my oldest child is 27 she has a baby and we have a very good relationship, her mother and i were only together for about 6 months i was 16 she was 19. my daughter looks very much like my younger sister????
my son from my marriage looks nothing like me either and my wife at the time was living with some one else.
but my question is should i get dna tests to find out really if they are my children????
i know they are grown but ...well but i dont know im just asking because its been on my mind alot latly
2007-08-01 13:37:09 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
these are all very good answers but it really is a little more involved than what ive said (typing and im just wondering also) but thank every one of yoy for your answeres,,,,but to choose a best answer im not sure i can i wioll but ok i will but ty
2007-08-03 15:36:17 · update #1
At this point, I think the only reason for a DNA test would be to determine if there is a genetic predisposition to something, such as cancer, in the family that your children should know about. You probably should discuss your concerns with them--reassuring them that your love for them won't change, no matter what the outcome is--and then come to a general agreement as to how to proceed.
My mom was adopted, and we didn't find out until I was 12 years, old. She passed away 10 years ago as a result of breast cancer, and I wish I could get just the medical history portion of her birth records for my own health and that of my daughter.
I would also be sure to be respectful of your children's feelings as this is sure to be a shock to them.
2007-08-01 15:33:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anna W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you raised these kids as your own and as such you are their father. Why even bother with DNA testing. If it comes back negative and they find out what you have done they would most certainly be upset. If it came back positive that someone else fathered them your relationship with them would most certainly change whether you intended it to or not. I think a lot of men question the fact if they are indeed the natural father, but most of the time when the child is younger. However, fortunately most of these fears are unfounded and perhaps just a bit of the males underinflated ego. Be proud of how well adjusted your kids have grown and how big a part you have played in raising them.
2007-08-01 20:57:36 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you want to know and feel like they could have been fathered by someone else, you shoud get the DNA test.
I know a little girl right now who does not belong to the father who has been named. She belongs to someone else. No one but me knows. I doubt anyone will ever question it because of a financial situation and because her grandparent is the states attorney in our county. The mother was 14 yrs old when she was born and the biological father was over 21.
The little girl is now almost 7.
2007-08-01 20:44:55 · answer #3 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are grown, and you have a great relationship with them, how would knowing if they are truly your matter? Would it make you love them any less or any more based on the results? I think it's something you should leave alone, unless you are paying child support on them. I could maybe understand that. Besides, do they look like their mother? Maybe they took after her!
If you found out they weren't yours, and they did too, it would hurt the family soo much. If you are happy, I'd leave it alone. Don't put everyone through heartache.
2007-08-01 20:44:56 · answer #4 · answered by britney487 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋