I know men dont understand women and women dont understand men but....... why cant we just work it out. Lets start being honest with our feelings and do this. Lets toss out all the games...who's with me??
2007-08-01 13:04:36 · 13 answers · asked by KDJ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I agree. And I am not just using this to get points I really do simply agree.
2007-08-01 13:07:30 · answer #1 · answered by SummerRain Girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are many problems to *all* relationships, even when you are dealing with two honest people who are looking for love, and genuinely trying to make things work out well:
1) Different backgrounds. Especially in the U.S., you have people from different upbringings, and with different ethnicities, who are only familiar with their way of doing things, and expect that everyone else thinks/acts relatively similar. In reality, there is a wide range of acceptable behaviors, and although these might be tolerable in everyday situations, it becomes harder when you live with the other person.
2) Different communication styles / interpretations. What might qualify as a "game" to you, might seem perfectly legitimate to the other person. Also, as someone else mentioned, behavior we do to others may not seem so bad, until we are on the receiving end of the same treatment. There are also cases of genuine misunderstanding, where what was said / done was not meant to be interpreted negatively. See the article (below), for differences between something as simple as how men and women interpret sexiness in women.
3) The benefits of games. Like it or not, sometimes advantages are gained by playing games, being less than honest, and otherwise shopping for the best member of the opposite sex that can be had. When people put up with this, it only leads to less trust, and a more cutthroat dating/marriage environment.
The problem, then with trying to get rid of the games, is that it's a lot like nuclear disarmament... each side wants the other to get rid of the stuff first.... and verification is always a problem.
2007-08-01 21:14:37 · answer #2 · answered by Marc M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
KDJ, this old man is behind your petition 100%. Luckily I have found a woman and married her just over two months ago and we are very capable and do practice the art of communication. Although not a completely lost art form yet, too many of todays people not only play foolish games while in relationships but also view these relationships as too much of today's society - disposable.
2007-08-01 20:09:43 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Read Men are from Mars, women are from Venus. After that, relationships should be easy with just a little hard now and then. Too much effort needed, you are not meant to be together
2007-08-01 20:08:48 · answer #4 · answered by funngirly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its so hard to give your feelings to a person, and show who u really are for fear of rejection and a misunderstanding. I know where u are coming from. But in the end its soo rewarding to find the person u cant live without because they know u. So in the end u wont know what pleasure is until u go thru the pain.
2007-08-01 20:12:12 · answer #5 · answered by destinypd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do wish the world could be like that. Unfourtunately, there will always be a liar. I do agree, though, the world would be much better if games and avoidance could be removed from the mix. Believe me, i've had many a game played with my head.
2007-08-01 20:09:53 · answer #6 · answered by james_j_j_0 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Realtionships are a two way street if people cant work that out then why be in one!It should consist of constant honesty and no barriers thats how GOOD relationships work out!
2007-08-01 20:10:01 · answer #7 · answered by littlemisssaigon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes i understand that,mine has taken so many sacrifices on me that im about to give it up,but i do anything for my baby which makes it harder on me!!!! I think thats right because my best guy friend made me really confused one year first he liked me then he didnt!!!! you have a point just try to talk through it!!
2007-08-01 20:11:16 · answer #8 · answered by leah37 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it has to do with you picky the right guy with common interest and likes and dislikes, if you have a guy that you both have too much of uncommon things, then it become hard with work with, both have power struggles and control issues, check your zodiac signs for common things, it true if you want to be happy. It life and choices.
2007-08-01 20:11:39 · answer #9 · answered by rma2ks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds great, but their are alot of people out there that aren't sure of their feelings...one minute feel one way and the next minute another...hard to communicate that......try sticking with the people that you know are sure of what they want and that will cut down alot of stress for you~smile~
2007-08-01 20:09:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋