I dont really have the looks to attract girls. I'm not sure if I have the personality. Can I get it if I dont have it?
Can I change myself into what girls want so that they will like me? How?
2007-08-01 14:24:43 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The thing that you have to realize is that there is no set personality that girls like. Be happy with how you are and own up to it, girls will notice that. However you act if you are outgoing or shy there is going to be a girl out there for you. Do not change, your uniqueness will make you attractive, be confident in who you are and let them know that. Good Luck!
2007-08-01 14:27:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot change your core personality, but you can definitely improve your social skills, if that is what you are asking.
Everyone is born with poor social skills, but some people learn how to relate well to others, while others do not. If you go to an internet dating site, you will notice that many women will come right out and say IN WRITING that they do not want to date anyone who is socially awkward. Poor social skills not only hurt your chances with women, but also hinder you when you go for that all important job interview after college. Being socially awkward will hinder you when you are asking for a raise, when you are dealing with conflict at work, or when you are applying for a managerial position.
Being shy and socially awkward has the potential to hold you back in every area of your life, so it works in your best interest to do something about it.
It is an unfortunate catch-22 that lacking self-confidence and feeling self-conscious in social settings tends to make you act socially awkward, which makes people react in a negative way around you, which makes your self-confidence sink even lower, which leads to more social awkwardness, and so on.
There are psychological exercises that you can do to overcome your shyness and your lack of self-confidence. I recommend that you go to the self help section of the local library and find some books on the subject. David DeAngelo has some pretty good confidence building exercise on his “Advanced Series” on approaching women & dating at doubleyourdating dot com, but it is an expensive program. I would recommend that you start small -- like try reading “Get Anyone to Do Anything: Never Feel Powerless Again -- With Psychological Secrets to Control and Influence Every Situation” (Paperback) by Dr. David J. Lieberman.
By the way, people say that you should “be yourself” and that you should never change for anyone but yourself. This is true to a point. If you are doing something irritating, socially unacceptable, really boring, or just plan wrong, then you need to fix that part of your personality (or at least change how you present yourself). On the other hand, people are turned off by someone who seems “fake”, so while in the process of changing yourself for the better, make sure that you do not say or do anything that feels dishonest, or not true to yourself. I know that sounds contradictory, but I think that you will get it eventually.
2007-08-01 15:07:25 · answer #2 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure but it's not going to happen over night. But hold on girls always like guys that are themselves! A girl should like you for you whether you have the looks, body, or personality... but yeah change into whatever you want.
2007-08-01 14:28:17 · answer #3 · answered by shelbyroxhardcore 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, actually, it does not depends on your looks but your behaviour and manners. if you really want to attract any girl, there are to ways to do it:
1) simply ignore her- perform this trick only if the girl knows you very well. when she asks "what is the matter with you?",
tell her some of your personal problems. she will come close to you.
2) if you r meeting the girl for the first time, do not be shy to go and talk to her. greet her and ask her name only. do not try to use abusive language or try to act oversmart. girls hate that.
2007-08-01 14:34:54 · answer #4 · answered by Ankit S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want change bad enough you can change, but only if you want it for yourself. I think personality changes over time through our interactions with the world around us and the people we meet along the way because we constantly validate things to determine what is best.
2007-08-01 14:28:59 · answer #5 · answered by genuwine rob 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everybody is a unique person, and that's how we are born, we don't ask to be beautiful or this and that. In my opinion, be yourself! Look at yourself in the mirror everyday and say: "hey! God loves me! He wanted me to exist!" Look is not important, it is for some empty headed girl, but girls like men who make them laugh. Do you have this quality? That's what you should worry about, not your looks:-))
2007-08-01 14:32:39 · answer #6 · answered by Olga M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never change yourself for someone else, it's not worth it.
One day you will find someone that will love you for you!
Plus, if you change your personality, you'll always feel fake.
2007-08-01 14:27:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you change yourself too something you think someone else wants you to be, you are no longer you.
2007-08-01 14:31:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need counseling to do that, only YOU can change if you really want to so good luck!
2007-08-01 14:27:20 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ Lil love lady ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never change for anyone other than yourself.
2007-08-01 14:26:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋