by the time you are 16....you have to show you have where to live, etc....you probably need to know what your Aunts have to say.

In the meantime, stay out of the way as much as possible...and go talk to a counselor if you need to...at school or church....you can show them your bruised leg and ask for help from them....and you might tell your Mom that is what you are going to do if this keeps on happening. It might make her think about it.

Answer 3

You poor little thing. I am so very sorry this has been happening to you. Puberty is a heck of a hard time, school and relationships are all difficult at this time and then you are caught in the middle of all this with strange changes in your household and life. I really believe your Mom loves you to bits, but I also really believe her relatives from China have stressed and influenced her. This does not mean you should just stand there and wear it. The abuse and physical beatings and emotional stress is not acceptable. You have the right to live in a household without fear. Please speak to someone in authority at a police station, your school counsellor or somebody. You need somebody to stand up for you and to safeguard your lifestyle so you are free to grow up feeling loved and safe, fed and sheltered and able to study to plan a future without pain and fear. May God bless you and protect you and grant you peace in your heart and family too.

Warm hugs,

Lisa

Answer 4

It all depend on your age sweetie...have you talked to your father about this??? if you are under 18 i would report this to child protective services, if over call the police...what she did was wrong no matter the reason! I'm a mother myself and get highly aggravated by my 6 year old(who by the way is acting like a normal 6yr old) but i would never hit him. You need out side help... if you don't go to any of the fore mentioned agencies talk to another family member (not in the same house), a friend or a councilor. good luck sweetie

Answer 5

If you have somewhere to go and a way to get there, I would recommend moving. I think your aunts would be a good option if your mom is beating you.
This is a LAST RESORT! If you've tried talking to her rationally (even though it's difficult) and she won't listen, then you have to look out for yourself and leave, even if it's only for a little while.

Answer 6

At 15 years old that is child abuse. She is abusing you physically and mentally. Report her to your school. Also show them your bruises you have proof she does this to you. Nobody should be abused no matter how much the parent is mad at the child. Go tell someone as soon as possible.

Answer 7

wow, 15 call the police let them know what going on, you should not be beat, are treated like that, God did not give us children to yell and beat and treat them badly its not right,

Talk to your Aunt ask your aunt to speak with you mom, and let her know how hard this is for you, and that if things don't change that you will have to go to the Police...

Good luck honey i hope it all works out for you,, take care and God bless. you :)))))))))))))))))))

Answer 8

No you are to young. She is under allot of stress. Try to help her and talk to her as little as possible until she settles down. She will get better with time.

Answer 9

getting beat is child abuse for you at your age. move with aunt and be done or turn her in the CPS.

Answer 10

call the police the next time she hits you with something it want take her long to seek some thearpy.