I"ve been dating the BF for over a year. He has several single female friends that I'm okay with him having.... I do however object to them staying at his apartment over night . He tells me I'm being irrational and should just trust him . I say that if he had any respect for my feelings he'd not do somthing that upsets me so . I'm not asking him to give up his friends .. Just Nix the overnighters.... the friend in question lives about a hour away and he says it's rude to expect her to drive home.... I say It's only a hour.... What do you guys think
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2007-08-01 10:55:41 · 18 answers · asked by Mel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is his friend since he was thirteen but honestly it has no baring on my feelings... I don't want any single female staying at his house without me there period. And nowhe wont relent and I have no intention of bowing down on this Issue...... So now what ?
2007-08-01 12:11:33 · update #1
I think you are right. You don't know for sure if anything is going on between him and these girls, but you BOTH know that this activity bothers you.
Bottom Line - He should respect your feelings more than the gal pal's feelings.
2007-08-01 11:02:49 · answer #1 · answered by Contessa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Compromise... say that's fine she can spend the night but I wanna spend the night too... then you guys can stay up all night talking watching movies playing games whatever. Then you'll both develop a stronger deeper relationship, and you never know you may even up liking the girl as a friend too.
2007-08-01 11:01:36 · answer #2 · answered by Kathlyne N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's worried about the long drive, she needs to head home a little earlier. It is not irrational for you to not feel comfortable with your bf having girls sleep over. If he's all that worried about you trusting him, maybe he should earn that trust by being a little bit more concerned about your feelings.
2007-08-01 11:02:01 · answer #3 · answered by SewConnie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would act the same way. If my BF had girls sleeping at his house I would go into major jealousy mode and I would be soooooo mad. I'm not sure how to fix your problem though. If he won't listen to you and he keeps doing it then theres not much you can do. You could just trust him more or maybe you could spend the night at his house too when this girl was hteir and do night patrol! lol!!! and good luck with the BF!!!!!
2007-08-01 11:00:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm with you. if she had any respect for your relationship she would be too. relationships always take a little work, though. you have to make your BF realize that. there has to be some give and take on both sides. the fact that you are ok with the girls being there in the first place is enough to show you trust him. now it's his turn to show he cares about your feelings.
2007-08-01 11:01:13 · answer #5 · answered by JEWfan2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is called trust..If you are secure in your relationship and haven't noticed a connection between the two.( I assume that you also are around the 2 of them when she is in town.) You must either trust the BF or dump him. But don't be a fool. There are signs.... you can tell if he is messing around. If you are not included in the "visits" then I'd be thinking the same thing.
2007-08-01 11:00:31 · answer #6 · answered by Iknowalittle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you ain't being unreasonable. Why are the girls sleeping over when they know he has a gf? It shouldn't even be a question, if he loves you, he will do all in his power to prevent you from being jealous and upset. This is an obvious situation and you should expect him to act better. You are not being unreasonable.
2007-08-01 11:01:32 · answer #7 · answered by veryvengy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. I would feel uncomfortable with my guy having a single female stay at his place over night too. No matter how far away they live
2007-08-01 10:59:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Easy.the overnights stop an hours drive or not, he shouldnt even be asking you this..... all it takes is one drunk night out back to the flat and before you know it you walk in on them both in the same bed
2007-08-01 11:10:53 · answer #9 · answered by sadistic_bondagelover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's good for the goose is good for the gander!! Invite one of your guy friends over and have him stay! Give him a taste of his own medicine! Things are usually much clearer when the shoe is on the other foot.
2007-08-01 11:00:37 · answer #10 · answered by lulu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋