Okay. I have tried dating online for my first time about 3 months ago and everything was great, and I really liked it at first, by the way i'm 16 turning 16. So everything was going good untill the last month we started to stop talking to eachother as much, he had computer problems and a blackout that lasted 2-3 weeks. And I'm starting to have less feelings towards Him..
But lately I have been getting closer to my friend in real life named Matt, and no one knows me and Lexus (Internet Boyfriend) are kind of dating, and today Matt asked me if I wanted to go to the movies with him! Like i really wanna go, but i just feel wrong going out with Matt to the movies while I'm still in a relationship with Lexus. I have no idea what to say to him and he is actually slowly comming back onto the computer more and more, but I think its to late, I dont really have the feelings for him anymoree. I just need help on what to do??
Anything will be greatly Appreciated! x]
Shawna-xox
2007-08-01 13:24:21 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I ment to say i'm 16 turning 17. I will be 17 in octoberr
2007-08-01 13:24:59 · update #1
I keep on putting me and matt on hold, he keeps asking me and i keep on thinking of an excuse or act like I didnt hear hi. now i think hes gunna give up on going out with me pretty soon.
2007-08-01 13:27:04 · update #2
You're only 16, not in a serious relationship...go for the guy you have feelings for!
2007-08-01 13:27:46 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You quit lying to yourself. This whole thing is fantasy-based. Even if you had a great one-night stand, it does not mean that if the two of you were together on a continual basis that it would work. It probably wouldn't. You mean to tell me that he would come to this country, learn the language, get a job, become a citizen---all because his wife filed for divorce? And now you have all this mess of the divorce and your involvement in it. So what if she said take him off of her hands. What the heck is that??? You've got to realize that you have built up a substantial fantasy about who this man is vs. reality. And who you are in this fantasy world vs. reality. You need to stay with your boyfriend and end the affair---end it entirely. Stop cheating and lying. You know that your boyfriend is for real. This other situation is drama. Oh, and please don't hurt your boyfriend by telling him all of this crap. Stop boosting your own ego and doing things to make you feel better. Either be faithful or leave. But don't go with this cheating guy.
2016-05-20 04:05:54 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out with Matt! Personally I don't think any kind of a relationship that involves your only form of communication as a computer is worth it. The only way to really get to know somebody is to spend time with them in person. If you don't have feelings for Lexus then just end it, why toy with his feelings?
2007-08-01 13:30:16 · answer #3 · answered by Julia P 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
WOW- 17 with dating problem. I it's fun to date but I think you're going to find out that reality is always better. You can't beet seeing someone and hearing their voice. also not to be parental but how do you even know that the guy you're dating on line is really who he say he is. Have you heard that song by Kenny Chesney "on line"? Think about it- that **** is real. Another thing to think about is he could have more girlfriends than just you. It's really a whole can of worms. Beside have you ever realized that most of the people on places out there like my space are for people who don't have much pride in there self. Do you self a favor and stay in reality. From there do you self an even bigger favor and be 17. Be safe but be 17. If you're this stressed out now, think how you'll be when your 20 or 25?
2007-08-01 13:37:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like you and Lexus are already broken up...atleast in your view but you need to ask yourself can it really work out between you and Lexus if it can and you really want it to then dont go out with Matt
But if you like Matt more and feel you could really be his girlfriend I say go out with him if it doesnt work out then you have a good friend
But then there is always the go out with Matt on a trial date type situation and dont tell Lexus until you are sure you want to be with Matt but that one usually makes you feel guilty so up to you
2007-08-01 13:30:47 · answer #5 · answered by Crimson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, just be honest and tell the guy Lexus on the Internet that the two you had not been communicating well, or on a regular basis, and you have met someone else, it should not be hard to do that since you two have never met, and have only conversed through the Internet. Let him know since the two of you had not talked your feeling changed and you are interested in someone else.
2007-08-01 18:09:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
who do you love more. Internet dating at young means that one of you wont be faithful. If you like a guy you can physically can see everyday and huig and show emotions to them. Go for the Matt guy. If you and Matt is a friend, ya can go to the movies as friend. Dumped the internet boyfriend and get you a boyfriend you can see everyday and date
2007-08-01 13:28:42 · answer #7 · answered by Chi Town Playa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd go with Matt he is there where as lexus is not. what do you really know about Lexus anyway?? alot of people lie about themselves when it comes to online dating he could be a 50 year old man or a pervert or something. where with Matt you already know him.
2007-08-01 13:31:20 · answer #8 · answered by bec a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He (Lexus) could be reading this. But, you seem kind of young to online date. If I were you, I'd date in real life until I got older. You should tell Lexus that you don't want to date online because you don't think it is going anywhere and you've never seen each other in real life.
Hope I helped
2007-08-01 13:29:24 · answer #9 · answered by Toxic Valentine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditch (for lack of a better term) the online guy, and stick with the real life guy, the online crap never lasts.
Somebody always gets hurt in the seperation.
Tell Lexus thanks, but it will never work, go to the movies with Matt, and quit online dating.....:)
2007-08-01 13:28:36 · answer #10 · answered by Michael H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Matt is really the only choice you have......... honestly how much do you know about "Lexus"? Let just say he is what he said but who is to say he is not dating/ seeing other girls online and offline.......... I think you misunderstood the term "online dating"....... People meet and chat online but they don't consider themselve to be in a relationship till they meet up in person............ Trust me not everyone is as innocent and honest as you....... Protect yourself!
2007-08-01 13:44:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋