my bf and i went out to eat and we were having a good time until.... i asked me if i wanted to see his u know what..of course i said NO!! and got a bit mad;[ why do u guys think he did this....This just makes me think he just wants to take me to have sex w/ him...BUT i have told him many times and he says he really "loves me" do u think he is honest..it seems as if he were. But i't just makes me uncomfortable..what should i do, i have told him so pls don't say tell him, what can i do...
guyS what is it u really want from a girl, plz be honest!! do u guys just to touch a girl like if she were some sort of object??? or WHat??? please answer with the truth
2007-08-01 11:01:51 · 19 answers · asked by nataly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It doesn't necesarily mean anything bad. Men are just stupid that way.
2007-08-01 11:04:58 · answer #1 · answered by thesweetestthings24 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm a guy, so I'll give a guy's perspective. If a girl is willing to share a bed with me, the last thing I would ever go is criticize her about whether her bra and panties match or not. I'd be crazy if I did something that stupid. Of course I would prefer that she wear nothing at all when we share a bed, but if she really must wear a bra and panties then she can wear whatever she wants even if it is cheap stuff fromt he dollar store - I simply do not care in any way. It is her that I want to be with and her clothes don't matter. I understand about being poor. I went through that earlier in my life.
2016-04-01 08:45:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's 12 or something - or at least has the MATURITY of a little kid...
The only reason he SAYS that he "really loves you" is so that he can get you into bed. If he can't even wait until the two of get some time alone to "whip it out" - then that is ALL that he is thinking about!!!
I would either RUN, or find a way to teach him how to behave in PUBLIC ;););)
2007-08-01 11:09:58 · answer #3 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously are not ready for relationships. You don't have enough experience to even figure out if this guy is using you for sex or if his emotions are genuine. Ask your friends or his friends you might get an answer. And different guys view girls differently. It's up to you to figure what your guys is like. If you can't feel comfortable with him, or you cannot trust him to respect your feelings get rid of him.
2007-08-01 11:08:13 · answer #4 · answered by plutarian04 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well after reading your question 2 minutes ago, I had a long- yet manly- talk with all of my other manly male friends (referred to as "the guys." I actually dont even know some of their names). Basically, we've come to the conlcusion that yes, in fact, all girls, women, and females are "some sort of obect" to us. They are strictly for our pleasure and that is their sole purpose on this earth. If we can't touch a girl, she is meaningless to us. I give it about another month MAX before your guy dumps you if you don't put out soon. ESPECIALLY if he paid for the dinner you mentioned.
To sum everything up, **** on his ****. If not, consider your relationship to be over. Really, is it that hard? (no pun intended)
2007-08-01 11:11:10 · answer #5 · answered by blah b 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
guys at their most primal level want sex. especially when guys are young and hormones are racing, and they are out with a pretty girl, all they want is sex. few guys are mature enough to control themselves, and even fewer really mean they love you, especially at that age where hormones and their tiny head do the talking.
oh and dump his ***. you don't need that crap. girls shouldn't have to put up with stuff like that from immature guys. honestly, find yourself a nice, mature guy and you will be so much happier. if he really respected he wouldn't have done that, he's a a jerk and you're better than that. do what's in your heart, don't give in to him just because he says he loves you or jsut because you want to have a boyfriend. there are plenty of guys out there who would be lucky to go out with you and who wouldn't do such idiotic things.
2007-08-01 11:05:21 · answer #6 · answered by shdw313 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well your guy sounds to me to be awfully immature, so in his case he is probably mainly interested in you for your body more than for your mind.
Later on as you get older, you will meet plenty of guys who have much more on their mind than just SEX. So I hope that you will recognise that not ALL guys are alike.
All guys are capable of treating their girlfriends ( or wives)with respect. All you girls need to do is require it of them. If the guy is resistant to the idea of respecting you, then he can be categorized as NON-BOYFRIEND material until he learns how to treat a lady. If you told him & he doesn't get it, then SHOW HIM you mean business, or get used to being treated in a way that you don't like. The choice is yours.
2007-08-01 11:13:56 · answer #7 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a good rule of thumb for seeing if a guy's statement of "I love you" and his actions really gel together is this.........If he really loves you, he'll wait. He won't act like a moron and say, "I'll show you mine if you show me yours." From the brief description you gave, I don't think he loves you. I think he's trying to figure out what you want to hear - as if there is a password that will let him in your pants. If he really loved you, he would respect you. Sorry, but I think you should find another guy - one who actually loves you, cares for you, and respects you.
2007-08-01 11:08:01 · answer #8 · answered by Eastern US Guy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You never do anything sexual unless you are completely ready to do it (and you are sober). If he is harassing you to go beyond your boundaries, tell him "no, you are not ready for that". If you feel you are not ready, then you are not. You will regret it if you give in.
If he doesn't listen to you, break up with him. He doesn't respect you and the two of you are looking for two different types of relationships.
2007-08-01 11:07:53 · answer #9 · answered by Contessa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wanna see mine instead? LoL...just kidding... i don't know why your bf did that... it's a fact that he's an idiot... but only if you didn't like it. if a girl would tell me i wanted to see something.... i would say... "can i take a picture?"
LoL.
you won't really know what a guy would want untill you get to "know" him... and when that happened.. you're already too late. So it's just a matter of luck.
2007-08-01 11:13:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have no idea why, maybe he was trying to show off? But thats just creepy and random. Try doing less stuff that makes it seem like you want to have sex (if you are)
2007-08-01 11:04:54 · answer #11 · answered by Carla Bund 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋