For the the mature ones.........(for men,but women are welcome too)?

Question

DO YOU LIKE CLINGY YOUNG LADIES OR ALOOF ONES?I'M ASKING THIS QUESTION B/C I'M THE ALOOF TYPE!!!I'M CONFIDENT AND I LIKE TO GIVE MY SIGNIFICANT OTHER THEIR SPACE, AND I LIKE THE SAME IN RETURN.BUT IT SEEMS LIKE MOST MEN PREFER A WOMAN THAT IS INSECURE AND NAGS THEM?DO MEN REALLY LOVE DRAMA?DO YOU SEE ALOOFNESS AS A THREAT?THANK YOU EVERYONE FOR ANSWERING!!!

Answer 1

Ashley I like for my wife to be my equal and my partner. Not to rely on me for everything and every decision that needs to be made in our lives. But not to be so independent that I am not included in making decisions. We work as a couple and discuss most things in a mature and open minded manner. We most certainly do not agree with each other 100% but when we see things differently it is a good thing and often we have our best talks at these times. Gives our relationship lots of room to grow when there are differences and we are both independent while being matched as a set.

Answer 2

Most well adjusted people don't like drama. Clingy women can also be a problem because they appear to become dependent on the other person very quickly.

Aloof can be fun because it lends an air of mystery to the girl. Just be careful that aloof doesn't come across as not caring or being interested in the fellow.

Answer 3

I think you may be confusing the term aloof with independence and assertiveness. To be aloof implies that you feel you are to above another either in intelligence, social position, or culture, therefor demonstrating it by looking down at them.

Most men do not appreciate the clinging and drama that is so prevalent in today's romantic relationships, but we are so conditioned into believing that is the only way to carry a relationship that we become complacent and at times, even apathetic. We often pigeon-hole ourselves into roles that are neither becoming not beneficial to anyone in the relationship simply because we follow the herd.

Answer 4

I think this really depends on the maturity level of the man, as well as the health of the relationship.

A man who is insecure about himself may need a woman who makes him the center of her universe. She is fulfilling a need that we all need to accomplish in ourselves first. And it doesn't make for very healthy relationships.

I'll take your "aloofness" any day, within some limits. I still want to know that you are interested in the relationship, but would encourage other interests as well. That's just healthy.

Answer 5

I think most men want a clingy girl at the beginning of the relationship. They want her around all the time to be sure that you are the one she is hitin it with, but in the long run they want time and space from the girl.
Make up your mind guys! You can't have it all!

Answer 6

aloofness is golden i mean there is a such thing as to much.. the way i see it is if i want to go out with the guys for a few drinks or fishing i should be able to without having to get a attitude when i get home. now i do understand being reasonable when going out.(not staying out til daylight type of thing)

Answer 7

I, for one, dislike drama. As long as you are not too aloof (ie hanging out with other guys more than me), and I get my time with you, I am happy.

Good luck!

-Alex

P.S. Feel free to email me with any other questions!

Answer 8

Noooo, guys hate clingy girls.They love confident independent woman.
Sometimes I get a lil emotional and clingy and my bf gets sooo annoyed. He prefers when we do our own thing than spend a lil time together.But time appart is very healthy.
Keep up the good work,sounds like you got a good head on your shoulders.

Answer 9

Mature crowd, eh? Your boyfriend probably thought you were testing him, but I have to wonder why you would want to go to a strip club for women if you are not bisexual. If you are, great. Happy birthday.

Answer 10

Not clingy, that's a turn-off.
Aloof is ok as long as it can be distinguished from disinterest.