I havent been single in a while. I plan on going out to a bar or club tomorrow night and I was wondering what were some good conversation starters to use when walking up to a girl. I seem to always pick the wrong things to say, meaning i sound like im interviewing her.
2007-08-01 10:58:26 · 12 answers · asked by Cizzers 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Never ask a girl how to pick her up! They wont be honest because their cultural and societal influences tell them they should be attracted to ________.
But their DNA does the deciding for them.
Women DO NOT know what they are really attracted to, or either it is a guilty secret. So don't ask them because their advice will put you on the "No-sex" friends program.
Trust me, brother.
You are interviewing her, to see if she will be a suitable sex buddy. Just kidding!
The ice-breaker is the most critical part of being successful with women. Did you know they make a subconscious decision to maybe boink you or not in the first 30 seconds?
Its true. So just act confident and curious and don't use any played lines. Just make up a story about something funny that happened to some girl who was wearing something that SHE is wearing or something stupid. Just keep your part short and get her telling a story as quickly as possible. Bimbos love to talk, especially about themselves, so it ain't that hard. Just be interesting enough to get them talking. Smile but not big or toothy. Be a little sarcastic, but only in a slight, joking way. Be funny if you can. Remember, ALL girls like a guy who is:
1- Funny, but not a spazz or a comedian
2- Confident; self-sure, but not arrogant
3- Smart, but not a nerd or brainiac.
4- A good listener -- but don't kiss as$ and agree with everything.
...its all about nuance. Be like a Bruce Willis character, basically.
...and be decent-looking or compensate by being a really sharp dresser with good hair, etc...
Be impeccably neat and clean, most girls dont like slobs.
Good luck, player!
2007-08-01 11:14:29 · answer #1 · answered by Tommy B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give any cheesy pick up lines or come on to strong. Find something that the two of you can have an actual conversation about. You don't usually want it to seem like you've set out to get her, keep it casual. Make her laugh. Don't offer to pay for her drink until you've already been in a conversation. Try to get eye contact from the start, if she responds with a smile or at least not looking away disgusted, you may be in luck.
2016-04-01 08:44:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to keep it really simple and don't invade her space...Be friendly but don't ogle her up and down. I like it when a guy comes up to me and asks me how i'm doing...if i'm having a good time and introduces himself...
Also, compliment her...but don't go overboard and don't be rude..Like always compliment a girl on her face...keep it neck and above. Example..." I just wanted to let you know i think you have the most beautiful eyes....smile....hair...etc...I love that. Girls tend to feel like an object and awkward when commented on their bodies.
And you neeeed to pay attention to how she's responding to you, her body language, how much she's taking part in the convo or not....If she's interested she'll get closer to you, ask you questions....her eyes will light up. If a girl turns away, answers questions with 1 word answers...or just plain says she's not interested....that's it..she's not interested...not playing hard to get.
Give her her space.....don't follow her around like a little puppy...and don't be grabby...guys can be horrible for that.
So i hope any of this has helped...and it's a club...so keep it light....and hopefully you'll get a number and then you can get to know someone better.
2007-08-01 11:12:23 · answer #3 · answered by Scooby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ask so many questions, just go up and introduce yourself. "Hi, I'm so and so, what's your name?" Don't say any cheesy lines like "Your beauty struck me from far across the room, I couldn't help but come up to you." Those hardly ever work. Maybe later on in the conversation you could give her a nice compliment. After the introductions, offer to buy her a drink.
If you go planning a conversation, it's not going to work. It's best to just let the conversation flow....so being a little unprepared is the best way to go. It's not so great when a guy approaches you and his lines seem rehearsed.
2007-08-01 11:04:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just approach her calmly and don't stare at her awkwardly than ask if you can buy her a drink.
If she is interested she will accept and you can strike up a conversation while she works on her drink.("So are you having fun tonight" "whats your name"...simple conversation)
If she is not interested she will a) take the drink and walk away, b) deny you the oppurtunity to buy her a drank lol
Good Luck
2007-08-01 11:03:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really shouldn't be meeting girls in bars. They aren't the nicest of females or they aren't acting like they would in normal situtaion.
You sound like a nice...but slightly desperate....guy. Try meeting girls in other places like your job or friends...these are place where you'll really meet someone.
2007-08-01 11:04:59 · answer #6 · answered by imaprincess 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A simple "Hi my name is.." goes along way. When you see a girl your interested in make eye contact and you will instantly know if she is interested she will smile.
2007-08-01 11:04:28 · answer #7 · answered by Corinne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drink a lot and then goto the dance floor and find a chick who looks like she wants to dance.
2007-08-01 11:02:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
*thenks* well, ive never been to a club yet!! haha, but i wud dance weth her, then offer to buy her a drink, or ask her whut her fav drenk wus, if she lieks u then u dunt have to woree bout aneythin aha *smiles* ♥
2007-08-01 11:01:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
**walk up to a girl**** Is your name Katie? Cause my friend told me there was a beautiful girl named katie and you fit the description...
2007-08-01 11:01:46 · answer #10 · answered by Carla Bund 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋