I just started a new job and was interoduced to my co-workers and everyone was nice except one guy. When the manager introduced us he kept looking away and said nothing to me, then imediately went about asking the manager a question he had. The manager apologized to me right there, it was a very awkward moment. Why did the guy act that way? Was it something I did?
2007-08-01 11:46:48 · 13 answers · asked by /\|][/| 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Either he really wanted to ask the manager that question since the night before and didn't even notice you. Or, he might have felt you were a threat to his job. I'm leaning towards the first one. Im wondering if he warmed up to you later. I hope so!! No use worrying about it. Worrying really doesn't help, and just causes you stress. I hope your new job is working out well. :)
2007-08-01 11:54:06 · answer #1 · answered by LadyLynn 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I doubt that it is anything you did. There is often a person like this among a group of people. As you say everyone else was nice and the manager apologized. There are many reasons why he could have behaved this way but I would try not to get distracted by this. I would concentrate on settling into the new job and giving it my best. Try not to let this guy know he bothered you and enjoy the company of the other friendly folk.
2007-08-01 12:23:09 · answer #2 · answered by kirrii 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally ignore him and be friendly to people who are friendly to you. It is best to NOT try to befriend him. Let him approach you. If you act like he is not there, he will eventually wonder why you're not paying attention to him and he will approach you. If not, screw him! Even if he did want the job you got, that is no reason to treat you badly. Its not your fault he didn't get the position. If he treats you badly because of it, his thinking is all screwed up and build allies among the people you do get along with in case he tries to pull some funny business behind your back. Since the manager apologized, he is already aware this guy has a problem, so I wouldn't worry about it, it is not worth wasting a moment of your precious time on. You will have your hands full learning your new job and building rapport with your new co-workers. Good luck! It will be alright.
2007-08-01 13:05:17 · answer #3 · answered by galacticsleigh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is either: intimidated by you because he finds you attractive, or intimidated by you because he's afraid you'll take his job, or perform better than him. If you're in a male-dominated workplace, it is possible he is acting dismissive because of your gender and his perception that you're unable to measure up in that particular line of work. Or, he may just have a general disdain for "newbies". Some people, and this is especially dependent upon your line of work, feel a need to see how the new person is going to act before showing any kind of respect or acknowledgement, especially in work environments that have a lot of pre-existing cameraderie. Keep being yourself, do the best work you can. Either he will come around on his own, and if not, will probably fade into the woodwork. Pay him no mind...
2007-08-02 00:39:17 · answer #4 · answered by BeeWhereTheQyit1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm terrible like that at work. I am totally focused on my job. I get really upset when people want to B.S. with me while I'm tasking. I make crazy mistakes that way. So, maybe he is just really uptight. Maybe you look just like his ex, so he immediately hates you. Maybe he really hates his job, and couldn't give a squat about you.
I'm not saying the guy wasn't rude, he was. However, you aren't a young, pretty girl, by any chance, are you? Eventually, you are going to have to get used to the fact that some people just don't care who you are.
There could be a number of reasons, so I'm just throwing stuff out there. Perhaps he has been trying to get that question answered for weeks. Maybe he is that one guy who takes his job that seriously.
I'm not really excusing the guy, but seriously, who cares? A guy at work once told me that he had never worked with anyone he didn't like. As I said before, I am really a jerk at work, so I responded that I had never worked with anyone I did. Who cares about this guy? So he doesn't like you. Will you be unhappy if this one guy doesn't like you? It's your job, not high school. Let it go.
2007-08-01 12:10:34 · answer #5 · answered by eine kleine nukedmusik 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he wanted the position that you got and is just bitter. If not, he is probably just an ***. Once your in the company for a while your co-workers will open up and tell you what his problem is.
2007-08-01 12:01:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's probably the biggest baby in the office if he acted that way. so steer clear of him, he seems like a total douche for not introducing himself. i bet hes the most difficult person to work with. good luck and avoid him.
2007-08-01 12:01:38 · answer #7 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO he wasn't even thinking about you , infact he was so bothered by what was on his mind ,he doesn't even know what you look like ,, you'll have to introduce yourself again sometime , he wasn't even there > If he didn't apoligize to you he may just have som personal problems , Dont worry about him he must have alot on his plate,,,,,,
2007-08-01 11:57:22 · answer #8 · answered by darkcloud 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, he's just a very rude man....not everyone you work with will be nice and polite, unfortunatley.....
He could however, be hiding the fact that he is very shy....only time will tell.....
2007-08-01 18:08:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he wanted your job. Otherwise, he just doesn't sound very social minded.
2007-08-01 11:53:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋